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Watching "Spring Day Delays And Departures", I still like Wu Yating, and I like her big grin and free personality.
I thought that a woman like her should be more bold in her feelings, but I did not expect that when it came to feelings, Wu Yating said that she was not qualified to accept love anymore, and she was a little inferior:
"I don't want to accept another love, and the main reason is because I don't feel like I have the time or qualifications to accept another love. I will feel that there is no need to have another love, that is, there are many better options, why choose me? ”
Faced with David asking her if she feels that she is not worthy of a good love, Wu Yating still refuses, she is very inferior, she feels that men like David should have better choices, why choose her?
The subtext is still that I don't deserve it.
Wu Yating said: "When you need to further develop, how can you face your body calmly? Whether it's the sagging breasts, or the extra flesh that accumulates on the stomach, or the scars of the caesarean section, it must be a very big blow to me, or to the mother who has given birth. You are equivalent to going from a teenage girl to a woman that you don't think is a woman or even a little ugly. Whoever told you it was okay, you were still excellent, you were still good-looking, but how do you face it? How do you make people face it? ”
Wu Yating felt that she was not good-looking, not so perfect, even if she still looked young and beautiful, but the scars on her stomach reminded her that she had already given birth. I don't know if she was rejected in a past marriage, which is why she has not accepted some of the changes in her body after childbirth.
In fact, every woman who has given birth to a child will experience this to a greater or lesser extent.
Some mothers have a hard time giving birth, but their stomachs were stretched so much at that time, so that their bellies could no longer be as tight as those of young girls, and they would have small bellies. Some small bellies are still good, and some pregnant women will have stretch marks that cannot be faded on their stomachs, and the navel is ugly. Of course, there will also be a mother who is no different from before birth, and how your body will change due to childbirth is also related to your personal constitution.
Like Wu Yating, she produced two by caesarean section, and there will naturally be scars on her stomach.
Personally, I feel that I still have to accept these changes in my body, these physical changes are normal, and don't feel that with these, I will be rejected by others. A man who really loves you will not care about this, and I understand that she wants to present her best side in front of the person she loves, but you must understand that no one is perfect, why do you have to demand that you be so perfect?
There is no need, in the face of physical changes due to procreation, it is good to accept it calmly.
If you don't let go of yourself psychologically, how dare you fall in love freely?
It's not that you're unqualified, it's not that you don't deserve to be loved, it's that you're too inferior, you're too demanding of yourself, and you look down on yourself.
Why bother? Have you been brave enough to be divorced? Don't belittle yourself in this way, you think you are not qualified to accept a new love, which is the same as the traditional view that "a woman who marries for the second time is not expensive", is it not a meaning?
Is it not true that a woman who has divorced should be looked down upon?
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I really think Wu Yating is a very good girl, she is a good match for David.
We secular people recognize that the model of happiness is very simple: find the right person, and then live with the right person. If something goes wrong in the middle, others can immediately find a sense of superiority in front of you.
But anyone who has experienced marriage knows that it's too hard to find the right person and end up with the right person. How many couples are lucky enough to do this?
Marriage is also trial and error at some times, let you grow from it, let you wake up what kind of person is not suitable for yourself, some people are destined to accompany you for a while, he is a guest in your life rush.
Don't put down the past, you and he have divorced, you still deserve good love, don't be unconfident. I don't know why Wu Yating and Wang Quexin divorced? Wang Quexin also called her a roommate, but I think Wu Yating is really good, she is a very good woman, a woman to take two children, it is not easy.
As for Wang Quexin, he was really relaxed, divorced, and he could justifiably throw his two children to Wu Yating.
Women have their own children, so she can't be as free as men, men divorced, can restore their free body, do whatever they want, and when they go to find it again, they will not be disliked, because they will rarely have children. But women are different, and divorced women can't do it so easily, especially single mothers with children.
I am particularly distressed about some single mothers who not only have to carry the burden of life, but also the pressure of parenting.
Why did Wu Yating come out to participate in a variety show?
In the end, in order to earn money, she has to support two children, what if she doesn't come out? What is enough of that little living expenses given by men? You also want to give your children a better life, so you can't force yourself to come out, force yourself to tell those sad and unwilling divorce past.
I don't think Wu Yating deserves love, on the contrary, I think she deserves good love.
Whether a person deserves good love or not depends on what kind of woman she is? Wu Yating's appearance is pure and beautiful, her personality is also very good, and she is so sensible and self-motivated, and a good woman with so many beautiful qualities is not worthy of love.
Don't be self-deprecating, don't look down on yourself because you have been divorced and have children, learn to accept, learn to be self-consistent, that is you, that sad feeling is also your past, but what is the matter? You can't look down on yourself because of this.
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Let's talk about another topic: is a woman who has divorced and had children not deserve to be loved?
I have never felt unworthy, and it is up to the two of you to decide for yourself, as long as you can talk about it, and both parents are blessed, there is nothing wrong with it.
Jia Jingwen and Xiu Jiekai are almost ten years old, and the two people are not very happy after marriage? Moreover, Jia Jingwen also gave birth to two daughters for Xiu Jiekai. The days are your own, don't care too many others, the important thing is that you feel happy. There is also Zhong Liti and Zhang Lunshuo, the difference between the two people is 12 years old, and the family is also living happily. In addition, Yi Nengjing and Qin Hao, after they got married, Yi Nengjing risked the risk of an elderly motherhood and gave birth to a daughter to Qin Hao, and her life was also very comfortable.
True happiness is yourself, and whether it is suitable or not is also up to you.
Don't care what others think of you, don't demean yourself, be confident, you have to know that you're good.
Those who say that divorced women are not worthy of love are really very malicious to women. People are not worthy of love, do you need to manage? In other people's affairs, it is not your turn to point fingers, and at the same time, you cannot look down on yourself. You can get good love, you are entitled to have, it depends on whether the man really loves you, as long as he loves you, he accepts you, that is a matter that belongs to both of you, others can't control.
Divorced women, the standard of happiness is in your own hands, don't let others define it.
You deserve love, as long as you succeed and have the ability, the man he is willing to love you, you deserve all the good things in this world.
Bless Wu Yating, I hope she can let go of her heart knot and embrace happiness as soon as possible.
Life is short, don't look down on yourself, you are very good, very good, worthy of being loved.
Today's topic: Do you demean yourself because you have divorced and had children? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.