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The word "inner volume" is now everywhere and applies to everything from work, makeup, dressing, and parenting.
In the parenting world, "inner volume" is really too easy to make people anxious, the child's height, the child's physical development, the child's vocabulary, the child's academic performance, and even the child's hair volume can be "rolled up".
Those who can be involved are all concerned, and if they adhere to the Buddhist system, they will not be anxious because of this.
The baby in the nursery has begun to recognize letters and words, has been rolled up
After the baby was 3 years old, I sent the baby to a small nursery, and I was very happy to go to school for a month because of the epidemic.
Although the school is suspended, the teacher will still send some small activities or English homework in the group.
Yes, the children have now begun to do homework, the content of the homework is to record the same video according to the video sent by the foreign teacher, mainly to urge the child to speak English.
For this practice of the school, some parents expressed their disapproval, some parents believe that this is to increase the pressure on the child, and later the teacher can only emphasize many times that "homework punch card is voluntary", the child can complete it and do it together, if it can not be completed, it is not mandatory.
There is a child in the group, not only can do it, has begun to learn letters and words, every time the mother pushed the video, there are parents who follow the praise and say that it is "learning to drive to".
What do you think of the English homework assigned by the teacher to the children in the nursery?
I am also one of the parents, I think this form is good, after all, it is a foreign Chinese school, will definitely pay more attention to English teaching, the key I think every day to the child to watch some English videos, follow the teacher to read, learn a lesson, to establish a contextual foundation for children is helpful.
The children have a foreign teaching class every day in school, and when there is no suspension, they have to punch in English homework every day, which is a consolidation process, and this form is really good.
Parents can choose to let their children learn, every time I record a video for my child, I will ask the child's opinion and ask her if she can record an English homework video, she agrees to record, she does not agree, it is not mandatory.
After all, the child is too young to be mandatory.
In fact, the child happily agreed to record the video every time, and desperately imitated it.
But I did not think to let her know the letters and words, I think "what age to do something", the child to a certain age naturally to learn these things, I am worried that now learn, there may be two situations in the future: one is that the child's learning pressure is getting bigger and bigger, the child is more and more unhappy, the body and mind are hurt; there is also a child who is in early contact, but limited by age, limited understanding, but when the child really learns these knowledge, he has learned it. Therefore, the attitude of learning is relaxed, resulting in an illusion that he thinks he is very good, in fact, the understanding is not in place at all, which in turn delays the depth of children's learning.
For these two reasons, I personally feel that there is no need to put pressure on the child to let the child leave early, so that the child can do things according to the developmental node and at what age.
Mouth said, do not give the child pressure, behind the ground "dark poke and poke hard"
There is also a kind of parents who are very interesting, they say that they do not put pressure on their children, poke and poke hard behind their backs, and then show off their children's achievements.
There is such a grandmother in the community, very strong.
After the babies are three years old, several babies in the community enter the kindergarten of the outer Chinese, first in the first half of the kindergarten, and then in the kindergarten.
The grandmother was dismissive of this, she said: I don't want to put so much pressure on my children, I Chinese kindergarten, and the pressure to learn is too much.
Every time I try to tell her: the school learning pressure is not great, the time to do games together is more, pay attention to the comprehensive cultivation of children.
She always insisted that there must be pressure to learn English at such a young age.
I couldn't get her to understand the concept of "edutainment" and gave up discussing it with her.
Later, once she invited us to her house as a guest, after arriving at her house, she began to let the children perform word recognition, she said: has begun to let the baby recognize words, the baby knows a lot of words, let her read Tang poems, read to her every day.
It turned out that she worked hard every day in secret, urging the child to learn Chinese characters and read Tang poems, although the child did not recognize the words, but when the little finger pointed at the Tang poems, she could also read almost, but the words could not be matched.
After all, this grandmother was still "rolled".
She asked me about my baby's literacy, I shook my head and said I hadn't taught it, but she would recite more than 20 Tang poems, and now she doesn't recite it, and she is still interested in more than 2 years old, and now I don't want to memorize it, and I haven't asked her.
Without heart, the grandmother later began to let the children recite Tang poems.
The inner volume has always come from one's own heart, and whether it is drawn up or not is also related to the individual.
This is especially true of children's educational methods, as long as parents relax their minds, do not compare, do not compete for anything, they will not be involved.
Parenting Buddhism is a little, parents are relaxed, and children are stress-free
I think that in terms of parenting, it is still necessary to be a little Buddhist, always keep yourself in a tight state, parents feel tired, children feel stressed, and mentally easy to tense, which is not good for children's character shaping.
Instead of paying attention to the child's achievements, it is better to pay attention to the child's habit cultivation, when the framework is established, after the habit is formed, the child's learning is a natural thing, the child's talent is naturally exceptionally good, the child's talent is average, and the parents do not have to worry too much.
Parenting should be child-centered, not parent-centered, find the right direction for the child, and don't put too much pressure on the child because of personal face.
Of course, Raising a baby in the Buddhist family is not completely disregarding the child's grades, and completing homework is the most basic requirement.
In addition, Buddhist baby raising is aimed at the result, not for the process, in the process of raising a baby, parents still have to invest a lot of energy, restrain their children to develop good habits, and become a self-disciplined person.
A relaxed parenting method can raise a child with a healthy heart.