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Marriage is one of the most important life events, and for everyone, it is a very happy thing to enter the palace of marriage hand in hand with another person.
Two people before marriage though love
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It is very sweet, but there is always no sense of stability, and only when you get married can this unstable state be changed.
When people are young, they often pursue perfect love, and although many people do not get a happy ending, they have no regrets, because the process is unforgettable enough.
Psychologist Maslow once divided human needs into 5 levels, the lowest level is physiological needs, which refers to meeting basic needs and maintaining the survival of individuals, that is, eating and wearing warm.
The second level is the need for security, which includes physical safety, psychological safety, etc., which people at this stage pursue universally
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A stable environment and not threatened by fear.
The third level is love and belonging, which people often get in love, marriage, and family.
The fourth level is respect for needs, that is, the affirmation of intrinsic values and the recognition of external achievements.
The fifth level is the highest level, that is, the need for self-actualization, and in this stage, people want to exert their self-ability and achieve their ideal ambitions.
As a social animal, everyone needs to live under the care of others, especially when individuals have negative emotions such as sadness and sadness, and they want to get the warm company of others.
Not only that, people's emotional cravings are far more detailed than physical needs, and different people's emotional needs will also be affected by their childhood experiences, personality characteristics and family factors. So which age group of women need men the most?
The well-known psychologist Eriksson proposed that individuals will face a process of intimacy and loneliness in early adulthood, and he is afraid of loneliness, so he yearns to establish a stable and long-term relationship to dissolve the emotions of loneliness.
If, during this period, the individual gains the right intimacy, then a great sense of security will be established in his heart, but if he does not receive enough love, benign chaos will be born.
The psychologist Sigmund (1856-1939, Austrian neuroscientist, psychiatrist, founder of psychoanalysis) on the basis of Erikson's theory, once again proposed that the identity established by the individual in adolescence allowed him to establish a stable and good intimate relationship with others.
The more secure he is in his heart, the more confidently he will pursue love and the person he likes, and then establish a better and stronger connection, if the identity is more chaotic, his attitude to life will be relatively negative, such as liking to be alone, not like to live in the crowd, unwilling to interact with people, lonely and lonely, and ultimately unable to integrate into the crowd.
So which age group of women need to have an intimate relationship with the opposite sex the most? Everyone has their own opinion on this issue.
A large number of people believe that women in their 20s and 40s are the most urgent
Establish an intimate relationship with men, because they need to find a man to rely on each other during this stage, if the individual has the idea of marriage and children, it is more necessary to find a man to achieve the goal together, and both parties can alleviate each other's financial pressure.
From a physiological point of view, women at this stage will secrete more female hormones, and the demand for sex will also increase.
Psychologists believe that in order to establish a long-term and stable intimate relationship between men and women, the most important thing is to be able to attract each other and meet the psychological needs of both parties.
According to the theory proposed by developmental psychology, people have different needs for love at different stages, and 20-year-old girls like the feeling of being loved, and their pursuit of love is more out of passion.
After the age of 30, the individual's physical and psychological development
More mature, but at this time, due to too many practical factors, 30-year-old women can not be as brave and fearless as the 20-year-old pursuit of love, everyone yearns for more stable and safe feelings.
Evolution shows that the optimal age of fertility for women is 25 years old, between 25 and 30 years old
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Intra-age groups, which secrete more estrogen, also means that this is the time period when they need men the most.
30-year-old women who are not yet married are often focused on their careers, although they are very strict with themselves and have more ambitious goals in their careers, but their hearts still long for someone to go hand in hand with them and create a small family of love.
Dry firewood, vigorous love is not necessarily what they want, women in their 30s care about love and belonging.
All in all, it is normal for people of different ages to have different requirements for love, and most women hope to meet their other half who like each other before the arrival of middle age, so as to establish a beautiful intimate relationship.
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References: Bruk, A., Scholl, S.G., &Bless, H. (2018). Beautifulmesseffect:Self–otherdifferencesinevaluationofshowingvulnerability. Journalofpersonalityandsocialpsychology，115(2)，192-205