There is always a difference between adults and children. Most of the things children do in childhood are imitations of the adults closest to them. Adults are almost all independent individuals, and they are rarely completely "similar", but children are prone to the phenomenon of "similarity". If you don't believe it, you can pay a little attention to see if the child's daily every move is particularly similar to the person who plays with the ta?
Children as children, they do not have independent thoughts, can not independently complete a lot of things, so often with the help of the power of their families, to complete the daily things. As time goes by and children become junior high school students, we will find that they not only have their own independent ideas, but also have their first private diary.
Do parents feel a little distance at this time? yes. Most parents feel as if their children suddenly grow up and don't need them anymore. This sudden need makes parents both happy and worried. Parents rejoice that my children have grown up, and worry about whether my children will no longer share the world with us parents after they have their own small space.
In fact, when a child enters puberty, there will be many changes, but no matter how it changes, he will always be our child. The thing parents can do well in advance is to maintain a good state of communication with their children.
After the child enters puberty, there will be a variety of fluctuations in the mood, and they will become very concerned about the eyes and sounds of the outside world, and at this stage, if the parents do not know how to correctly guide the child to spend it well. Then the child's future personality may appear more uncontrollable factors.
So what can parents do when their children are in adolescence?
1, in the face of adolescent emotional instability of children, first of all, we must let them calm down
Most parents and children are separated by a long age, so it is inevitable that there will be great differences with children's ideas. In the same matter as the child and themselves, if there is a dispute, what parents can do is not to blame the child loudly, but to guide the child, first let the child calm the excitement, and then patiently listen to the child's inner thoughts.
2. Maintain a smooth communication channel, so that children feel that parents can always be the best choice for themselves
No matter how busy we are at work, I hope that parents can stop the pace of their children by taking a few small steps forward and listen to what our unreserved children are saying. As long as we are diligent enough to establish communication channels with children, then no matter how old the child is and what happens, they will always choose to share and talk to their parents at the first time.
3. Treat children equally and become the most iron friends with children
Treat children equally, so that children feel that it is a very easy and pleasant thing to get along with their parents, as if they are comfortable with their peers and classmates. Parents can disagree with some of their children's ideas, but give specific reasons. Of course, it is not something that parents think is bad, it is really bad. It is only before we want our children to obey, do we have to persuade the children in the way of adults, so that the children understand why this matter has to listen to us, why this matter has to be so correct.
epilogue:
Blood-linked affection is the most precious treasure in this world. As adult parents, the good thing we can do is to learn how to communicate and get along better with our children through continuous learning. In order to help children pass through puberty smoothly and smoothly.
Thank you for reading "Teacher He's Educational Notes", and hope that parents in the world can become the best friends with their children and help their children successfully pass through adolescence.