Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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Watching "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", at the beginning is the conflict of encounter, followed by the temptation before the heartbeat, the excitement after the heartbeat, and the sweetness after the confession.
Then the problem comes, after all, no matter how sweet the relationship, there will be problems. The difference is that if you handle it well, you can continue to love each other. If you don't handle it well, you can only go your separate ways.
And in these separations, there are many people who do not really love, but have misunderstandings, each standing on their own position, unable to see the true thoughts in each other's hearts.
But the performance on the surface is often misplaced, or people can't understand the real reason. It is difficult to guess by guessing alone.
This is actually the reason why many people obviously like or love each other, but in the end they can't get together.
Because I like it or not, sometimes I don't listen to the other party's own words, and I don't dare to confirm it casually. If you want to ask, you don't have the courage, you are afraid of being sentimental, you are afraid of being wrong, you are afraid of being punched in the face, you are afraid of embarrassment, you are afraid that your friends will not have to do anything and lose contact.
But the other side felt: I have already shown it obviously, why can't he see it? Why is there no response? Am I having no idea about it? Then I still stop and forget, so as not to be able to have any intersection with him as soon as I confess...
Thinking like this, this relationship naturally can't start, or can't go smoothly. Eventually they have a new lover, and each other's thoughts become a secret, just like neither of them has ever moved their hearts, and it is possible that two people will not know each other's crush or like each other for the rest of their lives.
Such a situation does not sound like a pity, indeed.
Then if you have already made it clear to each other's intentions, are already together, but have caused misunderstandings about each other's hearts, so as to gradually drift away, it is naturally regrettable.
Just like Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue in the play, they obviously like each other very much, and they have reached the point of meeting their parents and officially going to talk about marriage, and suddenly Gu Wei's work has a problem.
Because the patient's condition was critical, he did not wait for the family to sign the operation, which was originally a life-saving act, but was all kinds of difficulties by the family, believing that it was Gu Wei's responsibility that the patient did not wake up after the operation, and the more he made a fuss, he was sent to the Internet, all kinds of accusations and insults.
The work could not continue, originally sent to Germany for further study, just can go with the Lin School for a year, the result can not go, but also was suspended, almost lost the job.
Extremely stressed, the situation was depressed, Gu Wei was also a little flustered for a while, and wanted to say it to Lin Zhixue several times, but he was always interested in discussing the topic of them going abroad together to interrupt and prevent them.
So when he saw the parents in this link, Gu Wei, who was "pushed away" in a trance, behaved very badly, and when Father Lin asked him if he could take good care of Lin Zhixue and when he planned to get married, he could only say that he didn't plan for the time being, and could only say that he was afraid that he would not be able to take care of her now...
The meeting was not happy and dispersed, Lin Zhixue asked him to explain, he could not say, can only say: "Don't ask, don't think about it." Such words are naturally useless, and they will only make the other party more sad.
The performance is obviously that he has withdrawn and regretted it, and the explanation has not been given, and anyone who mistakenly thinks that he has changed and regrets does not want to continue.
Seeing that Lin Zhixue was crying with tears all over his face, the audience was anxious, thinking that Gu Wei did not explain at this time? Why not just say it?
At this time, his brother also happened to encounter an incident, and took the coffee shop he opened with his girlfriend Sansan to mortgage the investment, thinking that he would make a steady profit and not lose money, and the result was a loss.
For a while, I didn't know how to be good, and I didn't dare to tell Sansan, I could only not see her, did not answer her phone, and like Gu Wei, temporarily chose not to explain and not to explain clearly, and let the other party guess for himself.
Many people think that this is not right, and indeed it is, and there are things that need to be said to face together.
But when things really come to themselves, they will understand that not daring to say it is also a manifestation of care, afraid of hurt, afraid of dragging, afraid of being blamed, afraid of being abandoned, it is possible to make themselves unable to open their mouths.
For example, Gu Wei, he is afraid to say it and affect Lin Zhixue to go to Germany, because the opportunity to go is rare, this is her dream, her future, her own affairs said, she may also choose not to go, so it is a big loss for her, is a big turning point in the road of life.
On the other hand, he doesn't have a job now, there are stains, it's not easy to find a job again, there are psychological shadows and pressures, and he is really afraid that he can't take care of her like this.
These thoughts and concerns are understandable, but it is still wrong to conceal them, because the choice should be left to the other party to do, otherwise even if it is "for the good of the other party", it is not appropriate. Emotionally misunderstanding people, causing the other party to think wildly and cry sadly, is also a very hurtful thing.
Disappearing without having the courage to open your mouth, refusing to communicate and contact, is an act of evasion that only cowards can have. Since you love each other, face things together, and admit that you will solve your mistakes, it is a benign emotional relationship and an attitude that adults should have when they are in love.