In particular, I can understand the anxiety and helplessness of this parent.
I am a junior high school teacher, and I often encounter such situations, and there are many children of this type among my students.
It is really difficult for such a child to correct, and if you want to be effective in a short period of time, there is really no way and method to achieve immediate results.
Such children are roughly the same in terms of performance characteristics:
One is that it is more bored with learning;
Second, poor academic performance;
Third, the rebellion is relatively strong;
Fourth, the mood fluctuations are larger;
Fifth, the behavior habits are not good.
But in fact, there is a big difference between these children.
Each child's family background is different, the growth environment is different, and the educational experience is different, so there will be greater differences in nature.
To fundamentally change this type of child, it is necessary to understand the child's family background and upbringing.
Since I don't know much about your family environment, family education, and your child's upbringing, and your educational experience, I can only give you the following suggestions from the conventional aspect, hoping to help you.
First, for such a child, it is useless to rely only on scolding and preaching. Sometimes swearing and preaching excessively can backfire. Therefore, it is recommended that you adjust your mentality, change the family atmosphere, do not scold for the time being, and do not teach endlessly, first create a more relaxed and free environment for your child, so that he can self-adjust and self-sort out in a relaxed environment.
Second, changing an environment may be able to change a mood, a different state of mind, and may be able to change the child's situation. There are two aspects of consideration, the first aspect: consider giving the child a new school, leaving the original confined environment, changing to a new environment, contacting new teachers and new classmates, and perhaps the child will have new changes. The second aspect: consider giving your child a temporary break from school for a while. Since the child is very tired of school, the learning attitude is not correct, and the rebellion is very strong, at this time, forcing him to go to school, and then scolding and preaching, can only make things worse and worse. Let him temporarily take a break from school for a while, and parents can spend as much time as possible to accompany and help, and may be able to truly change their children psychologically.
Third, you can learn from the practice of one of my parents. His child is basically in the same situation as your child. He took the children on a temporary suspension from school, and then took the children on a longer trip, that time they went to many places, from bustling cities to remote mountain villages, all the way to the farthest border in the northwest and the most border in the southwest. During the journey, the family got along very well, the family affection was also eased, and there was more communication and communication between parents and children, more care and understanding. Soon after returning from the trip, the child volunteered to go to school. Now he is still studying, and he is doing very well in all aspects, and his academic performance has also improved greatly.
In fact, the performance of children is inseparable from their own family environment and family education.
Therefore, if you want to completely change such a child, the parents themselves must first change, only parents can find out the problems in education from themselves, and can make up their minds to change their family environment and education methods, perhaps they can better change the children.