Every parent hopes that the child will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix, but in the way of educating the child, they often act casually, and the result is that they hurt the child and regret it.
If parents find that their education methods are not too scientific, take advantage of the child's young age, correct it in time, and educate the child in the right way, otherwise, the child is older, and in adolescence, it will be very rebellious and difficult to be excellent.
The following three ways of education do not produce excellent children
1. Roaring education
In real life, we can always see such a scene: the child cries loudly and noisily, the adult amplifies the voice to rebuke, trying to suppress the child's voice, and the child hears the adult's voice, the louder the crying will be. It doesn't end until one party stops.
In the midst of children crying, the loud yelling and reasoning of parents are not as effective as lower voices, and the more critical and reprimanded the topic, the better the low voice effect.
Because the low voice helps to alleviate the hostile tension between the two sides, the low voice gives people the feeling of being rational, and the child whispering to the conversation is actually suggesting that the child, the parent's attitude is very solemn, you have to listen carefully.
Therefore, whisper education can create conditions for further persuasion of children, and loud rebukes, hoarseness and exhaustion of the child's impact on the child, either the extreme temper of rebellion is difficult to manage, or listen to everything, the child grows up to be assertive, cowardly, timid.
2. Nagging education
In life, moms are more likely to nag than dads.
Mothers care too much about their children, repeatedly telling one thing, for example, when it is cold, wear more clothes, write homework first and then play, etc., repeat the words every day, or repeat the words in a short period of time, which will make the child feel "really nagging" and automatically block what the mother says.
Or the child makes a mistake, and the mother repeatedly criticizes the child, which will also make the child impatient and cannot play the role of criticism education.
Adolescent children are often rebellious because their parents are too nagging, and the more parents talk, the less the children listen. Because the nagging exceeds the limit of what the child can bear, the child cannot listen to it at all.
3. Negative education
Parents always deny their children, and children are prone to inferiority. He did not dare to express his own views, even if his views were right and very correct, he did not dare to say them.
Parents should dare to affirm their children and send a positive message of "you must do it" to their children, and their children will become more and more confident.
On the contrary, parents always deny their children and will send a negative message of "you can't do it" to their children.
Whether a child can be confident depends largely on the attitude of parents and teachers to their children.
In particular, some parents also like to criticize their children in public, and exposing their children's shortcomings in public will greatly hurt their children's self-esteem and make children feel landless.
The older the child, the more face-loving, and not respecting the child to deny and criticize the child will make the child resist.
It is often said that the child will become the appearance of the parents' mouth, each child has advantages and disadvantages, parents can magnify the child's advantages, weaken the child's shortcomings, so that the child will become more and more excellent.
Therefore, if you want to make your child good, you should affirm and praise the child more, and criticize and deny the child less. Children need the approval, affirmation and encouragement of their parents. But it should also be noted that praise should be specific, from the heart, not as an exaggeration.
epilogue
If you want to cultivate excellent children, you must avoid yelling education, nagging education, and negative education.
Try to lower your voice, say less and do more, affirm the child more, after a period of time, you will find that the child changes, and the parent-child relationship is more harmonious.
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