Now that men and women are already equal, this is clearly stipulated by the law, and there should be no more preference for sons. Women's achievements in certain fields are far better than men's, and what reason can men look down on women?
Since men and women are equal, boys and girls are the same, and parents cannot prefer sons to daughters. However, after all, in real life, some parents will prefer sons to daughters. This is mainly because they abide by the old tradition, the old tradition is that the son stays at home to pass on the generations, and the daughter is married.
After the daughter marries out, she is the person of the in-laws' family, and only the son stays at home, so the parents will prefer sons to daughters. Girls born in patriarchal families have no family status, are not loved by their parents from an early age, and some are subjected to blindness and discrimination.
Therefore, girls must have self-esteem and self-reliance, study hard, and keep improving themselves. Only when a person is self-reliant can he survive on his own, and can he ignore the preference for sons and daughters. In a patriarchal environment, girls cannot be too submissive and must strive for their own rights.
The 30-year-old girl wanted to buy a pre-marital house, and her parents came to stop her
Magnolia's parents are very patriarchal, when Magnolia was born, the state implemented family planning, neighbors are only children, only Magnolia's parents secretly gave birth to sons. Because of this son, the family fined some money, so the parents especially loved their son.
Since the birth of her brother, Magnolia has become dispensable at home, good things are for her brother, and all the things she does are Magnolia's. His father would often scold Yulan, especially after Yulan and her brother had a conflict, and her parents always blamed Magnolia for not being right.
Yulan was very wronged at home, and she had nowhere to complain, so she had to study hard, so her academic performance has been very good. But after graduating from junior high school, her parents refused to let her study, let her go to work, and asked her to earn her dowry money.
After Yulan went to work, her heart still longed to study, so she applied for the adult self-study exam. Later, she worked part-time and studied at the same time, and after obtaining a college diploma, she changed jobs and then continued to take self-study exams. After several years of hard work, Magnolia graduated from undergraduate and found a good job.
Because the parents are too fond of the younger brother, the younger brother is particularly willful, and he cannot suffer at all. When he was studying, he was not good at reading, he did not even pass the high school examination, his parents found him a job, but he did not have a good job, and he was expelled not long after he did it. Later, my brother mixed things around, sometimes going to do odd jobs.
Yulan met her boyfriend while working, the two had a good relationship, and after talking for nearly three years, Yulan took her boyfriend home to meet her parents. But the parents did not agree to this family affair at all, because the boyfriend's family conditions were not very good, and he could not come up with 200,000 dowry money.
The boyfriend is a person with strong self-esteem and took the initiative to break up with Magnolia. The parents helped Yulan find a new object, and the object's home conditions were very good, and he was willing to pay 200,000 dowry money. But Magnolia doesn't like this object, this object is short and fat, and Magnolia can't forget her ex-boyfriend!
Her parents forced Yulan to marry this object, but Yulan did not agree, and her father was so angry that she beat Up Yulan. Later, Yulan has been living in the dormitory of the unit, rarely going home, she does not fall in love, she just thinks about a good job.
In the blink of an eye, Yulan is 30 years old, and the peers around her are all married, only she is still single. Yulan decided to take out a loan to buy a house, she saved enough money to pay the down payment, she wanted to have her own house, then whether married or not, she had a home of her own.
Just as Magnolia was looking around at the house, her parents learned that she was going to buy a house and immediately rushed to stop her. The mother was very angry, saying that the girl's family wanted to buy a house, and after marrying her in-laws, there was a house, and there was no need to spend this unjust money.
His father asked Yulan to take out the money she was going to buy a house for her brother to buy a wedding house, and Yulan had to help the family reduce the burden. Because the family did not have money to buy a marriage house for the younger brother, the younger brother could not even say an object, and the parents were going to die.
In fact, the younger brother can't say the object, not only because he has no money to buy a marriage house, but mainly because the younger brother is not a tool, and the people are mixed, and the girls can't look up to him. The conditions at home were ok, but the younger brother always went to eat, drink and have fun with a group of fox friends, gambled, and squandered the family's money.
Now, her parents want Magnolia to hand over the money, and Magnolia is unwilling. The money was earned by her hard work, and in order to save money, she has been thrifty. She was reluctant to buy clothes, reluctant to buy good food, she wanted to buy herself a guarantee, so she wanted to buy a premarital house.
In the past few years, Yulan had given her parents the money she earned from part-time work, until she broke up with her ex-boyfriend, because she was angry with her parents, she was reluctant to give her salary to her parents. Because Yulan was unwilling to pay her salary, her parents quarreled with her many times, and now after hearing that Yulan wants to buy a house, her parents are furious.
The mother shed tears and snot, crying and scolding Yulan for having no conscience, she raised Yulan with hard work, but Yulan did not share her worries. Her father forced Yulan like a fierce god and asked her to take out the money, otherwise her parents would not finish with her.
In the end, Magnolia had to take out the money she was going to buy a house, and she was very cold, thinking that her parents had regarded her as a cash cow. When her parents took the money and left the dormitory where Yulan lived, Yulan secretly thought that the money bought out the last bit of affection between her and her parents.
In patriarchal families, girls have to defend their interests
People have to give to others and think about themselves, and if they don't even think about themselves, then who else will think about it for you? Yulan's parents are people with very heavy feudal ideas, they think that girls are married, and buying a house is a man's business, so the girl does not have to buy a house.
But the current marriage law stipulates that premarital property belongs to the individual. Magnolia bought a house before marriage, no matter what the future marriage is, this house will always belong to her and is her private property. She married into her in-laws' house and lived in her in-laws' house, and the in-laws' house was always her mother-in-law's house, not Magnolia's.
Magnolia's parents favor sons over daughters, and they ask magnolia to take out the money, and they use this money to buy a marriage house for their son. In their hearts, the son is always the first, the daughter must give to the son, and they sacrifice the interests of the daughter to complete the son.
Magnolia read the parenting grace of her parents and finally compromised. In fact, their own interests must be safeguarded by themselves, and happiness must also be fought for by themselves. At first, Yulan did not strive for her own happiness, and as a result, she missed her ex-boyfriend, so that she later became a "leftover woman".
Magnolia wants to buy herself a premarital house, which is the right thing to do. If conditions permit, the girl is to have a pre-marital room, then if she is not happy after marriage, she will not be afraid to file for divorce because of homelessness.
Brothers and sisters are meant to help each other, but it depends on what the situation is. Like the situation of the Yulan family, the younger brother is not a tool, eats, drinks and has fun, and goes to gamble, in this case to help him, it will only hurt him. Everyone has to rely on themselves, and only by working hard can they create a happy life.
In patriarchal families, no one thinks about the girl, and the girl has to think for herself. Parents raise their children, and children are filial piety, but they must also pay attention to a degree. For the eccentricity of parents, girls should safeguard their own interests and strive for their own happiness.
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