There is a saying in family education: whoever is anxious first loses...
In the process of taking children, mothers usually have stricter requirements, such as if the child goes to play in the mud water, gets the clothes and pants dirty, most mothers will be angry at the first time, anxious, and then stop the child.
Some fathers react in the opposite direction, choosing to step on it with their children.
The reason for this kind of disagreement is actually very simple, that is, the father is generally not responsible for the consequences of dirty clothes (washing clothes, washing children).
If taking children is regarded as a game battlefield (I have to say that the combat effectiveness of some bear children is indeed difficult to overcome), then the mother usually has to be responsible for logistics while stationed in the front line for a long time. The father is usually a supportive role, specializing in fighting aids and wandering on the edge of the battlefield.
Mothers who have been fighting for a long time are physically and mentally exhausted, more anxious, and relatively strict in their children's discipline. And fathers do not have continuous pressure, so as long as the children do not have major problems physically and mentally, they have less anxiety, more tolerance for their children, more open play, more freedom.
This is also the online "Daddy with baby, live is good." When the child is not in danger, the father is the biggest threat", the origin of this joke.
However, the child and the father together, really happy, can play with joy, but vigorously built.
Many fathers complain that the work is too busy, early and late, no time to accompany the children, although they do not want to "widowed marriage", "strange parent-child", but there is no way to work with the baby can not be both, there is really no way. In fact, for children, the real companionship is not the length of time, but also the quality of companionship.
You can't imagine how different your child is when you play with you, how happy you are when you are with your mother, and how attractive you are in the eyes of your child.
A Yale University study showed that children raised by fathers tend to have higher IQs, more confident, and better, and will be more likely to succeed in society.
The American philosopher Erich Fromm said in his The Art of Love: "The father is one of the children's mentors, and he points the child to the path to the world."
Dong Qing once said a sentence:
"Companionship is warm, and it means that in this world, someone is willing to give you the best thing, and that is time."
Whether it is a child or a father, companionship is the best gift for each other.
Among those fathers who do not accompany their children, some of them finally realize that all the beauty in the world is not worthy of the child's slight smile, so they strive to become an irreplaceable good father in the child's mind.
And some people, always holding the luck mentality, dragging and dragging, the child will grow up, can say to him, that is, the sentence: "Dad, what about my mother?" ”
Dear Dad, which one would you like to do?