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In the TV series "Heart Residence", Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, still broke up with Xiaoding after hesitating for a long time.
For this man who can bring herself a rich life, after finally getting along, she still feels that it is not appropriate.
Perhaps, for others, it was a pity, but for herself, she knew exactly what she wanted.
1. The life I pursue
In fact, if the original Feng Xiaoqin could be with Xiaoding, maybe she would not be so looking forward to another way of life.
After all, for a woman who married from Anhui to Shanghai, what she just expected was not a metropolis, but family harmony and happiness.
She has paid too much for her family. Every day, she did everything in her power to make her home better.
However, for the Gu family, she is a woman who has carved 'rewriting her destiny' on her face, and all she values from beginning to end is money.
Therefore, every time the contradiction broke out, it was actually a hand that pushed Feng Xiaoqin into the abyss, and after time and time again, she began to doubt her life.
However, she did not collapse because of this. She did a lot of what she wanted to do. Relying on his own wisdom and resilience, he has come to this day step by step.
At this time, as a single mother, she knew exactly what she wanted and what she should work for.
Therefore, there is only one reason why she can reject Xiaoding, that is, she is not willing to force herself to do what she does not want to do again.
As Feng Xiaoqin herself said: "What is a good day? What makes yourself happy is called a good day. ”
2. Patience, can it really bring the sea and the sky?
Many times, in fact, many people's concept of marriage has a problem. They all think that as long as it can give you a good life, it is a good love.
But the actual situation is that many people can only be friends, can not become a couple, if you have to let the two become a couple, then, they will definitely live a bad life.
I remembered watching a video before: "Under what circumstances, prove that you really married the wrong person?" ”
The first two conditions are a cliff-like drop in your material level and a rapid surge in your workload.
Obviously, when you are single, you can meet your daily needs without scruples, but because you choose the wrong person, life becomes a mess.
It is true that some people marry into the rich and seem to have become unattainable in their lives, but most of the time, it is just an illusion.
A real tycoon, what they need is a virtuous helper, a 'daughter-in-law' who can provide them with value.
So don't think that the dreams in fairy tales will come true one day, and even if there is one in ten million hopes, it will never come to your head.
3. Don't be with people who don't fit in
Some people say, "Isn't getting married just a partner?" When you get old, who you live with, how do you live, isn't it all a lifetime? ”
The reality is that it's completely different at all, and the feeling of living the rest of your life with someone you love is far more comfortable than living the rest of your life with someone you don't love.
I remembered a sentence I once read: "If you can't find a person who moves you in the first half of your life, in the second half of your life, find someone who satisfies your parents." ”
Surely some people will say, why should parents be satisfied? Didn't he say that you have to live for yourself and choose someone you like?
But if you are not even willing to accept each other, are not willing to bring each other to your parents, how can they be satisfied?
It's easy to say that I like this. Maybe we're just meeting for the first time and I can easily say I like you.
However, love is not enough, because it is a long-term process that needs to be run-in and considered through time and events.
If you have to be with someone you don't love, maybe he can bring you a good life, but he may not be able to bring you the life you want.
4. Don't let yourself regret it
Sometimes the difference between adults and children is that we know what we should want and how to get what we want.
In life or in love, don't force yourself, just make the choices you feel are right.
Life is alive, and it cannot be used for decades at a stroke of a finger. Love wrong is not afraid, remember to look back, don't let yourself regret it for a lifetime.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.