"In the World":
"The relationship of marriage naturally plays a role in fate. But the so-called fate is premised on the social hierarchy of the family. The super-level fate is not universal, and it is mostly directed by the abnormal era or the talented woman. ”
Zhou Bingyi's marriage to Hao Dongmei is like this. Many people think that in this unequal marriage, the most repressive is Bingyi, but it is actually Dongmei. It is also the death of Bingyi that finally allows Dongmei to put down her burden and truly liberate herself.
It is rare for an ordinary worker's family to marry a provincial and ministerial cadre's family, which is also directed by an abnormal era. Because Bingyi and Dongmei were classmates, when the Hao family was most difficult to defeat, the daughter Dongmei was pitiful, and Bingyi cared for and helped Dongmei as a worker's family.
At that time, it was obvious that the political status of the Zhou family was of course higher than that of the Hao family. However, after the Hao family was rehabilitated, everything changed, and the officials were immediately reinstated, and the Hao family became a high-ranking cadre family again;
The Zhou family is still an ordinary worker family, and it is still a disgraceful slum-like photon film. This also became an excuse for the Hao family to use inconvenient transportation and old age and death.
Fortunately, After graduating from Bingyi Peking University, he is eager to learn and self-motivated, looks great, and helps Dongmei at a critical time, and is truly in love with each other. Therefore, the Hao family agreed to the marriage of the two of them.
Because they could not live in the Zhou family when they got married, Dongmei was an only daughter (the whereabouts of the two brothers were unknown during the war years), and the Hao family was a high-cadre family, and the living conditions were relatively superior, so the younger two lived in the Hao family.
According to this, many people, including Bingyi himself, think the same way, he is like a door-to-door son-in-law, who has not been able to raise his head in front of everyone.
And every day under their eyes, everything is cautious and cautious, like walking on thin ice, like a little daughter-in-law.
Including all his later growth and progress, others attributed it to his mother-in-law's tutelage, and said that he advanced under the illumination of their aura. There may be a factor in this, but what makes him angry is that no one sees his efforts, which is what makes him most depressed.
But compared with Dongmei over the years, he is still slightly insignificant. After Dongmei proposed to divorce Bingyi, the following passage knows how difficult she is, and it is also her long-term emotional outburst:
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Zhou Bingyi, have you left me room for doing things, you have not! Because this home is centered on you, everything I have to revolve around you, so when you make any decision, you only think about yourself, because you have long been accustomed to this way of life. Yes, good wife, good daughter-in-law, good sister-in-law, but without myself. ”
"She obviously has a princess life, but she can't see a little princess disease."
From this passage, we can clearly see that although Dongmei is a high-ranking cadre, she can consider everything for Bingyi, for the Zhou family, and for the overall situation.
Dongmei's heart and eyes are very solid, and everything only talks about right and wrong, not about position.
She even quarreled with her mother because her parents did not go to the Zhou family, saying that they were not trustworthy and too snobbish. For this, he was also slapped by his mother.
You know, Dongmei is sandwiched between her relatives, which is very difficult: on the one hand, her beloved person Bingyi, she does not want Bingyi to make it difficult for Bingyi to be a person in front of her family because her parents do not move around with the Zhou family; on the other hand, her closest parents, although they know that they are not doing it right, they can't say too much.
Moreover, there is also the biggest pain and the biggest burden in her heart, that is, she can't have children, and she thinks that this is a place where she is sorry for Bingyi and the Zhou family. But how can this be her fault? Therefore, the burden she carried was too heavy, no easier than Zhou Bingyi.
Fortunately, Bingyi's death because of stomach cancer is liberating for Dongmei. Many people do not understand, saying that Dongmei is really ruthless and unjust, and Bingyi just died a few months before getting married again. Was her love for Bingyi so much in the past all an illusion? In fact, it is wrong to blame Dongmei.
After they all retired, they returned to the place where they met and loved each other, traveled abroad, and spent an unforgettable happy time, with no regrets at all.
And on the day of the wedding ceremony, she said to Zhou Rong:
"I made this decision for your brother; on his deathbed, he asked me to promise him to do so, and of course I needed to find a new home myself."
I believe that with Dongmei and Righteous people, these are all facts.
If you love someone, you want her to be happy for the rest of your life. Before Bingyi left, she hoped that Dongmei could still be happy, but Dongmei had no relatives, how could she live alone in the second half of her life? This is a question that Bingyi has been thinking about, so I have what Dongmei said above.
After remarriage,
When Bingkun accidentally saw Dongmei, he found that she was fatter than before, and her appearance was better than before.
This shows that she is now living very well, and everyone is blessed.
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On the contrary, it also shows that she was very tired before, and the death of righteousness made her let go of her burdens and finally be liberated, as if she was born again. Do you agree with me? The above content comes from Liang Xiaosheng's original work "The World of Man".