Falling in love is like making soup.
It needs to be simmered slowly to get a delicious old soup.
With the opportunity to communicate, two people should slowly understand, gradually adapt, and after they really know each other, the two sides will make a decision to choose. After thorough approval, each other will make up their minds to enter the marriage.
Although, falling in love is a trial-and-error process.
But for many girls, once they are ready to talk about love, they often completely accept this boy.
With the expectation of happiness, they will strive to complete the love of two people.
However, in love, the positions of two people often change. When pursuing girls, men are enthusiastic and active, but when two people have intimate contact, the man's initiative is missing.
In the face of men who are not slow and sick, girls will inevitably have anxiety. Especially when boys delay in announcing the relationship between two people, it is easy for girls to think that the other party has not really loved themselves.
So, what is the psychology of men?
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In the eyes of men, there is a difference between love and liking.
Like is different from love.
Especially for men, they will grasp this boundary better.
Even in the world of emotions, men can remain rational enough. When interacting with girls, men can distinguish between love and marriage, and will not confuse the two.
For example: if a man just likes a person.
He will only bother each other unscrupulously in the process of getting along. In the eyes of girls, such men often look a little naughty, or look bad.
But it is undeniable that men who do not have to restrain themselves are more likely to show their personal charm.
Conversely, if a man loves a girl deeply, they will behave differently.
When interacting with girls, because it is true love, men will be eager to announce the relationship between two people, and will also try to restrain themselves and be a better person, just to be worthy of the girl they love.
In men's minds, liking is the premise of love, but love is a more important feeling than liking. Unless they completely accept a girl, they will complete love at any cost and see each other as partners for the rest of their lives.
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Not giving you identity is often for these few reasons.
Love you and men will think it through for you.
If one day, he wins your heart, you agree to his pursuit.
This man will not only love you with his heart, but will also announce your relationship to the whole world. In this way, men will announce to those around you that you have mutual affiliation.
If you just like it, men tend to take a good measure and are reluctant to reveal your relationship too early.
Unless one day, the man makes up his mind to spend the rest of his life with you.
He will entrust a heart to you, and he will be eager to announce to everyone that you are his girlfriend and will be his wife and partner in the future.
As a girl, if you want to seize the lucky and long-term fate, you must understand the emotional psychology of men. In this way, in love, we can achieve the word "trade-off" and avoid falling into the quagmire of emotions and being led by the nose all the time.
Men associate with you, but do not recognize the relationship, will not give you "identity", can not do without these reasons.
Not ready.
The warming of feelings requires the precipitation of time.
Especially for a couple of newcomers, from acquaintance to love, to come together without hesitation, it needs to go through a process of tempering. Only by passing the test can two people hold hands and succeed.
Men are very rational and rarely act emotionally.
Even if there are many ambiguous actions in the interaction between men and women, if men are not prepared, they will not give girls a clear answer. Because at this time, men are not ready to love, and they are still in the stage of hesitation.
From a woman's point of view, is it possible for this boy to fall in love with himself?
The answer is often unknown, depending on the situation of the two people getting along, the man will also consider his own objective conditions. Only when they are ready will they make a trade-off for this feeling.
Women should understand that the most direct reason why men keep in touch with you but do not give you a name is that the other party is not ready and has not fully accepted you deep down.
If you pass the psychological level, he may be happy to introduce you to his relatives and friends.
Play with mindset.
Love is attractive.
After all, we are all sentient beings, and this life is inseparable from a "love" word.
What can the feelings between men and women bring to everyone?
When two people come together, they can dispel loneliness and share happiness in their interactions. Therefore, many single people hope to meet people who are in love as soon as possible and open a romantic two-person world with each other.
Does communication mean that the sky is long?
In the hearts of some men, this is not what they think.
Even if they keep in touch with girls, they are not ready to marry each other, just to meet temporary emotional needs, just with a playful attitude.
Therefore, even if two people get along for a long time, men will not take the initiative to give girls any name.
If she is pressed by a girl, the man will treat her with a perfunctory attitude, until one day, he can no longer prevaricate. At this time, some men will show their true face of not loving and choose to be separated from each other.
Short-term meal tickets.
In everyone's mind, love is sincere and pure.
In the process of talking about love, we all don't want fate to be tarnished by something.
But some people, with self-interested intentions, go into contact with a member of the opposite sex.
In the time that two people spend together, some men are not to complete love, but will stand on a personal point of view, hoping to get certain benefits from girls and meet personal interest needs.
This means that when a girl still has use value, men will continue to associate with her.
If one day, the use value of girls disappears, and men's needs cannot be satisfied, such men will leave without looking back. Because, he never loved each other, just regarded the girl as his meal ticket.
When encountering such a man, the best way to deal with it is to stop the loss in time.
Men love you and will try to fulfill you.
When the girl agrees to interact with each other, the man will be happy and will also announce the relationship between them. Whenever there is an opportunity, the man will also hold the girl's hand and walk in front of relatives and friends.
And the guy who has never loved you, may keep in touch with you, but won't give you hope.
In a relationship, how do girls grasp the positioning and where should they go? Everyone should not be deceived by sweet words, but should see the true face of the man from his actions, so as to make a choice.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.