How does the state of the parent relate to the state of the child?
The child's state is often a mirror image of the adult state. Children are born with the ability to imitate, which will make him subconsciously imitate the actions of those around him.
Every child is a replica of the parents, and the words and deeds of the parents are the imitation objects of the children. Therefore, every word and deed of parents and every move will affect the growth of children.
Visionary parents never educate their children with their mouths, but use their own practical actions to influence their children.
Want children to read, they pick up the book themselves first;
Hope that children develop good habits, they first set strict demands on themselves;
Hope the kids are kind and they are helpful in the first place.
Behind every good child are better parents. Being a better self is the best education for children.
You want your child to grow up, how you want your child to have a life in the future, then how to educate your child and cultivate your child.
Good parents are good at discovering their children's talents from the details of family life and guiding them in a timely manner, which is the way to achieve children's education.
Teaching in school, nurturing in the family, every parent is the best teacher on the road to children's growth.
In the face of the growing anxiety of family education, Zhu Yongxin, chairman of the Family Education Professional Committee of the China Education Association, believes:
The most fundamental thing is to improve the basic educational literacy of parents and advocate the educational concept of "adults are more important than talents, and happiness is more important than success". Parents should return happiness to their children.
How should I do this? Let's take a look at Zhu Yongxin's seven tips for happiness education.
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Companionship: Parents must find ways to accompany their children no matter how busy they are
Parents and children eat together, talk together, communicate and learn all the time.
Parents often talk about politics, and children may be interested in politics in the future; parents complain, children may have the emotion of complaining...
Many parents think that there is no point in talking to their children more, but in fact, what parents say, even if the child does not understand today, will become an important part of his brain.
More importantly, companionship and living together will determine whether the whole family has a common destiny.
A father is a very famous local entrepreneur, very busy, either invite people to dinner, or people invite him to dinner, and there is not much contact with his daughter.
After the child enters primary school, because of the participation in the new education experiment, the teacher of the new education experiment will write letters to the child's parents on a regular basis, once a week.
One of them is to require parents and children to read together, not only mothers but also fathers.
The father read 184 books with his children in 5 years.
He said that he didn't feel it at first, but after reading for a month, he found that reading was much more interesting than drinking, so he began to actively refuse to socialize and read with his children.
He said:
"In these 5 years, the children went to elementary school and I went to college."
Later, he talked with his children, and the medium was books.
Parents should find a way to accompany their children no matter how busy they are, even if the time is very tight, even if they are doing things.
Back home, many parents play games and watch TV, which is normal, but if you want your child to walk better, you must restrain your behavior.
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Reading: Make reading a child's way of life
"You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and chests of gold.
But you'll never be richer than I am, and I have a mom who reads to me. ”
Reading is an important source for children to have a rich spiritual life, and the cultivation of reading ability, reading interest and reading habits starts from the family.
Children's books quietly hide the most beautiful things of human beings in the fate of individuals and animals, so as to build children's values.