Parents in the world, which is not looking forward to jackie chan and hoping for a daughter to become a phoenix.
However, in this era when almost every child has to face the college entrance examination, it is difficult for parents and children to think together and make efforts to make a place.
Often do not mention learning, motherly kindness and filial piety, a mention of learning, chicken flying dog jump.
For parents now,
Most troubling topics:
It is a parent-child relationship.
The things I'm most afraid of are:
The child can't think straight.
The light is to run away from home, the heavy is to go directly to the road that should not be taken, the light is harmful to oneself, and the heavy is to hurt others.
The parent-child relationship, especially the parent-child relationship in which the child is in the rebellious period of adolescence, has become an untouchable pain in the hearts of parents.
It was like a big rock, weighing on the parents.
Professor Zhu Yongxin said in the book "My View of Reading",
At present, due to the various drawbacks of test-taking education, values such as integrity, cooperation, kindness, bravery, fairness and justice, such as loving the family, respecting life, and pursuing justice in many Chinese children have left us.
That is to say, according to the current situation, because of the various defects in test-taking education, many Chinese children, such as honesty, unity, fearlessness, equality, integrity and other good qualities have been rarely seen, and even the basic moral bottom line of loving the family, respecting life, and adhering to the right path can no longer be kept.
Now many children are too happy, clothes to reach out, food to open their mouths, than eating, wearing, than playing, is not better than learning, not more motivated. He also ran away from home and even committed suicide at every turn, without the slightest reverence for life.
As the old saying goes: "The skin of the body, the parents of the body, the loss is ashamed!" "But where are the parents in the hearts of these children?" Only yourself.
Many of these children's values are distorted, black and white upside down, and they do not know how to sympathize with their parents, love their parents, and they know to blindly take.
There is a little story of a little girl from a single-parent family who is spoiled and profligate.
Someone advised her to be considerate of her mother, who worked alone to earn money to support her very hard.
However, this child actually said: "She is not hard at work!" She doesn't have to move stones, she just sits and hits the computer! Not hard at all! ”
Some college students eat big meals every day and buy designer bags and designer shoes.
But how can the actual situation at home be described by the word "poor"?
There was only one dependent grandmother, living in a slum-like place, and the old house was in disrepair and crumbling.
Grandma raised her with a small business and a meager low bail and sent her to college.
But for the sake of her own vanity, she squandered the blood and sweat money earned by her grandmother's sweat beads and eight petals every day.
There are also children whose parents are a little dissatisfied with them, and they have a grudge and even threaten to retaliate against their parents. What's more, at a young age, he dared to kill his father and mother, and lost all his conscience, which made people shudder.
In today's "scientific parenting", parents give their children too much respect and freedom, but the results are chilling. The modern concept of education urgently needs to be changed, and children's values and outlook on life urgently need to be correctly guided.
Professor Li Meijin once said, "Reverence, awe, fear can only have respect." ”
Modern parents should cultivate their children's reverence on the basis of giving them full respect and freedom, rather than letting their children be free to be disrespectful, lawless, and do whatever they want.
And if you want to improve this situation, reading good books is undoubtedly a good medicine. Because books are good teachers and friends of mankind, the sunshine and rain dew that water the flowers of children's hearts.
I hope that reading can become a beneficial parent-child activity that parents and children can participate in together, and can also become a link between parents and children.
Falling in love with reading allows parents and children to truly taste a peaceful and ethereal joy in a quiet and leisurely spiritual wandering, and to realize a kind of open-mindedness of "not being insulted and leaving no intentions".
Only in this way can each family present a kind of motherly filial piety and peace of joy and harmony, and it is possible to make the book full of its proper intellectual pleasure and nourish the potential value of life.
As Professor Zhu Yongxin said: Reading cannot change the length of life, but it can change the breadth and thickness of life; reading cannot change the object of life, but it can change the weather and quality of life.
Let reading save these spiritually poor children!
I am a vanilla pearl who loves to read and is easy to share,
Psychological growth, self-improvement, we go all the way.
Follow me and grow together