Zhu Yongxin: Eight ideas about family education

Zhu Yongxin, Chairman of the Family Education Professional Committee of the China Education Association

First, family education is the most error-prone place

First, most of our parents are not specially trained. Parents' different languages, behaviors, and education will leave different imprints on their children, and parents who have not been specially trained will inevitably make mistakes.

Second, the psychology of parents who hope for their children to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes is easy to deviate from the direction of family education. It is inevitable that parents will turn to their children to complete what they have not achieved and have not done.

Third, many parents neglect their educational responsibilities. Since the focus of social attention is school education, parents are more concerned about school education, ignoring that they are the real foundation of education and the key to determining their children's fate. The disregard for educational responsibilities and the bias of educational concepts naturally lead to the error of family education.

Second, without the growth of parents, there will be no growth of children

It is said that parents are role models for their children. Usually behind the growth of excellent children into excellent talents, the shadow of a warm and harmonious family can always be found; similarly, individuals who form an unsound personality can also find factors full of conflicts and contradictions from their families.

In learning families, parents and children grow together and even influence each other. They often have some successful ways of influencing, such as parent-child co-reading, parent-child communication, telling growth stories, etc. The growth of parents, like the growth of children, is an endless process. Parents continue to improve and learn, and the impact is invisible and profound.

Third, morality is more important than learning, and state is greater than method

1. The important task of family education is to build the Great Wall of Personality. Looking at people in life is often a handsome cover for ugliness. With high scores and good grades, you are regarded as a good child. In fact, among the factors that affect lifelong development, scores are not the most important, but play a restrictive role in character, character, happiness as a person, and are welcomed and respected by people, rather than knowledge and learning. Many parents are too concerned about study, as long as they get good grades, they agree to any request, while their low moral character is not concerned. This kind of educational philosophy and method is worrying.

2. The destruction of man in life is silent, like dripping water through a stone; in the same way, the achievement of life is also silent. Only by paying attention to the details and process of life, only by becoming the master of life, can we be accomplished by life. The new educational experiment has a slogan: "The state is greater than the method, and the method is greater than the hard work." The reality is the opposite, "hard work is greater than the method, method is greater than the state". In fact, the biggest gap between people is the state. With a state there is a method, with a state you want to do things, you can succeed.

Fourth, return childhood to children

Everyone often sighs: today's children have no childhood and no happiness. As long as you enter school, you will not have a good life. Happiness is an experience, enjoying the happiness of education, which is a state of education. Why not let children learn through play, activities, and play? Why is it called studying when you are locked up in the study?

Fifth, infinitely believe in the potential of children's development

1. Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. If you want your children to do it, then cherish every opportunity for your child to grow, appreciate their growth, appreciate their words and deeds; if you want your children to do it, then complain and blame them.

2. The child's potential is greater than everything that has been achieved. Modern scientific research has long proved that human potential is enormous. Let's believe in the potential of children's development!

Sixth, let the child have something of their own

While cultivating children's intelligence, parents must not ignore the cultivation of non-intelligence, and should enable the younger generation to have lofty goals, broad interests, warm emotions, strong will, and independent character.

Education should allow children to have something they like, then even if he can't go to college, he will have a healthy life and a happy life. Each child can have a different growth path, let him like the same, will affect the quality of life of the child's life. Whether a person's spiritual life is happy or not is important.

Seventh, let reading become a way of life for children

Reading is a very important way for children to purify their souls and sublimate their personality. For children to grow, the main task is to read. But now students rarely read except textbooks. All children who read a lot of books, in general, their vision must be broad, their spirit must be enriched, their ambitions must be lofty, and their pursuits must be persistent. The history of a person's spiritual development is the history of that person's reading.

A person who does not read books is not far away. Whether he reads or not has nothing to do with whether he graduated from college, books are the real university, and it is the paradise that makes people grow spiritually.

Tranquility leads to far-reaching. The reader's life may not be rich, but he may be a spiritual rich man.

Eighth, let the diary accompany the growth of children

Keeping a journal is a good habit. By writing a diary, children can synthesize and deepen their thinking about their own learning and life; they can exercise their ability to observe life and control their language, and improve their writing level; they can let their children pour out their emotions and regulate their emotions; they can cultivate independent personality and the ability to handle things independently; they can exercise his will, broaden his heart, and purify his heart. Because if you want to write wonderfully, you must live wonderfully and do wonderfully.

Article source: Guangxi Education, Ming Education