Wen | Chen Ying and Gao Baobao
I am a post-80s little tail and a stay-at-home mom. I have always been very impetuous, and I am very conflicted about the role I should play in the family: for a while I felt that being a housewife and taking children at home was a failure to live up to life. At the same time, I feel that when the child is young, he should go all out to accompany the child's growth.
My heart has always been torn between traditional women and new age women.
However, after meeting the baby sister, I found the answer. Baby Sister let me know that there is no contradiction between the two. We should do the right thing at the right time.
What really made me feel relieved and changed was after I began to copy the article of the baby sister's public account.
In the process of copying the baby sister's article, I understood: the child is the seed, all the problems in the child, as her nurturer, the root must be me.
I remember that Baby Sister wrote in an article about her daughter:
Get on your horse and give it a ride. That's mom's promise to you, and mom does the same.
When I copied this sentence, I suddenly burst into tears. I suddenly knew what I should do, and silently said to my daughter in my heart: Dear daughter, I will cherish this fate in this life. Leaving the job to take you I don't regret. I'm thankful I didn't miss your growth.
Baby Sister's article also made me start to reflect on the problems that existed in myself. I understood, as a mom, that "I won't" is not an excuse. No, you can learn. In the face of weak daughters, we as mothers must learn to be strong.
With Baby Sister and the little friends in Baby Sister's readership, my personality has become peaceful, stable and tenacious unconsciously. At the same time, I also learned to persevere.
In the process of copying the baby sister article, I feel that I am one step closer to the baby sister.
Baby sister often tells us that no woman can guarantee that her marriage will be uncertain for a lifetime. Master a more housekeeping skill, in case there is a change in the marriage, we can achieve "attack can be attacked, retreat can be defended."
I remember when I first applied for the "Family Education Instructor", Bao Baojie once said that the purpose of taking this certificate is twofold: the first is to systematically learn scientific parenting knowledge and help us better educate our children. The second is the direction and opportunity to create a job for yourself.
I sighed in my heart at that time: as a stay-at-home mother, how lucky I was to meet my baby sister!
Baby sister always tells us bitterly: the fate of the child is in the hands of the mother, and the mother with 60 points cannot educate the child with 90 points. As a teacher, she cannot educate all her children, but when her mother grows up, her children's fate will naturally change.
However, she is definitely not just talking. She always supports us and encourages us with practical actions.
In fact, the content of the "Family Education Instructor" course was used by Baby Sister as early as 20 years ago. The certificate of the "Family Education Instructor" course is not of much use to the baby sister.
However, in order to drive us to study together, baby sister still signed up, and listened to and discussed with us during the preparation period. After we all successfully passed the exam, baby sister also paid for her own pocket and awarded scholarships to her best graded friends.
For a group of irrelevant people, there are very few people who can take so much time and effort.
Baby sister always said: You are responsible for taking good care of the child, I am responsible for surprising you.
Such a baby sister, how can I not love it?
In addition, Baby Sister also created the "Baby Sister Reading Club" to lead us to read books for free. Since joining the Baby Sister Reading Club, the daily carefully designed reading of the friends and the wonderful discussions on the weekend have not only made me have a deeper understanding of the content and life in the book, but also my heart has also broadened.
Now I am more and more aware that the little thing that always bothered me in my previous life is not a thing at all.
The roads you have traveled, the books you have read, have made you who you are now. And I, thanks to the baby sister, let me meet a better self.
And the changes brought to me by the baby sister, not to mention these. I found that I changed myself and the family atmosphere changed.
Before, I always spoke to Mr. in a commanding tone. In fact, I expressed good intentions, but the feeling of giving the other party was full of gunpowder.
Now I speak softly and express my thoughts without emotion. If I did something wrong, I would apologize to the other party in time. Where there is a misunderstanding, I will explain it in time and will not be as sullen as before.
Now, I silently do what I should do well, in exchange for my husband's approval and support.
The stable husband and wife relationship not only makes our family of three more harmonious and stable, but also unexpectedly, in terms of educating children, the differences between our husband and wife are getting less and less. He became very respectful of me and would be guided by my opinion.
What a bonus!
Baby Sister's intentions for her family have also always affected me. Especially in the recent period, the epidemic situation in Hong Kong is very serious, and the baby sister not only undertook the work of taking care of Lu Shan's grandfather and grandmother without complaint, but also took care of Lu Shan's aunt's family.
During the epidemic, my grandfather, grandmother and mother-in-law were all hospitalized, and I could not visit and take care of my children because of them, but I silently took care of my own small family.
After my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, I was all-inclusive of housework, except for the breakfast (because I would wake up when I went to bed) by my mother-in-law, the rest of the housework I was all-inclusive, and my mother-in-law only needed to be responsible for taking the child to play.
When I do these things, I don't have a single complaint in my heart. But in the past, I would complain and my heart would be very unbalanced.
One afternoon, when I was swinging in the neighborhood with my children, I met a little brother who happily called me "aunt".
I asked him in surprise: Do you remember your aunt?
He replied: Of course, I remember, my aunt bought me a drink!
I remembered that it was the day before the Spring Festival, and I met this little boy and his brother when I was swinging in the community with my baby. It was the first time we met, but they had to give me a notebook and a pen.
He said "we are good friends" and insisted on giving me the book.
At that time, I remembered what my baby sister had written about buying milk tea for the little girl in the optical shop. When I got the inspiration, I said to the little boy:
Since we are friends, I will take your book, but Auntie wants to invite you to drink!
The two little boys jumped up with joy.
I took them to the supermarket at the door and let them choose their favorite drinks, and they thanked me in a loud voice.
In fact, it was I who was touched. That day, my heart was happier than theirs!
After meeting baby sister, my luck began to get better!
Baby Sister's readership is a warm harbor. There is a group of positive and upward friends in the group, passing on positive energy to each other. We insisted on participating in the study punch card, and together we copied together, which made me feel that this learning journey was wonderful.
Hand in hand teachers, such as songs, students will actively respond to and reply to the little information of their friends every day. Baby sister will also go to the group every day to chat with everyone, giving every insistent little partner like and encouragement.
They all say that "companionship is the longest confession of affection", I remember when the baby sister was in Tibet, in order to say "goodnight" to us, and went around looking for signals. Isn't such a baby sister cute?
Every day until late at night, after climbing the high building in the group, my heart was so happy and peaceful. This is the charm of baby sister readership!
What kind of person is Bao Baojie?
In my heart, she was a gentle, resilient mother, and she was a happy, excellent teacher. She is also a good daughter-in-law, and when she takes care of her family, she does everything herself and has no complaints.
Knowing the world and not being sophisticated, this sentence has been best interpreted in the baby sister.
After writing so much, I feel that I still haven't completely presented the beautiful qualities of the baby sister one by one.
Baby sister said: I will work hard to keep you who I like, all around.
I would like to say: If Baby Sister is a school, then I never want to graduate from this school. Because, in the baby sister, I got love and respect, support.
Three lives are lucky to meet you! May the baby sister and her family in Hong Kong, as well as all the little friends, be healthy and safe!
【Baby sister has something to say】
This article is The daily sharing of Chen Ying in the group, I let her enrich the content on the basis of the original, and then I slightly modified.
In the eyes of some friends, this may be a very bland article: there is no flowery language, it seems that it is all family trivia, and even the logic is not so strong.
So why should I post her on my public account?
This is because, among my readers, like Chen Ying, I silently draw nourishment from my articles, and there are many small partners who have improved little by little.
They were all ordinary girls, and later they became ordinary wives, and later, they became ordinary mothers. They may not have the appearance of the city, they may not have a brilliant career, and they may not have a family fortune.
But they all have a positive heart, and they all have a common goal, that is, to find a better version of themselves through hard work. I want to work hard to make my family live a better life. I want to give my child a better future through hard work.
Through my own efforts, I got what I wanted. If, through my efforts, I can help them get what they want, wouldn't my life be more meaningful?
In addition, I also have a purpose, that is, I want to tell more friends through this article how important reading is to a person's vision and cognition. At the same time, I also told those who did not dare to pick up the pen that writing is not so difficult. Like Chen Ying, writing out the true feelings in your heart in an orderly manner is not a good article to get your hands on?
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About the author: Gao Baobao
He wrote novels at the age of 15 and was admitted to the Graduate School of the University of Chinese in Hong Kong at the age of 38, with 20 years of experience in Chinese education.
She single-handedly raised her daughter to a Bachelor of Education (First Class Honours) from the University of Hong Kong and a Master of Education from the University of London's Number One School of Education, ranked no. 1 in the world. Only one year after graduation, the little girl's annual salary has reached 500,000.
Baby sister's parent-child education articles, warm and powerful, help you on the road to parenting to suddenly open up and take fewer detours.
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