In the post-80s, about 5% of men are full-time fathers, and in the post-95s, about 59% of men say they want to be full-time fathers.
Who will do the full-time baby has always been a controversial topic. Sugar moms are mostly full-time mothers, even if they have full-time dads, they will not often mention their identity.
Most people have always felt that women are naturally suitable for children, while men with children full-time are strange, and even put on the label of "eating soft rice".
Full-time dad with baby for 3 years, but was ridiculed for "eating soft rice"
During the time when Sugar Mom took the little candy to the early education class, she once found that nearly 80% of the house was a mother, and the rest were the father and the elders in the family.
In one class, the teacher asked if the people present had a full-time father, and a man in front of him raised his hand high, stood up and turned around, proudly greeting everyone, while another male parent in the corner just gently waved to the teacher and then bowed his head.
Also a full-time dad, why is the gap between the mentality of two people so large? In the follow-up conversation, Sugar Mom knows why.
It turned out that the "proud" father, he felt that he had a special sense of accomplishment, and his family recognized his ability to take the baby, and he was happy to "show off" to others that he had merit in bringing the baby.
The other full-time father, who took the baby with his heart for 3 years, was ridiculed as "eating soft rice" in the end, and it was inevitable that he felt faceless, and he did not dare to say it when he had grievances.
Is it "soft rice" for men to take their babies full-time? It's somewhat unfair to say that
Sugar Mom has seen many full-time dads, and to be fair, their image is not shameful, and they don't feel that they are "eating soft rice". Being able to bring children well, whether female or male, is not easy and deserves praise.
The same problem, sugar mom some time ago when chasing "The Perfect Partner", she discussed it with sugar dad, and we both felt that it was unfair to mock "full-time dad" like this.
In the play, Sun Lei attaches more importance to children and families, and often delays work, equivalent to most of the full-time fathers. Although he trained jumping so well, the three words "eat soft rice" in the bullet screen have never disappeared.
The reason why everyone says this is nothing more than that he and his wife Chen Shan earn too little; or that he is a man, and he is not self-motivated to make people laugh.
But no one remembers, he was also infinitely beautiful at work, but later he couldn't put down the child in his heart and took on housework; no one remembered that when Chen Shan wanted to work with peace of mind, Sun Lei prepared meals for her and picked up and dropped off the children, chen Shan had no worries.
It is often said that stay-at-home moms need to be understood, but in fact, stay-at-home dads are the same, and they bear one more "face" problem than women, and their efforts should not be denied.
The "achievement" of a stay-at-home dad, many women may not be able to do it
Neither man nor woman is born with children. If you have a full-time dad around you, you will find that some of the "achievements" in their process of bringing up children are not possible for many women.
The children brought by the father are more rational: the girls are emotional, the boys are stubborn, and the mature males are more rational in their thinking. Compared with the mother with the baby in an emotional way, the father's rational performance and the girl's easy to "make a stupid" psychology, can clarify the reason with the stubborn boy, which is the unique "achievement" of the full-time father.
Dad brings courage and security to children: One thing has to be mentioned, dad with baby looks childish and unreliable, but in many critical moments, Dad's sense of strength and Gundam's body shape will give children enough security.
At the same time, the adventurous spirit in men's bones will take children to experience more sports and physical games. Under the influence of the father, the child will become more courageous, which is also a major "achievement" of the full-time father with the baby.
Stay-at-home dads are often ridiculed for "eating soft rice", but his achievements may not be achieved by many women. If the mother brings a baby, these qualities are more difficult to cultivate, not that the mother is not excellent, but the natural character of women.
For a family, it is not easy for anyone to bring a baby full-time. If you plan to be a stay-at-home dad, you can't just think about what achievements you have made, but you still have to consider many aspects.
Before you prepare to become a "stay-at-home dad," consider the following things
There are many models for a happy family, and it is not bad to have a stay-at-home father at home. In order to reduce the subsequent troubles, men should consider the following things before they are ready to become full-time dads.
1) Weigh the couple's work trade-offs
Maintaining family life requires a stable and high income, and whoever chooses to take the baby full time means giving up work and devoting themselves to the family, which has to weigh the differences between the couple's work.
In "Perfect Partner", Chen Shan worked outside and spelled out two suites, and her earning power was obvious to all. In contrast, it is relatively stable for her to earn money to support the family. Otherwise, the wife who earns more money will retire to the family, the husband will continue to do low-income work, and the family life will be difficult to maintain.
2) It is best for both families to sit down and discuss together
It is not so simple to take a baby full-time, especially when men make this choice, it is easy to be misunderstood by people around them and people in the family. We can not care about the eyes of outsiders, but we must make both parents in the family mentally prepared.
Let everyone discuss the consistent result, will reduce many subsequent troubles and unnecessary quarrels, the couple try not to make decisions quietly.
3) The party with the baby full-time should not be looked down upon
Whoever carries the baby full time should not be taken lightly. Stay-at-home moms are hard, and so are stay-at-home dads.
Since it has been agreed that the male will take the baby full-time, then women should not have an attitude of contempt in language and attitude in the future, and the respect between husband and wife is mutual.
Candy Mother's Heart:
Whoever carries the baby full time must be conscientious. If the stay-at-home father just feeds the child, the rest of the work is still up to the wife to do, naturally can not avoid outsiders gossip, because what they say is also the truth.
Do you think that men being "full-time dads" is a good family model?