Liepin recently released a survey report that showed that more than 40% of men are willing to be full-time dads. About 60 percent of men aspire to marriage among unmarried people, but less than 40 percent of women are willing to. However, 75% of married people, both men and women, believe that family life is more important than career. About 58% of women are willing to stay at home full-time with their babies. What's even more surprising is that 40% of men are also willing to be full-time dads.
For being a stay-at-home dad, I can only say that I have a little bit of experience. I am not a full-time father in the true sense, because the salary of the industry boss I do is lower than my own expectations, and the basic salary of the general director level is only about 10,000, but the threshold for opening my own company is very low, so it is possible to work for myself at home.
Just in the past two years, my youngest son was born, and I basically worked from home, working 2 hours a day, and the rest of the time with my wife and children. My wife is a stay-at-home mom, and I mainly help out, change a bar, get dressed, take a shower or something.
The benefit of being at home full-time is that you can achieve sleep freedom, and many people say: "My biggest wish is to be able to sleep until I wake up naturally without work." "Being a stay-at-home dad is certainly achievable. If the family income is right, being a stay-at-home dad is not a must.
However, staying at home every day will also have bad aspects:
Lying in bed or nestled in the sofa every day, time passes very quickly, it is easy to forget to exercise, and physical fitness will decline very quickly.
The development of mobile Internet allows you to be entertained or work in bed at home, and the result is that sitting for a long time is not good for the lumbar spine, and lying for a long time is not good for the cervical spine.
After less contact with the outside world, people tend to ignore their own dress, and live not as delicate as the mixed workplace, so the appearance value is easy to fluctuate with the length of the beard.
People with social dependence will feel bored at home for a long time, and over time they will return to the workplace, or even give up the higher-income family business and go out as a small clerk.
Among the people I know, there are also people who have been full-time dads. My wife's girlfriend is a fiction writer and pays more taxes every month than the average programmer. Her husband started out as a stay-at-home dad, taking care of the housework and taking care of his daughter. Moreover, the child is still very professional, which makes my wife's girlfriend even want to have a second child.
But even if his wife earns more, the pocket money given is decent enough. He finally couldn't help it and went out to work. Even if he only earns 6,000 yuan a month, and 6,000 has to hand over all his wife, he will no longer be a full-time father at home.
I think the root cause is mainly that people are a social animal, and most people have no way to isolate themselves from social. Moreover, as a full-time father, staying at home, it is inevitable that he will be sneered at by some backs, and it is easy to be said to be eating soft rice, and there will be a certain amount of mental pressure.
A two-child family like mine will eventually stay at home full-time for no more than 6 years, and when the children go to school, you will be redundant at home. Therefore, full-time baby-bearing is actually a special "job" in stages. In Chinese society, the mainstream thinking does not regard it as a job at present, but in developed countries in Europe and the United States, it is a job to bring a baby at home, and it can be tax deducted. The times are developing, and I believe that full-time dads will not be limited to big cities in the future, but will also be more and more accepted by the public.