My cousin was very well-behaved, emotionally intelligent and polite, but such a girl was always yelling and yelling at her parents.
Everyone says that there are some children who always lose their temper when they treat their parents, and they are really polite to outsiders. Yes, there are.
Next, I will first tell you a real case of my cousin, and then I will tell you what these people think in their hearts and how to correct these problems and troubles.
Point 1, my cousin's personal experience.
My cousin and I are really small, I can't say that I played from small to large, but it was almost small, and he often cared for me when the time came.
Someone in the school bullied me, or someone in the village bullied me, don't always stand in front of me.
Then my cousin knew more friends, so no one in the village and in the school had ever dared to bully me, and if someone bullied my cousin, he would definitely do justice for me.
More importantly, my cousin's academic performance was also very good, and at that time, I always took the first to last and third to last grades in every exam.
My cousin was the first place every time, and when she went to middle school, she understood more strongly, and was directly admitted to the provincial key middle school, and after being admitted to the provincial college middle school, she was admitted to the 985 and 221 colleges and universities.
It can be said that it has been a big step forward, and it is almost the same, and every time my cousin comes to our house, she behaves very politely.
Sometimes she pours tea and water, she will stand up at the first time, and then put this tea cup in front of herself, showing a very polite look.
In my mind, I have always thought that my cousin treats everyone like this, and is so polite, but I did not expect that when I went to my cousin's house for the New Year, I saw a scene that I should not have seen.
But what I saw, my cousin was pointing at her parents to give them angry arguments, and even said something dirty that I had never heard before.
He spoke directly in his cousin's mouth, pointing at his parents' noses, while his cousin's parents blushed and had thick necks and scolded back at their daughters.
The two sides are simply going to break the net, if there is no one around to stop, it is estimated that the cousin's parents will have a big mouth to fan over.
I never imagined that my cousin, who looked very polite on the outside, could be so grumpy and so savage at home.
What I didn't expect was that the parents of the same cousin, who looked very polite on the outside, were so bad at home.
I didn't understand why this matter, until I went deeper into it, I could understand that this matter could not simply blame my cousin, and my cousin's parents were also responsible.
Because don't think that parents always want to force their daughters to do things that their daughters don't like, for example, they originally promised their daughters to watch 10-minute TV dramas for two hours, but after two hours of study, their parents regretted it.
For example, he clearly told his daughter that he was going to buy new clothes, but he shirked it for various reasons, which eventually led to the fierce contradiction between mother and daughter and even between father and daughter.
Point 2, how to look at this situation.
Overall, if your child behaves very politely outside, but is noisy and noisy at home, there may be three situations.
The first and most tragic situation is that the parents do not play the responsibility of a qualified parent, and there are some contradictions that the parents have provoked.
Just like my cousin's family, my cousin is actually very polite, but again and again, disappointed in her parents, eventually led to cold words.
There are always some parents who think that they have a child, and that they have given their child life to decide how their child should live his life.
People who think this way are actually very dangerous, for the simple reason that you are just enriching your child's life, to put it more bluntly, you have no right to instruct your child to do things he does not like to do.
In addition, we also have to exclude some parents, who are also the first time to be parents who do not have much experience, are always willing to expose their disliked side to their children, and are always willing to let their children bear their own pain.
Over the long term, their children slowly developed a sense of burnout, and they could not say that they were resistant to their parents, but they were similar, and they did not say a few words viciously after meeting.
Secondly, some children are too expressive of themselves, always hoping to establish a good image in front of outsiders, but when they are in front of their own families, they are not willing to establish a good image.
Such children are often more scheming patients, too much love of face In short, if children really belong to this category, then we can only say that this is both a failure of education and a failure of children's life.
Children care too much about other people's opinions, always respect others outside, and become barbaric when they return to their own homes, or fly up and hurt the hearts of their parents.
At the same time, from the perspective of children, it is also a very incompetent, even very unqualified behavior.
Finally, there is also a possibility that parents give too much to their children, pay more and do not ask for anything from their children, or let the children think that it is right for parents to give themselves so much.
Therefore, it is often easy to appear, parents on the side to give themselves silently, silently pay, but they still complain about their parents, and a stranger casually comforts himself with a few words, he needs to be grateful to Dade.
The reason for this contrast is only because the so-called gifts or gifts come too easily, come too easily, and they do not cherish it, and naturally there is such an embarrassing or abnormal behavior scene.
If you reach that step, then you must reflect on whether you are competent as a child, and whether you as a child need to be improved.
After all, parents need us to respect, we need to be filial piety, because in any case, parents have given us life, there is no doubt about it.
Of course, if what the parents do is inappropriate or wrong, we can stop the stop loss in time, provided that we do have full confidence to prove that the parents are not doing the right thing.