Hello everyone, I'm Yumi MaMa.
In our adult cognition, kindergarten is a perfect little world without strife, without intrigue, without fame and fortune. Children get together to sing, dance, play games, no schoolwork pressure, no need to worry about exams, the only task every day is to have fun, isn't this the peach blossom source in our dreams?
But you may not know that this near-"perfect world" is actually a dark tide, and seemingly simple children will also be "black", they will form gangs, exclude dissidents, and please the teacher. Adult society has its own rules, and so does the world of children.
Obviously, in the kindergarten, the teacher is the master of this small world, and the child's happiness has a great relationship with the teacher's attitude.
The teacher's attitude directly affects the mood of the baby
Colleague Brother Shuo gasped and complained that his son who was in the kindergarten was punished for standing in the kindergarten. The two men asked for half a day, only to learn that it was because their son touched the balloon made by hand in the class during his lunch break, and made a little noise, and the teacher felt that he had disturbed others. The child felt very aggrieved, obviously very quiet, thinking that the teacher deliberately targeted him. The young man who is usually alive and well has been smiling these days.
Brother Shuo said: I wanted to report this teacher, but my daughter-in-law wouldn't let me, so I couldn't bear it. You have to be angry while comforting the child: if there is a mistake, correct it, if you are punished, you will endure it, who will make you not sleep during your lunch break?
You see that children are actually very sensitive, and the teacher's action, a look, and a sentence will have their own interpretation. Which teacher likes himself, which feels average, children can know at a glance, which is not difficult to explain why so many parents are desperate to have a good relationship with the teacher.
It is difficult for teachers in kindergartens to treat every child equally, and although every teacher should treat every child fairly, it is actually difficult to do so. Each child has a different personality and different styles of doing things, the teacher faces dozens of children at the same time, those children with high cooperation and obedience will naturally be favored, and those who are mischievous and disrupt the discipline of the classroom will naturally make people feel tired.
I have to admit that some children are really not "welcomed" by teachers.
The "unspoken rules" of kindergartens, teachers will not say clearly, but parents should know
Kindergarten is the first step for children to become independent, and they begin to try to integrate into the group, learn to unite and cooperate. Children tremble slightly into a small society, and if this experience is not good, it will directly affect their attitude of integration into the group.
Whether it is society or kindergarten, there are certain "unspoken rules", as a parent, if you do not understand these "unspoken rules" before sending your children to kindergarten, your children are likely to suffer losses.
Teachers like children with strong self-care skills
Most children are the "treasures" of their parents at home, and they are held in the palm of their hands from an early age and rarely need to do it themselves. Therefore, one of the big problems exposed by this batch of children after going to kindergarten is that their self-care ability is very bad.
Although the new kindergarten teacher will help, after the kindergarten life is on the right track, the teacher will have certain requirements for the child's self-care ability. Children with poor self-care ability will soon be screened out, need to be fed to eat, go to the toilet and will not take off their pants, etc., these children can not keep up with the teacher's requirements, they need more care.
There are so many children in the class, the teacher will inevitably not be able to take care of it, so if the child's self-care ability is very poor, it is difficult to adapt to kindergarten life. On the contrary, those children with strong self-care ability will be particularly loved without the teacher's trouble.
Teachers like children who know how to be polite
Generally teachers will like children who understand politeness, after all, "near Zhu is red and close to ink is black", behind children's understanding of politeness is good family education.
Developmental psychology believes that kindergarten children learn by "imitation". Parents' every move is the object of children's imitation, and children's understanding of politeness shows to a certain extent that parents are gentle and courteous, and it will be more labor-saving to deal with such a family.
On the contrary, if the child usually exports dirty, the teacher will not only worry about other children being affected by dirty words, but also find a way to correct the bad behavior of this "problem baby", which will be very tired.
2 types of parents do not recruit teachers like, try to avoid
In addition to the children themselves, the "unspoken rules" of kindergartens will also directly bless the treatment of children.
Parents who are "multi-tasking" are not welcomed
There is a mother in Yumi's class who asks a lot of her baby in the group almost every day. For example: How much did you eat? La no la stinks? How much water did you drink? How about sleeping? Occasionally the teacher forgot to reply to the letter, and the mother would come to the phone bomb and ask carefully.
It was obvious that the teacher could feel the teacher from the beginning of everything in detail, to the later perfunctory, and even once Yumi saw the teacher directly avoid her.
In fact, it can also be understood that the teacher has to manage all aspects of the children every day, it is difficult to carefully record the situation of each child, and it is normal to occasionally forget to check a child. If you really let the teacher carefully sort out the situation of each child in the class every day, don't do anything else.
Parents who do not cooperate with the teacher's work
At the kindergarten stage, because the child is too young, there are more activities that require the cooperation of parents. For example, some manual work and information collection require parents to go down in person.
Most parents are usually very busy at work, in our opinion: sending children to kindergarten is to let children be supervised, and at the same time can learn some useful things, learning related to the school is good, why toss parents? Therefore, there must be some parents who do not want to cooperate with the teacher.
Sister Fan in the mother group went to the kindergarten door a few days ago to maintain discipline. Due to the epidemic, the kindergarten needs 1 parent per class to be responsible for the discipline of morning and evening pick-up, and Fan Jie actively signed up at home full-time. After that day, Fan Jie said that she obviously felt the enthusiasm of the teacher, and the teacher who sent the child in the morning and picked up the child in the evening would talk to her alone.
Someone in the group asked, "Are you ready to kill other parents?" Sister Fan replied, "Is it not for the sake of the child to be better?" ”
I have to admit that there are always a few active parents in each class, who are very cooperative with the teacher's work, which makes other parents who are not so cooperative look abrupt. Obviously, these parents with a high degree of cooperation, the child will inevitably receive preferential treatment from the teacher.
If conditions permit, it is still recommended that parents cooperate with the teacher as much as possible, after all, our cooperation is likely to be converted into the comfort of the child in the kindergarten, are you right?
Kindergartens recruit children who are liked by teachers, either they are independent enough or their parents are strong enough. Therefore, if the child's self-care ability is poor, we should make more efforts as parents and try to have a good relationship with the teacher; if we are really busy at work, we will pay more attention to the child's self-care ability and let the baby learn to be independent.
Finally, I would like to say that the process of children's independence will definitely be accompanied by pain, but parents do not have to worry too much. To believe in the children's adaptability, even if the self-care ability is poor when entering the kindergarten, there are other children as a control group, xiongwa will try to catch up. The only thing we can do is to cooperate with the teacher as much as possible and wait for the child to grow up.