Romain Rolland said: "Love is a duel, if you look left and right you are finished, real love does not love more, love less, it is to give your whole person out." ”
If a person, he always likes to calculate gains and losses in love, then it can be said that he may like you, but he really does not love you.
Therefore, women should understand that men love a person and like a person, there are 2 different kinds of existence, but many women mistakenly regard like as love, and after realizing it, they find that it is just their own deception.
Case Study:
Xiao Wu is a simple and simple girl, she has never been in love, seeing that her friends around her have boyfriends, he is also full of beautiful hopes and fantasies about love.
After being introduced by a friend, she met her current boyfriend and fell in love.
The man looks very handsome, the person is also relatively sunny, he dropped out of school in high school, early into the society, Xiao Wu feels that he is very mature.
As soon as the two of them met, he told Xiao Wu that he had never been short of girls around him, but they were not the type he liked, so he had always chosen to be single.
He has talked about love many times, but he is reluctant to mention it to Xiao Wu, he feels that the past is not interesting to mention more, he said that he has a good feeling for Xiao Wu and thinks he is a good girl.
On Valentine's Day, he gave Xiao Wu eleven flowers and told Xiao Wu that he would love her for a lifetime, often take her to dinner, and buy her beautiful clothes from time to time, Xiao Wu felt that he had met a man who loved himself.
However, he often played missing, and when Xiao Wu called him, he always did not answer, and the next day at noon he replied to the message that he was sleeping.
Stemming from the inner uneasiness, Xiao Wu likes to ask him where he has gone, and he is very impatient to say Xiao Wu, thinking that she has suspicions.
Once in the early hours of the morning, he suddenly called Xiao Wu to say that he was short of money, so Xiao Wu did not say anything about giving him the money he had saved for part-time work.
You must know that she saved this money for two and a half years, but he squandered it overnight, and later learned through her friend that he especially liked to play mahjong and lost all the money.
Xiao Wu was particularly sad, but she was embarrassed to mention money to him, and she also thought about breaking up, but when she thought of his goodness, she softened her heart and felt that as long as he loved himself, she could change him.
So Xiao Wu persuaded him bitterly and supervised him, and every time he spoke very well, but behind his back, he still did not change.
Balzac said: "Unfortunate love, often like a reliable debtor's unpaid debit ticket, will add your private money." ”
As a bystander, everyone knows that Xiao Wu's boyfriend does not love her at all, and lacks the responsibility of a man, and the reason why Xiao Wu has not broken up again and again is precisely that she lives in her own imaginary love fairy tale, and it is difficult for her to distinguish whether this man likes him or loves her.
Someone who likes you, he will ask for it from time to time
When a man likes someone, his good will depend entirely on his interest and mood for you, so in a relationship, you are always sacrificing.
Just like Xiao Wu, her boyfriend will give her romance and surprises, but he can't give her the security she wants most, in fact, material things are very easy for him, but it is difficult to give her a sense of security.
Because subconsciously, he did not take Xiao Wu seriously at all, so he would lie recklessly, play missing from time to time, and always like to shirk responsibility, let Xiao Wu feel guilty and blame himself, and he would not really make up his mind to change himself.
When a man likes a woman, he will be very clear about what he wants in the relationship, and once he gets what he wants, you will find that his attitude will be in stark contrast.
Therefore, there are always some women who suffer from gain and loss, questioning whether they are not good enough, the other party is so indifferent, in fact, it is not so, but he does not love you so much, so that you have been foolish to pay, to know that women's emotions, life status actually reflects a man's true attitude towards women.
The person who loves you, he will silently guard
The person who loves you is eager to give him everything, and how to bear to take it, he will respect your habits, love your family, help you achieve your dreams, rather than selfishly only know your own feelings.
In the eyes of outsiders, his temper is a little smelly, but you have never found that there may be a day when he is not very talkative and not in a good mood, but he did not lose his temper with you, but stayed quiet for a while and made you a delicious meal.
He will remember all your hobbies, and even if he is a particularly careless person, he will still buy your favorite gift.
Whether you are happy or sad, he will take time to accompany you, maybe he is not very expressive, but he will sit with you until late at night.
Maybe one day, he will mercilessly say your shortcomings, but it will not stop him from loving you, because he always wants you to become better and silently help you correct these problems.
A man's love is not casually spoken, but appears in the details of bits and pieces, so you live like a carefree little princess, to know that he really loves you, will silently guard you like this.
Like is a feeling, love is an instinct from the heart, feeling will gradually fade with time, space, and characters, while the love imprinted in the heart will always exist, unaffected by anything.
References: Subconscious, Psychology of Love