As the saying goes, "the girl who marries out, the water that is spilled", after the woman gets married, it seems that she began to be estranged from her original family. In ancient times, women who married were also given the surname of their husbands. Women will say to their husbands, "I was born to be your man, and death is your ghost." After marriage, women should take care of their in-laws, take care of their children, honor their in-laws, and call their in-laws parents.
In ancient times, if the daughter-in-law did not have great filial piety to the in-laws and was comprehensive, it was possible that they would be dismissed. Ancient women's mention of mother seems to mean their mother-in-law. However, modern society emphasizes equality between men and women, and women still have their rights even after marriage.
However, when a woman gets married today, at the wedding banquet, the mother-in-law will change the mouth fee for the daughter-in-law, and then the daughter-in-law will still give the mother-in-law tea and change her mouth to call the mother. When the daughter-in-law enters the door, the mother-in-law will tell the daughter-in-law, after you are our old Zhao family, I will definitely treat you as my own daughter. Many daughters-in-law also believe in the truth and feel that they are about to start their own beautiful new life.
Generally speaking, when a woman is newly married, she is mainly with her husband, and the time with her mother-in-law may not be much. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still very harmonious, and there will be no major contradictions. However, after a woman gives birth to a baby, she generally needs her mother-in-law to take care of confinement, or needs a mother-in-law to take care of the child, and often lives together, then the contradiction between the two sides will begin to increase.
Many daughters-in-law only found out when they were confinement that the mother-in-law and the mother were really different, which was manifested in the following aspects:
1. Confinement meal
During confinement, the mother's appetite is not very good, and many mothers do not want to eat much. At this time, if it is a mother, she may say: "How to eat ah, giving birth to a child is a waste of qi and blood, if you do not eat, the loss is your own body, and you can't make up for it later." ”
If it was a mother-in-law, she might say something like, "No, you have to eat, why don't you feed your child without eating?" Now the milk powder is so expensive, and it is not necessarily safe, you still have to eat more, but don't starve your children! ”
2. Take care of your children
In the confinement period, taking children is also very difficult for the mother. If the child is crying, the mother may say: "Daughter, I will hold the child, you still have to rest a little longer, don't let the body collapse!" ”
And if it is a mother-in-law, she may say, "Why did the child start crying?" You must be hungry, feed your child! ”
3. Feed your child
If many mothers do not pay attention during the month, the breasts may be blocked, the breasts will be swollen and painful, and the serious inflammation will be severe, and the mother will have a fever. If it is a mother, she may let her daughter rush to the hospital to see it to prevent any sequelae.
And if it is a mother-in-law, she will say: "Don't go to the hospital, when the hospital will have to inject, the child will not be able to breastfeed!" Quickly find a prolactinator to induce milk and unclog the lower breast! ”
The above are just some of the differences listed, and I am sure that the mother-in-law and the mother are still different in comparison. However, Xiaobian feels that the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, the mother is the mother, and it is absolutely impossible to let the mother-in-law be as good to you as the mother. Therefore, Bao Ma should not be too demanding of her mother-in-law, as long as she can say it. Otherwise, the only one who will be disappointed and disappointed in the end will be himself.
Dear Mother, who took care of you during confinement? How does it feel? Welcome to leave a message to discuss!