Good marriage
Mindset first
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More and more people complain that marriages are not satisfactory, that the partner they choose is not good, question the happiness of marriage, and even hate marriage.
I feel that marriage seems to be associated with unhappiness, in fact, marriage is like work, it is impossible to go smoothly, and marriage will encounter various problems.
A happy marriage is nothing more than a solution to each difficulty, while an unhappy marriage is full of complaints.
The difference between the two is nothing more than a matter of mentality.
Marriage, compared to who has a good mentality, two people with a good mentality, marriage will definitely be more smooth.
Having a good attitude is not that you hold a relaxed state to get married, and such a mentality is not good, because you are relaxed and have high expectations, which is doomed to failure and will blame each other.
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Having a good attitude means that when two people disagree, they think more about each other, whether they do not understand him, and then communicate well, reach an agreement, and finally solve this problem smoothly.
Because a good attitude is the key to solving the problem, if you don't have a good attitude and want to live a good life, it must be that the other party has taken on your responsibility.
He can bear your temporary dissatisfaction, but he can't carry your life for a long time, walking and walking, he will also be tired, and in the end, if he does not get your understanding, then he will be sad, and your marriage will not be able to proceed.
A bad state of mind can even make your body uncomfortable.
When you find that marriage is a chicken feather and very torturous, the first thing to do is to change your mentality and enrich your heart and life.
Solve things when there is something, rather than getting into internal friction.
03
Many times everyone quarrels because they vent their emotions and do not solve the problem, in fact, they always think of others to coax, others to nourish you, it is better to let your mentality be flat.
In this way, they will not be led by the other party, a person's mentality is not peaceful, anxiety and internal consumption are too much, it is easy to be extreme, and negative energy will be more.
With the right mentality, the marital feelings are half happy
After the marriage's attraction to each other fades, the mentality, behavior patterns, and thinking of the two people determine whether the marriage is comfortable or not.
To set the right mindset, understand the difference between marriage and love, no one can maintain a passion, never decline.
After marriage, because of the shift in the focus of life, the energy we put on the lover will be significantly reduced. Understanding this and making psychological preparations in advance will effectively reduce the sense of gap.
04
Marriage is not a shackle that imprisons our freedom, we need a positive mindset to keep it alive.
When your mentality is relaxed, no longer have unrealistic expectations for marriage, no longer have resentment towards each other, and always maintain a grateful heart, your life can be sunshine again.
When you are a woman with a full personality, independent and not dependent, your children and your family will also be full of love.
When there is still a hole in your heart that needs to be filled by the other party, emotionally dependent, your home is difficult to be happy.
Although we should relax our mentality in marriage, it is not the mentality of living together, which is an irresponsible attitude.
A relaxed mindset means that we become partners in each other's lives, building a team with shared values, and two people moving toward the same ideas and goals.
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How to have a good mindset?
Healthy body, sunshine good mentality, a person who loves sports must have a good mentality.
A reader and her husband did not communicate much at first, staying at home, and later became much more cheerful after being pulled by a friend to participate in several runs.
Together, they are always positive and enthusiastic about life and willing to try new things.
Marriage is like a shoe, whether it fits or not, only you know, whether in love or marriage, find a person who is consistent with your own three views, cultivate a good mentality together, in order to enjoy the beauty of life together.