Author: Li Shuanglin
Case: Dear Teacher Li: Hello ~ see the letter auspicious! I have been writing to you since September last year, hoping to be selected by you, because I am really confused. From Baidu to pay attention to you, there are almost two years, reading your analysis and explanation feels very in-depth, life advice part of the reading especially feels a lot of benefits, sometimes confused after reading your article mood will suddenly be cheerful, the depths of the heart will be slowly quiet. It feels like your words are like a light that warms people's hearts, and now I listen to your voice every day, read your articles, resolve many troubles, and thank you for the spread of your great love
I am a girl: I was born in a rural family in Jilin Province at 10:00 a.m. on April 13, 1986.
From childhood, the family conditions are not good, the parents are more stubborn people, there are often quarrels in life, the father has a very bad temper, loves to drink, play cards, and rarely goes out to make money, when he is young, he will start a little quarrel with his mother, his mother is a very strong person, he is not used to his father, they will quarrel with less than three sentences, I have always felt that my mother is not easy, take care of our sisters and brothers, the responsibility of the family is basically on the mother, so I have always wanted to study well and go out.
Primary school to junior high school results have been very good, until 2003 in high school, when I went to high school, I suddenly felt a lot of pressure, plus the first time I left home to live in school is very uncomfortable, suffered from depression, during the suspension of school for a period of time, and then back to school, has been intermittent treatment, I will also enlighten myself, do not give myself so much pressure, slowly there is a lot of improvement, but the university exam is not ideal.
After graduating from college in 2009, he was once very confused, and then went to Dalian, the opportunity to enter the education and training industry, has been doing sales posts, in Dalian for 6 years, changed a lot of jobs, each job is very hard to do, but because there is no clear planning and no guidance, has been going around, the position has not changed much.
In Dalian in 2010 with a boyfriend, one year older than me, very good to me, that will be the first time in love, a lot of things ignorant and willful, get along for 3 years when we separated, after the separation of the blow is relatively large, and then the health is getting worse and worse, the family has been letting me go home to develop there, that will not go well.
At the beginning of 16 years, I returned home, thinking about raising my body at home, stayed at home for about half a year, and found that I still could not concentrate on developing at home, so I came to Shenzhen alone.
16 years in the second half of the year to Shenzhen so far, do or education and training industry is now doing semi-sales posts, 18 years, 19 years that will frequently change a few jobs, resulting in the current position has not been high, and the first boyfriend after breaking up about 5.6 years I have not been with others, not no favorite people, but it is difficult for me to enter a relationship, the parents' mode of getting along makes me more resistant to marriage, for the relationship between the two people have no confidence.
In 18 years and 19 years, I tried to contact boys, but found that I was older, and there were several people who could not get along for a long time.
In October 2020, I met my ex-boyfriend, we just started to talk very well, and then I slowly found that he was more emotional, and his work was not smooth a lot of times, often traveling, and often lost his temper.
July 2021 because of a small matter he proposed to break up and blocked me, September and good for a while, now completely separated, very painful, I don't understand why my feelings are always so unsmooth, want to find a suitable person why it is so difficult, if you want to ask the teacher I will have a chance to get back together, he is the solar calendar March 13, 1983 more than 7 pm, if you will get married after being together, how is the marital status, now feelings and work are very confused, stay in Shenzhen or where to go is also very confused, My family wants me to stay at home, I don't want to be at home, but in Shenzhen I don't know if there will be development behind me, and the pressure is also very high.
I hope to be fortunate enough to get guidance from the teacher and guide the direction:
1, because of my own reasons on the work is now only the basic management post, I have also been thinking about reflection, now the national double reduction policy and the epidemic affect the education and training industry is not very good, many of our branches have been merged and closed, if you do not do this line I will do what will be better, can I do something alone, feel that I am under pressure is relatively weak, do not know in which city is suitable for development, suitable for doing something?
2, emotionally is also going around, has not met the right person to get married, now the parents are older and very worried about my things, I am also very anxious, last year met the ex-boyfriend has always wanted to get along well, rushing to get married, but still separated, do not understand why their feelings are always so unsmooth, especially confused, soon to pass the life of the year, do not know when you can meet the right person, when you can get married, do not want to let the family worry, now my health has been bad, Menstruation is getting less and less (with the first boyfriend when unexpectedly pregnant once, that will not want to get married themselves are also very ignorant of the child did not stay, listen to the teacher voice said that the relationship is even if it is a de facto marriage, is as long as the relationship is a de facto marriage), has been drinking Chinese medicine conditioning but there is no effect, now is less and less, but also has been worried that it will not affect the pregnancy and childbirth, I don't know if I can still have children, if there are, how about the children, when will there be, how about I have with them, can menstruation be adjusted Where to look would be better?
3, my mother worked hard when she was young, plus and my father has been unhappy, the body has been very bad, very worried about her, want to see if there is a year behind her that needs special attention (my mother is June 24, 1956 in the lunar calendar, the hour is unknown), what aspects should be paid attention to?
4, I seem to be a great luck conversion year this year, before it was Gengyin great luck, has been uncertain, now is his own ugly big luck, this year I have the idea of wanting to settle down, but I don't know where to set, my next big luck seems to be the pentagram, pentadecyl combined with my star, is it not good, do not know how to live in the old age?
5, my family land and house were expropriated, the compensation standard given is relatively low, many times the communication compensation has not changed, we found a lawyer to intervene, want to ask if this matter can be solved smoothly?
There are many questions above, I hope to get guidance from teachers, thank you very much. Regardless of whether you will be selected or not, you are very grateful to have the honor of listening to and watching your articles, and you will continue to study later, I am very grateful, and I wish the teacher a smooth life and good luck.
Question time: March 21, 2022 (Monday) 0:26 a.m.
Li Shuanglin replied:
Kunzoku: Bing Yin, 癸巳, 乙蹟, 辛巳 (空戌海)
Great Luck: 壬辰, 辛卯, 庚寅, 己 ugly, 戊子, 丁海, 丙戌, 乙酉 (5 years old Shangyun)
unscramble:
This is a weak fate, because Otogi lost his order in the moon, sitting ugly and lost the ground, although ugly hiding decoction water, but the original qi is his own consumption of wood, so sitting ugly and gasless, and in the time of the mi, the local fire and earth are strong and damaged, only the year branch is a Yin wood as the root, but this root is relatively far, the natural help is not big, the original fire is more for the disease, like water for medicine, for the best use of god, Otogi is the wood of flowers and plants, and in the summer, so see the most auspicious decoction water, the original bureau of the moon has decanting water, but unfortunately this decanting water is too weak, fortunately there is Xin Jin to live, the best use of god for water, followed by wood, And the biggest jealousy is earth fire, and the second taboo is gold.
The best water to use, first of all, is that the growth of Otogi is inseparable from the moisture of water, and secondly, the summer of wood is also inseparable from the conditioning of water. If the original decoction water is too weak, it is powerless to use God, and it is ugly to run itself, and it is using God, so it is bound to have many obstacles and more bumps in the road.
First of all, to analyze the emotional luck, looking for the original bureau official killing star, the moon branch and the time branch fire hide the official star, the day branch hides the seven killing stars, and the time dry out of the seven killing stars, the ground branch, then the official killing, especially the daily branch hides the seven kills instead of the official, but also implies that the husband does not enter the right position, and the partial husband enters the right position.
There is an official in the fire, this official can represent the husband, but the fire is a wounded officer, when the official is hidden in the wounded officer, the marriage is difficult to go smoothly, and his own treatment of feelings is also more willful, and the personality is also relatively arrogant. Because the commander of the wounded officer will have such a personality, he will not accept defeat, and he will not easily admit defeat, which is better for face, and will also damage his emotional fortune.
In particular, when the seven kills are revealed, this seven kills are unfavorable to themselves, and the seven kills are also villains, although there are wounded officers to make the system, but the Nichiki sits and kills, and most of them will encounter bad people.
Xin Jin saw the ugliness into the tomb, for the husband star into the tomb, must open the tomb before he can get married, because of the thorough killing of the Tibetan official, he will experience some failed feelings (de facto marriage) before he can enter the marriage hall.
In numerology, de facto marriage is the mainstay, and the receipt of certificates is only a legal guarantee, as for holding a wine banquet is only a folk custom, and will not affect the fact that the two become husband and wife, but all the things that get along in the form of husband and wife, and do husband and wife things, belong to a marriage, but one-night stands and so on are not counted, for the dew love, not marriage, but the existence of peach blossoms.
Japanese branch for the husband's palace, sitting ugly for taboo, but also for partial wealth, generally the japanese branch is partial to wealth, their own requirements for the other half will be more, but also easy to be deceived by rhetoric, this partial wealth can also represent the other party's eloquence, can speak the Tao, but partial wealth is jealous, it must be unfavorable to themselves, so some rotten peach blossoms around are also more.
Because of the seven killings of the daily branch and the thorough dryness, it is easy to meet some boys younger than themselves in the future.
Because, when dry is small.
Nichi is a husband, but he is united by fire, and there is also the image of a husband.
Nian Zhi Yin Wood is the root, but also the only root of the original bureau, in the year is far away, it is a far root, once the far root appears, you must go out to settle down, because your roots are in the field, so you have to go away.
Yinmu is the root, but the state of Yinmu is not good, because there is a fire and fire, and there is a fire and a lot of wood.
From a health point of view, when the wood is damaged, the liver blood is insufficient, the liver is not very good, and the wood is also a little cervical vertebrae in the year, as well as dizziness, the nervous system is not good, and it will affect sleep and so on.
Secondly, decoction water is too weak, and it is seriously damaged, decanter water also represents menstrual blood, but also represents gynecology, uterus and so on.
Especially in the ugly luck of the self, because the soil has been grammed with decoction, it is more important to pay attention to this problem, and there are more health problems, and there are many places that need attention.
Regarding fortune, the daily branch is ugly for wealth, but there is no system, and it hurts officials and students to be partial to wealth, and the desire to get rich is very large, and the combination of wounded officials + partial wealth is a greedy, not easy to satisfy a person, but such a character is also very harmful to themselves, which will affect their own work and marital feelings.
People who hurt officials and prosperity have greed, their own pursuits are more, and they are more likely to be dissatisfied with the environment they are in, and they are dissatisfied with the people and things around them, so they will complain more.
The symbol that hinders marriage is the seven kills of the original bureau, and the wounded officer star.
Because the fortune star has no system, and the food injury is too heavy, and the great luck can not help the body, so seeking wealth is mediocre, should have a skill, and constantly improve their own value, in order to improve, and relying on luck alone to seek wealth, is very difficult.
The 25-35-year-old Gengyin Great Fortune, the last decade, this decade is also very critical in life, because this decade is related to the implementation of marriage and the determination of work.
The appearance of Gengjin was originally the appearance of the official star, and the combination of Yi Geng, which was a good thing, but there were seven kills in the original bureau, which constituted a mixture of official killings, and in the year, the wounded officer saw the official, and as soon as this official appeared, it was restrained, but it caused an unfavorable effect on the marriage.
Secondly, Yinmu is the root, but it is not advantageous to build a fire in the ground branch, which encourages the anger of the wounded officer.
The original bureau will only be better if it takes water luck, while the rest of the big luck is very mediocre.
In the past ten years, because the official is weak and the official has been injured, it has been unstable in marriage and work.
After the age of 35, he entered his own ugly fortune, this ten years of fortune is not strong, mainly his own soil appeared, went to the decoction water, damaged the Indian star, also gave birth to Xin Jin seven kills, and hurt himself, once the seven kills flourished, then the evil fate will be more, and there are many villains around, and health is also prone to problems, and the pressure on life is also great.
It is all caused by the seven kills attacking the body, and secondly, in terms of the earth branch, it also has a fertile day branch, which increases the strength of partial wealth, once the wealth star is prosperous, and the ambition to seek wealth is also great, it is easy to provoke right and wrong because of money, because they are not responsible for wealth, so this wealth appears, but it is a disaster.
Therefore, in this decade, the desire for wealth should slow down, and secondly, we must pay attention to all opportunities to make quick money, or good things that fall from heaven, perhaps, it is a trap.
2022 Nongyin year, this year is still good, Mizuki helper, much better than last year, last year's ugly seven kills are too heavy, very hard, emotionally more torturous.
2023 癸卯年, see Lu, is also a good year, but it will be more difficult, pay attention to the autumn of the lunar calendar.
In the year of 2024 Kotatsu, nian zhi yin mu is a flowing year stagecoach, and tatsumi enters the tomb, which is also a year of change, and secondly, in this year, we must also pay attention to the mother's body.
The next few years will be more bumpy.
Therefore, in the recent years, it is best to implement marriage, work is the best, try to seek stability in these years, and then you can spend it safely in the years where the fortunes are not strong in the next few years.
After the age of 45, he entered the great luck of the penta, for the big luck of the hijab, the damage to the decoction water, the fortune is not strong.
From the original bureau and the big luck point of view, your health problems are still relatively more, usually pay attention to diet, mood, and exercise, will be conducive to health.
Q: If I don't do this line of work, what will I do better, can I do something alone, feel that I am under pressure, I don't know in which city is suitable for development, what is suitable for doing?
answer:
From the perspective of fate, the wounded officer is so prosperous, it is still more suitable to do sales, you can change to other sales, or engage in consulting, lecturer category work can also be, all have a relationship with the wounded officer.
: From the perspective of orientation, it is more suitable for the development of the north, and the south is not the most suitable direction for themselves.
: From the perspective of Qimen, C is for himself, Luokun Palace, C sees Shen as a sick place, and sees Tianrui Star, wounded door, on the one hand, it also means that you should pay more attention to health, and on the other hand, it also means that your state is not very good, but if you have a value, there will be no big disaster.
Opening the door is work, falling earthquake palace in the air, there is information about change, and opening the door + dec also represents change, decyl is water, representing the meaning of flow. Open the door Kekun Palace, work will bring pressure to yourself, so there will be changes.
At present, it is empty, and the void, filling in the blank in the second month of the lunar calendar, is very stressful at work in February. The second is autumn.
Q: I don't know if I can still have children, if there is, how about children, when will there be, how is my relationship with them, can menstruation be adjusted, where to look will be better? Would you like to ask the teacher if we will ever have a chance to get back together, he was born in 1983 in the solar calendar.
First of all, the health problem, from the fate point of view, health information is very obvious, decanting water is too weak, fire is too heavy, it is easy to have this problem. From the perspective of Qimen, the same is true, the nine stars are yin, there are chronic diseases, Tianrui star + nong in kun palace, then the disease is mostly related to menstrual blood in the abdomen, and nongshui can also represent blood night.
Yi Qi is a traditional Chinese medicine, the Luoqian Palace does not make diseases, and Tianxin does not cure diseases, so the effect of drugs is not great.
More or need their own conditioning, because the Sunda Palace makes the Kun Palace, and the Sunda Palace has a hue gate, which represents rest and conditioning.
: The other party is the year of Decay, and the year of Ying Yin is the year of Ying Yin.
Nine stars are chanting, and the state is not easy to change.
Secondly, C is soil in Kun Palace, and decyl is wood in the Earthquake Palace, the palace position is compatible, and the decay palace is empty, and the six + dead door, it is difficult to compound, even if there is a compound, it will be separated.
Q: This year seems to be the great luck conversion year, before it was gengyin great luck, has been uncertain, now is the ugly big luck, this year I have the idea of wanting to settle down, but I don't know where to set, my next big luck seems to be the penta luck, pentadecyl combined with my printing star, is it not good, do not know how life in the old age?
: Generally speaking, the great luck of entering the soil should be stable, but the ugly is not a good luck, it is best to seek stability, and it is also a great luck for the canopy, and this luck will be more lonely emotionally.
: In your old age, don't worry too much.
Q: My family land and house were expropriated, the compensation standard given was relatively low, and the compensation for many communications did not change, we found a lawyer to intervene, and wanted to ask whether this matter could be resolved smoothly?
The value fu is the plaintiff, tianruixing is the defendant, both are in a palace position, and the opening judge is empty, and he is himself, and the shock door is a lawyer, and it is also empty in the Gong Palace. This matter, just stop at the right time, the result is not very ideal.
Life Advice:
The more you get, the more you lose, and the more you suffer when you lose, the more you will naturally suffer.
The less you get, the less you lose, and the pain you suffer after losing it will also be less.
In this world, everything is balanced by yin and yang, gain is yang, and loss is yin, when the yang is great, it must also be yin, otherwise it will not be balanced, once this balance is lost, there will be all kinds of disasters.
Therefore, losing in many cases is also to balance their own possessions, and if you have always had but did not lose, then such possessions have become a burden and harm.
What a person is most afraid of is not how much he loses, but no matter how much he gains, he does not think that he really has it.
Dissatisfaction is the root of all people's troubles.
When you come to this world, you will always hear such a voice as "it is really tiring to live", why do you feel tired?
If we really feel the root cause of tiredness, we will find that what we are tired of is not daily labor and work, but too much we want, and we can't always be satisfied.
Asking for it is the suffering that everyone is born with, and why is there a lack of asking? Because of the inability to put down greed.
In this world, nothing really belongs to oneself, even if you have it, it is temporarily kept, and one day, everything you have will leave you.
Understanding this truth, we should cherish everything we have now, rather than always thinking about what we don't have, so as to add a lot of troubles to ourselves.
To live this life well, without a good attitude, it is never possible. Even if you have everything, you won't really feel happy.
Wisdom is what we need to pursue, but there are two kinds of wisdom, one is worldly wisdom, and the other is worldly wisdom.
The wisdom of the former comes from the study of books, the knowledge of literature is well-known, and the world's knowledge is proficient, but such people are often arrogant and proud, and easy to argue, always think that they are right, and always like to deny the views of others, they look very learned, very wise, stronger than many ordinary people, but such a life is not happy, because this knowledge, but has become the source of their own countless troubles, as well as the source of impermanent hatred.
This kind of wisdom, after all, is still phased, and it is only a big fuss about the picture, and it is still something that changes, not the eternal truth.
In the end, wisdom is the wisdom of birth, this wisdom can be familiar with the laws of development of all things in the world, and know how to abide by these laws, will not violate the laws, that is, according to the Tao of Lao Tzu to live, to work, will not be easily troubled by some trivial matters.
Truly wise people may not be only eight buckets high, but they must be pure in heart and know enough.
People live a lifetime, and the fight is never who earns more, or who has a high status, but who is more comfortable and free in their hearts.
Being a slave to money is like acting as a power dog in a TV series, and in the end none of them have a good result.
Man is itself an animal of desire, and it is impossible to cut off desire, but the reason why man is human is precisely because he knows how to restrain his desires, because of the difference in binding force, there are different people, and therefore make people have differences in wisdom.
To be pragmatic, all dreams are based on reality in order to be realized. First establish a correct and feasible direction, and then move step by step in this direction, don't care what the result is, the key is to experience the process, whether it is career or feelings.
As a result, many times, it is not something that human beings can decide, but every minute and second of the process is in their own hands, and every step is taken well, leaving no regrets, which is enough in this life.
Final Study: Written by Li Shuanglin himself
On the nineteenth day of February in the year of Nongyin
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