"Heart Residence": What did Feng Xiaoqin, who was treated as an outsider, get from her nest husband, a difficult sister-in-law?
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Release on 2022-03-1911:10
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Feng Xiaoqin dreamed
Wanting to own a house of her own in Shanghai, she came to Shanghai before she was twenty years old and looked for all kinds of things in the city
The city had the opportunity to take root, but she had no academic qualifications and no background, and she could not grasp one.
Gu Lei is one of the many opportunities that Feng Xiaoqin is looking for, and it is also the most reliable opportunity, and the same insurance as buying a house, Gu Lei's family has a small three-bedroom set on the edge of the inner ring road in Pudong, which is convenient to enter and exit, the living facilities are complete, and the total price must be more than eight million.
Although a small part of this house will belong to her in the future, compared to the young people in Naxi Hupiao, who can't afford to buy such a house for a lifetime, Feng Xiaoqin is good, she is very content, but not satisfied.
The gu family is in the same house for four generations, which means that Feng Xiaoqin has to wait until part of this house belongs to her, and she has to wait for decades, and in these decades, she has to serve the Gu family as a cow and a horse, from morning to night, busy feet do not touch the ground.
During this period, full of variables, although Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei's marriage was still relatively stable, there was a big sister-in-law mixed in the middle, and a father-in-law with thin mud, as long as they were there, Gu Lei would not fully listen to her.
Although Feng Xiaoqin has been the daughter-in-law of the Gu family for eight years and has given birth to a son for their family, the Gu family has never really regarded her as their own person, so for Feng Xiaoqin, buying a house with her own name can really be at ease.
Feng Xiaoqin's "war" to buy a house completely brought her relationship with Gu's family to the surface, and between the "relatives" who had lived together day and night under the same roof for more than ten years, there was not much affection, more of a calculation.
Free babysitter, rightfully so
Gu Lei's family is in the same house for four generations, a large family of thirteen people, large and small, every Saturday to Gu Lei's house to gather for dinner, the name of filial piety to Gu Lei's grandmother, who is more than ninety years old but still healthy.
In fact, it is the family who runs to Gu Lei's house to eat a meal, and then conducts a competition at the dinner table, who wants to buy a big house, whose son wants to marry the high-ranking family's thousand gold, and during this period, no one notices that there are two people with the surname Feng in the family.
Feng Xiaoqin and her sister Feng Xixi, who lives in her brother-in-law's house, the sisters are always busy in and out, cold dishes and hot dishes and soups, meat and vegetarian collocations, to put a full eight immortals table, two people to do (to be exact, Feng Xiaoqin alone to do, the sister just can not integrate into the Gu family, can only play with the sister), more than a dozen people to eat.
After a meal, eat less, talk more, the dish should be heated several times, that is, there are always one or two people busy, cooking vegetables, hot soup, fried spring rolls or making wine stuffed dumplings, the dish is hot and cold, cold and hot, back and forth.
After dinner, everyone went home, Feng Xixi accompanied her sister to wash the dishes, the pool was thick with a stack of dishes, one wash, one cleaned, assembly line operation, every week, Feng Xiaoqin and Feng Xixi were used to it.
And even if it is this pile of chores in the kitchen, the Gu family is always guarding against Feng Xiaoqin, Feng Xiaoqin can only cook in the kitchen, and things that involve money like buying vegetables are personally bought by the father-in-law, and Feng Xiaoqin is always excluded by the Gu family in some details.
Everyone said that Feng Xiaoqin was a good daughter-in-law. Once a woman rises to the level of "daughter-in-law", it has little to do with region, education, and appearance, which is another set of evaluation systems and hard indicators.
Feng Xiaoqin's hometown is Anhui, at home is also a hard-working girl, stir-fry cooking, everything can be done, but Shanghai and Anhui people still have great differences in diet, Anhui cuisine is spicy, and Shanghainese like sweet taste.
Feng Xiaoqin, as a daughter-in-law from abroad, the biggest trouble is not to adapt to the taste, but to make authentic Shanghainese dishes that meet the tastes of the Gu family, and Feng Xiaoqin does a good job, even the picky mouth of the grandmother, will not jump out of a few praise words "can", "not difficult to eat", "decent"!
Every morning, Feng Xiaoqin would get up when everyone was asleep and prepare a breakfast that suited the tastes of people of different ages, and the breakfast would be placed on the table, including porridge, pickles, leek cakes, bread, milk, and boiled eggs. There are many people, the breakfast variety is mixed, and the Chinese and Western are combined.
Everything was ready, Gu Lei and his son only got up to wash up with sleepy eyes, the old lady came back from practicing tai chi outside, Feng Xiqian was still lying on the bed, Feng Xiaoqin was holding porridge while adding side dishes, and after eating, he had to clean up for half a day and send his son to school, every day, Feng Xiaoqin was also used to it, and the Gu family also accepted Feng Xiaoqin's pay and labor for more than ten years.
Surface and gas, behind the calculation
For more than ten years, Feng Xiaoqin always squeezed her head and wanted to integrate into this family, but the Gu family always unceremoniously summoned Feng Xiaoqin when working, but psychologically they always regarded her as an outsider, especially gu Qingyu, the social elite sister-in-law.
Feng Xiaoqin's husband Gu Lei and the eldest sister-in-law are heterosembranous twins, Gu Lei was born a minute later, and the appearance and ability of the two people are very different, Gu Qingyu looks beautiful, very heroic, outstanding ability, has long achieved financial freedom.
Gu Lei's facial features are also clean, but somewhat dull meaning, the height is not short, but because of obesity, the whole person seems to be cowering, not straight enough, talking habits frown, Sichuan character pattern is deep like a knife, looking several years older than his sister.
Feng Xiaoqin often said: Although there are few people in the family, it is also a small society, soldiers will come to block, water will come to cover, fighting wits and courage, the outsiders are actually not bounded, the routine is all used in their own families, interesting, not interesting.
But for Feng Xiaoqin, this is actually her and the Gu family's society, because she always stands alone and fights with the Gu family, she has no bad heart, the Gu family has no bad heart, but no matter what, it is impossible to become a family that works together, and the Gu family always feels that Feng Xiaoqin marries Gu Lei, which is a plan.
Feng Xiaoqin does have a plan, she just wants to take root in Shanghai, although the Gu family can't figure out what Feng Xiaoqin looks at Gu Lei, but Feng Xiaoqin does have feelings for her husband, although Gu Lei has no ability and opinion, but he is very kind, very good to his wife, and the relationship between husband and wife has always been very good.
But as long as There is Gu Qingyu, the "sister", there is the obstruction of the old lady and the father-in-law, Gu Lei will never fully listen to her words, and even if he wants to teach her husband a lesson, the family will come out to obstruct and educate the little tiger, and he will always be prevented, which makes Feng Xiaoqin very distressed.
This means that Gu Lei can never grow into a responsible man, the little tiger will always be doted on by the elders, and when he grows up, he is likely to become a cowardly person like Gu Lei, without the responsibility that a man should have, so Feng Xiaoqin wants to buy a house to move out and have his own independent space.
Gu Lei has not been seeking progress, although he does not dare to express his opinion on the matter of buying a house, in fact, he has always voted against it, because he is afraid that after going out, he will be forced to grow by Feng Xiaoqin, at that time, there was no one to protect him, he could not fight Feng Xiaoqin, so he always vaguely coped with Feng Xiaoqin.
Since Feng Xiaoqin married Gu Lei, Gu Lei asked her to quit the job that was not paid much, come back to take care of the Gu family, old and young, no income, all of them spent their husband's money with their palms up, by the care of their father-in-law, by the help of the eldest sister-in-law, relying on Gu Lei's little salary and provident fund, it was completely not enough to buy a house.
Feng Xiaoqin thought of borrowing money, but as an "outsider", the matter of borrowing money naturally could not be opened by him, so Gu Lei was forced by his wife to borrow money from Gu Qingyu, and Gu Qingyu did not want to lend money to them, on the pretext that he wanted to buy a house, and could not turn around.
In fact, Gu Qingyu did not have no money to lend Feng Xiaoqin to buy a house, but was unwilling to let Feng Xiaoqin get her wish, because Feng Xiaoqin had always been an outsider in their hearts, Gu Qingyu called his brother and father to the room and instructed Gu Lei and his father:
If you want to buy a house, no matter how much money I can lend you, but if it is her meaning, and you are not so approveable, it is another matter, you have to understand that you are the head of the family, she has ideas can not she say what is what it is! Dad, I reckon she can't borrow money today, she may borrow it from you, you must not be soft and agree to it!
Although Feng Xiaoqin is recognized as a good daughter-in-law, the life behind her is actually very unbearable, even her sister Feng Xixi feels angry for her sister, and there are powerful sisters-in-law in her hometown, but after all, it is different, those people are all powerful in their mouths, and as soon as they open their mouths, they shake the bottom away, but it is not difficult to deal with.
The difficulty is that Gu Qingyu is this, first of all, it is clear, each person sweeps the snow in front of the door, keeps a distance, and secondly, he is polite, his face does not show a little ugly, his speech is also soft, and the appearance of the reader is different from others. The outside is smooth, and the spikes are long inward, like corns on the feet. Unless it is uprooted, the more it hurts the more it is touched, and it does not look strange on the surface, and even the screaming cannot be talked about.
3. Feng Xiaoqin's counterattack was loud and clear
The Gu family is all managed by Feng Xiaoqin alone, everyone feels that this is her responsibility, it should be taken for granted, all pushed to her, Gu Qingyu is the eldest daughter of this family, and also has the responsibility to take care of the elderly, but Gu Qingyu feels that she naturally has its own reason for not taking care of the elderly, she told her girlfriend:
Feng Xiaoqin's idea is right, the daughter-in-law can take care of the elderly, why can't the daughter? There are two kinds of truths under the sky, there is one that can be put on the table to speak, taking care of the elderly everyone is responsible, who if you say it is not good, you will definitely be scolded, but there is another kind, it may not be able to put it on the table to talk about it, everyone also recognizes, it is ugly to say it, my brother's conditions are not good, but Feng Xiaoqin, who was two years older than my brother, was like an ant staring at the feet of a heron, desperately chasing my brother to the hand, you say why!
Feng Xiaoqin just became a Shanghainese, wanted to have a home in Shanghai, but they thought so badly, Feng Xiaoqin is also a smart woman, the sister-in-law does not borrow money, the father-in-law is also vague, everyone feels that her efforts are taken for granted, but also feel that taking her is a favor, Feng Xiaoqin is not convinced, played the era of running away from home, leaving the mess to them to deal with.
Usually the family gets up, there are hot rice hot dishes waiting, Feng Xiaoqin is not in the early morning, the cold pot cold stove, the family old and young people get up and do not understand anything, the hands are busy, the old lady does not even know how many pills to take, the father-in-law in the kitchen is hot a few cold buns, the little tiger will not even wear socks, Gu Lei sent his children to school and crippled himself...
As Feng Xiaoqin's relatives said, this family can leave anyone, only can not do without Feng Xiaoqin, Feng Xiaoqin went out, the family has no one to take care of, looking for a nanny may not be able to find such a caring, but in Gu Qingyu's heart, Feng Xiaoqin is not even as good as a nanny.
Gu Qingyu's birthday, Feng Xiaoqin knitted a towel for her with a needle and a thread, although he used his own careful machine to buy a LV sign to sew it, but Gu Qingyu did not even look at it, like a waste product sent to the nanny at home.
Feng Xiaoqin was not there, the family became a pot of porridge, Gu Qingyu asked Gu Lei to cheat her back, the result was still unwilling to lend her money, only willing to write his house on the name of his father and little tiger, lend it to Feng Xiaoqin to live, the money to be wasted in the middle is more than the money lent to Feng Xiaoqin, Gu Qingyu would rather waste it than let her do it.
What is even more excessive is not not to borrow money and not care about the family, but to unite with a group of seven aunts and eight aunts of the Gu family to take turns to satirize Feng Xiaoqin, saying that she bought a house as a selfish act, although it is Gu Lei as a target, but the person who pointed out that Sang scolded Huai was Feng Xiaoqin:
I heard that you want to buy a house, Gu Lei, I can tell you, buying a house is a big thing, have you considered your father and grandmother? You just moved out like that, what do you tell them to do? You plan to let the two old people live on their own, you really want to come, the distance of a bowl of soup is also two stops, and when you send a bowl of soup, it will have already cooled down!
Although Feng Xiaoqin is a foreign daughter-in-law who "climbs high" with Shanghai natives, and strives to be thorough in everything and make everyone satisfied, she is not the kind of person who can swallow her anger and can be abused at will.
I know you all think it's a big deal, gu Lei didn't just skip a class, and there was no prostitution and no gambling, what did I do with such a big temper? I'm so anxious to do something, I don't have a good mentality with you, you take it slowly, don't worry about it will be fine later, I can't, I'm in a hurry!
I don't keep an eye on him now, in the future with him to drink the northwest wind is not you, I and the little tiger, you all know that the conditions in my home are not good, I have no sense of security since I was a child, so I have to plan for something as soon as possible, the little tiger is now in the first grade, and in the blink of an eye, I will go to junior high school, I should buy him a house of 2 million yuan, not too much, right?
Today you two came to know why I was advised not to buy a house, right? I don't understand why so many people don't want me to buy a house, why? To say selfish, I have selfishness, I want to buy a house of my own belongs to my own Feng Xiaoqin's own house, and live a good life with my husband and two people, who am I hindering?
Dad, you say a word of conscience, I have been in the Gu family all these years, have I ever done a thing that is sorry for Gu Lei? Or I said on my face that I want to divorce Gu Lei, you are so uneasy that I am so defensive of me, Gu Lei I have been in your family for eight years, I just married you and you asked me to resign, you told me that there are two old people in the family to take care of, and there is a child, eight years, you hire a nanny is also hundreds of thousands, or in your eyes, I am not even as good as a nanny!
Feng Xiaoqin's words, said her anxiety, but also said her grievances, as a foreign daughter-in-law, want to integrate into the family, and a big family of local people to fight wits and courage, it is really not easy, eight years of youth, for a big family to do free nanny, it is not worth it.
Although Feng Xiaoqin can marry a Shanghai native, with a Shanghai hukou, it is already very successful, but as a woman, Feng Xiaoqin's life is actually a failure, with her enthusiasm and self-motivation, relying on her own efforts to break through, may be able to break out of the wider world.
But Feng Xiaoqin put her hopes on Gu Lei, who had no fighting spirit, and as a result, Gu Lei was still a dou who could not be supported, and Feng Xiaoqin's growth began with Gu Lei's death, but missed the growth of the first eight years for marriage, which was too much to lose.
Feng Xiaoqin attached her first eight years to Gu Lei, so that she had to grow up from scratch later, as if she had suffered a lot after the disaster, so it was really too difficult to start from scratch.
As wives, we should be like Feng Xiaoqin, sincerely treat each other's families, sincerely love our husbands and children, and strive to supervise their growth.
But as a woman, you must not be like Feng Xiaoqin, using marriage for a future, giving up growth, so that not only can not get what you want, but also lose the dignity of being a human being, and be looked down upon.
So no matter when, we should live soberly and understand, make ourselves stronger, exercise our ability to live well without a man, only with the independence of Gu Qingyu, can we better control life, such a person, it is easier to get happiness.