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The philosopher Alain de Botton once said: "Much of the pain in marriage comes from the misleading romantic conception of love." ”
The romantic view of love leads us to believe that we will meet a perfect partner who can save us from poverty, dispel our loneliness, and bring us a happy experience that we have never had before.
However, any definite relationship is bound to go through the polishing of time and the test of years. Perfect marriage is rare, unsatisfactory is the norm of marriage, and marriage itself will be full of regrets.
48-year-old Zhu Jianmin (pseudonym), divorced, freelance, although a rural person, but with the upside down house, coupled with his own cleverness and efforts, now has 3 houses in Changchun, a year income of more than 100,000.
It is reasonable to say that on the condition of Big Brother Zhu, not to say that he is the fifth elder of the Diamond King, at least it should be the fragrant food of the marriage market, but his blind date road is not smooth, talking about this regret, Brother Zhu said that the biggest obstacle to his blind date is because of his children.
When he first divorced, he chose to leave because his ex-wife could not have children, so now the first condition for him to find a partner is to have a child of his own. However, for him who is already 48 years old, it is not easy to find a suitable other half, find a young man who is afraid that he can't control it, find a person who is quite old and has already passed the optimal childbearing age, and few are willing to have children for him, so it has been dragged on until now.
According to the conditions of Brother Zhu, Hongniang found a particularly suitable object for him, that is, Wang Guanying (pseudonym), who is still unmarried, Wang Dajie is 44 years old, has a bachelor's degree, and is currently a pharmacist in a hospital.
Knowing that the other party is still a yellow flower girl, Brother Zhu instantly dug up the treasure, learned that Sister Wang sprained her foot some time ago, and before meeting, he also deliberately went to the pharmacy to buy ointment for the treatment of bruises for the other party.
When we first met, talking about the reasons why she had been single for many years, Sister Wang said that she was a more traditional girl, and she was born in a medical family, in fact, there were many people chasing her, but she was bent on finding a talented man like her father, but unfortunately she had not met the right one, so Ning Que did not even talk about love now.
Single for many years, Wang Dajie talked about her mate selection standards, in addition to being talented, she also said two points, that is, good character and high quality, although it sounds relatively easy to achieve, but with Wang Dajie's experience of being single for many years, it is presumably very difficult for ordinary people to enter her eyes.
Hearing that Sister Wang was still a blank piece of paper, Big Brother Zhu on the side was happy to blossom in his heart. Talking about the first impression of the female guests, Brother Zhu said: "She is very stable, but very simple, contact
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The surface is relatively narrow and there are fewer problems to consider. ”
Sister Wang has been guarding her body like a jade for love for many years, and Brother Zhu has been living for many years, and she only wants to find a suitable woman to have a child for him.
Perhaps it is that Sister Wang's requirements are relatively high, or it may be that many blind date failures have made Brother Zhu more and more unconfident, he said that he is an ordinary person, and may not meet the requirements of Sister Wang in many aspects, and may not be her dish. But since he had already arrived, Brother Zhu did not intend to give up on this, he still tried hard to fight for it.
Since his greatest wish is to be able to become a father, in order to impress the woman, Brother Zhu first expressed his regret for not having children, in his view, children are the continuation of life, life with children is called normal, and life without children is missing a lot of color in his opinion.
Hearing Elder Brother Zhu's heartfelt words, Sister Wang deeply agreed and said that in her life plan, if she married, she would definitely have a child of her own.
Since both sides agree on the issue of having children, can they really hold hands and succeed? When it comes to the impression of Big Brother Zhu, the picky Sister Wang said that they do not seem to be the same type of people from the perspective of speech and personality.
Brother Zhu said that the first meeting can not see whether each other is really suitable, and hopes to continue to communicate for a period of time to understand each other more.
Although Big Brother Zhu tried hard to fight for it, Sister Wang, who followed the feeling, still rejected him.
After experiencing the failure of her first blind date, Red Niang introduced a younger, 39-year-old Xie Fang (pseudonym) to Brother Zhu. Sister Xie is 171 tall, and she is a tall actress on a model team.
Although God gave Sister Xie a beautiful face and a good figure, it gave her a lot of suffering. 11 years ago, she unfortunately suffered from cancer, and her cruel ex-husband not only abused her domestically, but also ruthlessly abandoned her, but fortunately, she finally overcame the disease and now basically controls the disease.
On the day of the blind date, the careful Sister Xie also warmly prepared noodles for everyone, which was a particularly virtuous type at a glance.
Seeing that the female guest Zhang Luo was cooking noodles, while The elder brother Zhu on the side was wrapping his hands around his chest the whole time, looking like he didn't care about himself, the red lady quickly rounded the field to let him help get the dishes and chopsticks. After eating, Sister Xie also specially took Brother Zhu to visit the model team where she worked, which was particularly warm and thoughtful.
The gentle and kind Sister Xie talked about her ex-husband's domestic violence, and still has palpitations in her heart, she said that her ex-husband not only took the wire to smoke her covered in blood, but even nailed herself with a latte, which was inhumane.
Hearing what happened to Sister Xie, Elder Brother Zhu on the side said that it was painful to listen to, and at the same time said: "I want to have a daughter-in-law to give birth to my son, and I will provide her up every day." ”
In the face of the fate of The bumpy Sister Xie, Brother Zhu did not have the good sense to directly say the words of having a child, but first told the story of himself and his ex-wife. Brother Zhu said that he and his ex-wife have always wanted children after marrying, but unfortunately because of his ex-wife's physical reasons, he has not wanted to go up, at first he thought he could be cured, but after five or six years of hard work, he still failed, so not having children has become his biggest regret.
After listening to Brother Zhu's words, Sister Xie deeply understood, in her opinion, for a person who wants children, it is indeed a very devastating thing to have children all their lives, so she can understand Brother Zhu's mood of wanting children.
On the one hand is the elder brother Zhu who is eager to seek children, and on the other side is the sympathetic elder sister Xie, can they hold hands and succeed this time?
Just when Brother Zhu was full of expectations, Sister Xie told him with special regret: "My condition does not allow me to get pregnant again." ”
Talking about this relationship, Brother Zhu said that if it were not for the problem of the child, they would definitely be particularly suitable, and Sister Xie was also particularly optimistic about the character of Brother Zhu, although they were optimistic about each other, but unfortunately because of the birth reasons, they could only miss it.
Life is like a road full of unknowns and challenges, walking on this road, facing countless choices every day. Every choice we make determines the direction of our future lives.
Big Brother Zhu, who wants to continue his life, has repeatedly tried but can't ask for it; Sister Wang, who wants love, has not been able to meet the right person until she is 44 years old; Sister Xie, who is dedicated to goodness and hard work, has been tricked by fate. From the 3 protagonists of the blind date, we can see that no matter what state you face life in, it seems that you will be full of regrets.
There is no perfect choice in the world, it is all about getting some and losing some. At this time, some easy things are chosen, and there must be some difficulties at that time. No matter what kind of choice you make, there will be all kinds of uncertainties, and regret itself is the norm of life.
In fact, for the encounter between Brother Zhu and Sister Xie, it is quite regrettable, after all, it is rare to meet a person who appreciates each other in life, but it is a pity that because of the child, they chose to let go.
Regarding the mode of married life, Bai Yang has long said: "Married people, half-open eyes and half-closed eyes, there is no perfect man or woman in the world." If your eyes are open for too long, or if you look in the mirror for too long, I am afraid that even God can pick out the faults. ”
About marriage, about life, sometimes it may not be so true, and when you meet it, you will be brave and move forward, after all, all choices will have regrets.
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