A photo of a mother and daughter eating in a restaurant caused a heated discussion, and many netizens forwarded it to share. A few photos look like a mother taking her daughter to a restaurant for dinner, but the restaurant owner who uploaded the photo said that he was worried about the future of his child.
Bao Mom took her daughter to the restaurant to eat, and the food gap between the two was too big
It is not difficult for attentive people to find that the food in front of the mother and daughter in the photo is very different. In front of her daughter was a rich set menu with meat and vegetables, and her mother's was a bowl of instant noodles.
Some people may say, "Maybe my mother just wants to eat noodles and doesn't want to eat?" Another person said: "Parents are like this, leaving delicious and expensive things to their children, and fooling around with themselves." ”
But a closer look reveals that this little girl, who looks like a 3 or 4-year-old, has been playing with her phone and not looking at the delicious meal in front of her, while her mother is eating instant noodles, she is worried that her daughter is hungry just playing with her mobile phone, so she simply feeds her.
The daughter took her mother's services for granted, and was busy playing with her mobile phone while "eating to open her mouth", and even showed impatience with her mother's slow feeding.
Obviously, the daughter's willfulness is caused by the mother's "doting", because the mother did not urge and blame the daughter for only playing with the mobile phone and not eating well.
After the mother and daughter finished eating and leaving, the restaurant owner who saw this scene could not help but sigh and deeply worried about the future of the child.
Some netizens sharply commented: "A child who 'comes from clothes to reach out and eat to open his mouth' will eventually be raised by his parents as a 'wasted person'." ”
Some netizens also think: "Isn't it very common for parents to feed their children?" It's just a feeding, which is so serious. ”
There are also many netizens who said: "Love is not coddling, parents love their children should grasp the scale, otherwise it will ruin the child." ”
How old is it to feed your child?
"Baby, open your mouth, ah!"
"Baby, don't patronize and play, come over and feed you."
The problem of children's eating has always plagued many parents. When the baby is young and cannot eat on his own, parents usually send it to the mouth one by one.
However, even if the child learns to take a spoon and chopsticks, he is always half-hearted when eating, eating while playing, slow and picky eating, so parents will often take the bowl and chopsticks to continue to feed their children.
However, this habit of feeding is difficult to change once it is formed, and once no one feeds, the child will not eat well, and naturally delay the long body. So, how big is it to feed your child?
Experts believe that babies over one and a half years old already have the ability to eat independently.
At this time, the child is in the "golden period" of brain development, exercising the baby to learn to eat independently, not only can save the trouble of parents feeding, but also exercise the child's hand-eye coordination ability and promote intellectual development.
If parents are not willing to let go at this time, it will not only affect the growth and development of children, but also become doting children step by step.
In the short term, parent feeding can affect a child's digestive function and appetite control. Because sometimes children do not know how to refuse, it will cause too much feeding and overnutrition, overweight and so on.
In the long run, parent feeding can lead to dependence on children. After going to school, they will not eat by themselves, lack the ability to be independent, and will only escape and give up when they encounter difficulties, and become "nibbling on the old people" and so on.
These are not alarmist, parents should not underestimate the harm of "doting on children".
It is not advisable for parents to spoil their children
Over-arranged
Parents over-arranging everything about their children is the most common act of coddling, not only feeding, but also all aspects of life, from dressing and shoes for children, washing their faces and brushing their teeth, to planning a future path for their children.
First, it leads to the child's lack of self-care ability and becomes a "life idiot" who will not do anything; second, it leads to the child having no opinion, everything obeys the parents, and they cannot make their own decisions step by step, work, and even get married.
Differentiatement
This is not an isolated case for mother and child, and the differential treatment of children is a common family phenomenon. The family is always the best thing to give to the child, which will make the child become self-centered, selfish, domineering and willful.
Not only at home, children also enjoy this kind of high-minded treatment outside, and treat their classmates and friends differently, which is likely to evolve into school bullying and bullying. Similar phenomena are very common in primary and secondary schools, and parents should pay attention to them.
Pampering and indulgence
The bad behavior of parents to protect and condone children is one of the most criticized acts of coddling, and this is how "bear children" are produced. When children do something wrong, parents always use "the child's young age" as a shield.
With the support of parents, children will not realize their mistakes, and they will become more intense and unscrupulous. "Young age and ignorance" is not a reason for children to act arbitrarily, and parental doting and neglect may lead to children eventually causing disasters.
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