With the development of society, the pace of people's lives is getting faster and faster, and many people live a two-point and one-line life, and they have little time and energy to think about other things, such as having children.
Because of the high cost of living and the high pressure, many people choose Dink, or only have a child, this choice seems to be able to make themselves more relaxed, but there is a problem that they have to face.
That is, childless families and one-child families, all kinds of dilemmas faced in old age.
For example, emotional problems, the elderly are childless and lonely, emotions have no sustenance, and life will become boring.
We have seen more than once the Dinks all kinds of dashing when they were young, but when they enter middle age, they begin to become sentimental, begin to fight between life and inadvisibility, and in old age, they can only sigh alone.
Most of Dink's later years are desolate, and the scenes are very sad.
Of course, if you choose to do dink and your body has been in good health, it is better. But when people reach old age, who doesn't have some pain? At that time, the childless under the knee take care of the life of the elderly, unless they are very rich, life is still very sad.
Of course, the situation of one-child families may not be very optimistic.
One of my neighbors is a 70-year-old lady whose wife left early, and she has only one daughter, who is in her forties, and she also has a family, there are children in the family, and there are in-laws who need to be taken care of by their daughters, so it is difficult to take care of both sides.
What is even more helpless is that the neighbor's old lady accidentally fell while walking not long ago and needed hospitalization, but there was no one to take care of it, and her daughter was married far away, and she did not know what to do for a while.
Neighbors all said to call the old lady's daughter and let the daughter rush over, but the old lady insisted on not letting the phone call, it was obvious that the old lady did not want her daughter to worry, and she was afraid that her daughter would leave her family's work behind, so far away, there would be dissatisfaction in the in-laws' side.
In the end, it was the neighbors who paid for the old lady to hire a nurse, and the old lady lived for more than half a month before being discharged from the hospital.
This is the helplessness of a one-child family, if you have a daughter and marry far away, like the old lady of the neighbor, it is even more difficult. When you are old, there is no one around to take care of it, and I don't know when there will be problems again, do you have to rely on your neighbors every time? Obviously not very practical.
Wouldn't a family be better off if they had a son, or if their daughters were married close? It's going to be a little better, but it's also quite tiring. If the elderly have any problems, there is not even a person to discuss, all things are carried by themselves, not to mention that the children also have their own careers and families, and it is impossible to stay by the side of the elderly at all times.
Since childless families and one-child families have so many difficulties in old age, why do so many people still resolutely choose Dink or have only one child?
There are several reasons for this:
1. As mentioned at the beginning, the economic problem, raising children is too expensive, it is easy to raise children, but it is much more difficult to educate children well, with the development of society, the cost of educating children is also rising rapidly.
It is said that parents are the starting line of the child, so if the parents are not financially strong, then your child will start to lose before he runs.
2. Energy considerations, but all families who have experienced a child will hesitate before giving birth to a second child, because it is not easy to pull the boss bigger, can be easier, and have to experience the pain of taking a baby again, and the days when a child sleeps into luxury are vividly remembered, and anyone will hesitate.
3. Some people who do not have a second child are out of love for one child, they think that if there is one more child, there is no way to treat two children fairly, and they simply do not have a second child.
In addition, there are also some parents who originally had the idea of having a second child, but after consulting the child's opinion, the child clearly expressed his opposition to the parents having a second child, so this part of the parents are also embarrassed, the time is delayed again and again, and then the matter will not be resolved.
4. Not having children, or having only one child, there are also objective factors, comparing physical problems, having children has become a luxury, and can only be spent in cold eyes and ridicule.
Some people joke that the purpose of having children is only to prove that they can have children, so it is enough to have one; in other words, if you can't have children, you will become the laughing stock of others.
Since we are talking about the situation of childless families and one-child families, does it mean that families with many children must be very happy?
Of course not, there are two sides to everything.
My aunt gave birth to two sons and two daughters, but the children grew up to run to things, develop independently, usually encounter anything will push three obstacles, children are not in harmony, neither willing to contribute, nor willing to contribute, so the aunt often sighed, what is the use of having so many children, and when they are old, they have to rely on themselves.
Therefore, in families with many children, if the children do not have a sense of responsibility and do not fulfill the obligation to support their parents, then when the parents are old, the evening scenery will also be very desolate.
On the contrary, if a family with only one child can educate the child well, the child is filial piety, and the sense of responsibility, then one is better than ten.
So whether it's a childless family, a one-child family, or a multi-child family, I think if you want to live a more relaxed life after getting old, you need to solve two problems.
1. Educational problems.
It is very important to educate the child well, let the child have a strong sense of belonging to the family, have a sense of responsibility, and be willing to work together to pay for the family and jointly maintain the family relationship.
2. Economic problems.
As the saying goes, playing iron also needs to be hard.
Regardless of whether there are children or not, how many children there are, we must improve our financial ability, try to save as much as possible, and live better after old age.
This is a very real question that deserves everyone's serious consideration.
To talk about my point of view, if possible, if conditions permit, I will have a few more children, on the one hand, I like to be lively, watching the children grow up one by one, this process is very fulfilling. In addition, the children also take care of each other, and if they really encounter any problems, they can also discuss with each other.
Of course, the premise is still what I said above, it is very important to educate children well and let children work together.
I wonder what you think of childless, one-child families and multi-child families?