Being single has more time to do what you love, not being disturbed by other things, and not being swayed by emotions.
I prefer a life of being left unattended to being swayed by emotions.
I saw an interesting clip of a beggar holding a bouquet of flowers proposing to a beautiful woman who said I don't like beggars and I like people with jobs, so the beggar went to find a job and moved bricks at the construction site.
The worker took the flowers and proposed to the beautiful woman, and the beautiful woman said that I did not like the worker, I like the learned people, and the beggar went to study and became a doctor.
Many years later, the doctor took the flowers and continued to propose to the beautiful woman, and the beautiful woman told him that I don't like learned people, I like handsome men, and the doctor immediately went abroad for plastic surgery after listening to it.
The doctor proposed to the beautiful woman again as a handsome man, and the beautiful woman almost did not recognize it, and then said to the handsome man: I don't like the handsome man now, I like the doctor.
The handsome man suddenly fell to the ground after hearing the flower he was holding in his hand and turned to leave.
A guy who doesn't like you doesn't like you no matter what you become. Saying an image that doesn't match your current identity is just to make you give up.
Miyazaki said that if you like a person and try to get close to him, if he sees you coming over and has no intention of greeting you, then you stop, the world can do anything, only feelings can not be.
A person who does not want to be with you will be separated even if they are barely together until the end. Some people are determined to live and die at a glance, and at the beginning they don't like to accept it no matter how hard you try afterwards, of course, there are exceptions, but after all, they are a minority.
If you don't meet the right person, live well, and Heaven will not fail those who work hard to live.
You don't have to make roses, you can make daisies, lilies, Kelsang, and be the unique self of all sentient beings.
Zhang Guorong said:
If you like a guy let him go, if he comes back, then he will always be yours. If he doesn't come back, he's never yours.
Don't be afraid of loneliness, loneliness will make you grow, give you time to precipitate yourself, improve yourself.
Being single is the best period of appreciation, slowly find yourself, understand what you really want, keep learning, and constantly improve yourself.
Reduce expectations so that you will not be disappointed
Recently, the Civil Affairs Bureau has changed a new slogan:
If that person pampers you, it doesn't matter if you get a license or not. If that person doesn't love you, the law can't protect you, because the law can't hold people's hearts.
We all want to have a good love, a happy marriage, but the reality is not satisfactory. It makes more sense to go in both directions than wishful thinking.
Once people have expectations, their mood will also change, and once they do not meet their expectations, they will feel disappointed.
The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment, and the best way not to disappoint yourself is to lower the expectation and shift your attention from others to yourself.
You expect to meet better people and also expect to meet better, cultivate yourself to give others a perfect lover.
Asking more of yourself will make you more independent, asking less of others will reduce your disappointment, and you'd rather spend more time cultivating your imperfect self than wasting time expecting perfect others.
Adjust your mindset and think in the good
If two people have the same conditions, then the last fight is the mentality.
A good mentality has a decisive role in success or failure, such as exams, a bad mentality may lead to abnormal play, participate in the game, a bad mentality may lose the game, participate in the performance, a bad mentality may be out of the ordinary.
The world is what you see as the world is what it is, and positive psychological cues may make things work for the better.
Imagine a person selling vegetables on the street, because the business is not good, he frowns bitterly, and others pass by and see this bitter melon face and turn around and leave.
I have seen a man selling vegetables, leisurely and leisurely every day, sometimes humming songs, especially dashing, and I also told my friends that he was so dashing that I wanted to call him dashing brother.
However, his business is also particularly good, many people like to buy vegetables at his place, and he has a smile on his face every day. If it were you, you would choose which stall to buy it at, and the result is self-evident.
Don't be anxious, the rhythm of life is different from that of people. Some people make noodles for 3 minutes, some people cook soup for 3 hours, and some people's takeaways have been delivered. Some people get married at 20 but make a mess of their lives, while others are single at 30 and live like many people want.
Anon. wrote in the Cautionary Tale of Sage Diligence:
The sword blade came out of the grinding, and the plum blossom fragrance came from the bitter cold.
Polish yourself well, leave the rest to time, and endure loneliness to keep the prosperity.
Even if there is no applause, we must strive to move forward.
Strive to improve yourself
Constantly learning new things to make yourself more competitive, body and soul always have to have one to be on the road.
When you become more and more beautiful, your body is getting better and better, and you are getting better and better, where there is still time to suffer from gain and loss, everything you want will come as promised, and there will be love in bread.
Everything is changing and developing, and there is no immutable thing.
Nietzsche has a saying in The Knowledge of Happiness:
When you get a thing and get used to having it, you slowly feel tired. But in fact, the thing you once cherished has never changed, you are still looking at it with the original eyes, so you will feel that it is tasteless. As your curiosity about life wanes, the easier it is for you to get bored with it.
If you are constantly growing and changing yourself in your life, then what you once cherished will also make you continue to cherish, rather than tired of it.
It is necessary to look at problems with the perspective of development, continuously learn, and keep up with the pace of the times. Every seed of effort you sow now will blossom at some point in the future.
Lifelong learning, there is an opportunity to learn must be firmly grasped, the opportunity must not be lost and will not come again.
Single is the best value-added period, survive the days of no one's attention, you will usher in poetry and far away.
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