Filial piety to the elderly has been a traditional virtue since ancient times, so many parents hope that their children can be filial to themselves when they grow up, especially in their later years, they are very much in need of their children. However, some parents, when they are old, do not get the filial piety of their children, but provoke their children to dislike. In fact, this is really resentful of others, because they have stepped on these mine pits when they are young.
Old Li is now 60 years old, and at this age he can retire honorably and enjoy his own life. However, for the people around him, Lao Li's living state is really lamentable. Although old Li has a son, the son is also very good, shrewd and capable. But the relationship between Old Li and his son has always been very bad. Old Li would be jealous when he saw that other people's children could be filial to his parents, because his son had never been filial to himself.
At first, everyone thought that Old Li's son was a white-eyed wolf, but after learning a series of things, everyone knew that Old Li was to blame himself. It turned out that Old Li had made a very big mistake when he was young, that is, he would never be filial to his parents. Old Li has always played a role of good food and lazy doing in his youth, he has never played a good role model for his children, and even once he loses his temper, he will beat his parents.
And all this is seen by Old Li's son, so when Old Li is old, Old Li's son never gives him a good face, and even deliberately alienates him. Although Old Li's life is very pitiful today, no one around him sympathizes with him, who makes Old Li so bad when he was young?
In fact, this is a very typical example, many people in their later years will be rejected by their children. That's because they did a lot of things that weren't right when they were younger, which led to the fuse.
What kind of thunder pit did the old man who was rejected by his children in his old age step on when he was young?
If you want to make your child an excellent person, then the simplest and most effective way is to cultivate your child's three views. If a child's three views are positive, then they will definitely be good to their parents. However, some parents have never done such a thing, they will never play a good role model for their children, and they will also spread their bad character and bad habits to their children.
For example, the biggest problem of these parents is that they have never been filial to the elderly when they are young, so these things will be seen by the children. When children grow up, it is difficult for them to learn to be filial to the elderly, and they do not understand what is called true gratitude. Therefore, if you really want your child to be filial to yourself in your future life, then you must play an exemplary role for your child when you are young, such as filial piety to the elderly and gratitude to the elderly.
Nowadays, many parents have made a very wrong thing, that is, they cannot treat their children equally, and some parents have a patriarchal mentality, so they will be particularly biased towards individual children. And once such a situation occurs, it will cause a very bad psychological impact on the child. Some children don't get the love of their parents at all when they are young, so they will hate their parents when they grow up.
And those children who have been pampered by their parents since childhood will have a hard time learning to be grateful when they grow up. Therefore, if there are more children in the family, then parents must be equal, do not be biased towards one of the children, because such a practice is not good for the growth of children and the psychology of children.
Many parents have no way to be democratic when facing their children, and they never want their children to choose everything in front of them through their own way, their biggest feature is that they want their children to always listen to their own arrangements, as long as the children's practices are not in line with their wishes, and then they will scold the children. If children are in this high-pressure environment for a long time, then they cannot achieve happiness.
Once their lives become unhappy, they will hate these coercive practices of their parents, then they will naturally dislike their parents. So we don't have to control our children's thoughts in the process of dealing with them, we should give them proper respect, and then be more democratic.
We should let all the choices be in the hands of the children themselves, let them solve the problems through their own ways, let them decide their own future goals, so that they can help the children, and the children will be willing to be filial to their parents when they grow up.
What kind of person the child becomes, it all depends on the parents, so the parents must do everything to the best, so that the child will become a better person, otherwise, the child will inevitably dislike us when he grows up, which is definitely a bad behavior.