Many people are familiar with Zhu Zhu because she has been named the "Most Beautiful Face in the World" for 8 consecutive years. But what everyone doesn't know is that in addition to her beauty, she also has a talent and strength.
When Zhu Zhu was in the golden period of her career, she "married Her Son", married her husband Wang Yunjia outside the circle, and was upgraded to a mother after half a year of marriage.
Some people think that she is forced, but Zhu Zhu said that living in the moment is the most important, if you always consider the result, you will lose the meaning of the moment.
Facts have proved that Zhu Zhu's choice is not wrong, and getting married and having children not only did not affect her career, but made her life more complete. Recently, a letter written by Zhu Zhu to her daughter "Wang Jewelry" became popular, and there was love hidden between the lines.
Zhu Zhu's daughter began to have "separation anxiety" and almost fainted
Zhu Zhu returned to work shortly after giving birth, and the task of taking the baby naturally fell on the parenting sister-in-law at home, and it can be seen from the content of Zhu Zhu's letter that the relationship between the daughter and the parenting sister-in-law is very good.
Some time ago, the parenting sister-in-law took leave to go home, and the 4-month-old baby was very sad and almost fainted from crying.
Zhu Zhu realized that her daughter had begun to have separation anxiety. She must have been very sad for her daughter in her heart, but she couldn't stop working completely.
Sugar mother saw the baby's performance, the mood is still somewhat complicated. The separation anxiety of the 4-month-old baby is indeed, as Zhu Zhu said, the "life problem" that the baby has to face. However, the object of the baby's anxiety is the parenting sister-in-law, which also reflects a situation with a baby.
Many people feel that babies and mothers are the closest, but in reality, many of the babies' closest people are grandparents and grandparents. Even with the nanny and childcare sister-in-law at home, such so-called "outsiders" are closer.
Why do children kiss outsiders? Parents should perhaps reflect
When Candy was a child, I was often busy with work, dragging her to the elderly at home, and Little Candy was also very cooperative with me, and every time I went out to work, I didn't cry or make trouble.
I was happy at first, my daughter didn't seem to have separation anxiety until one day I was at home with my baby and found out that Candy probably didn't care about me leaving the house at all.
When she saw her grandmother go out, her behavior was completely different from before. She would laugh and wave her hand at me, but she would cry a lot as she sent her grandmother away.
To be honest, I was a little jealous at that moment, feeling that the baby did not love me, and the person she loved more was grandma.
I don't know if Zhu Zhu felt the same as Sugar Mother when she saw her daughter. As a star, she may be busier, she is like ordinary mothers, all for life, in the face of the fact that children and outsiders are closer to their mothers, it is helpless.
However, parents who are busy outside should also reflect that busyness is not an excuse. Even if you can't take the baby all day, you can use many ways to maintain parent-child feelings.
When I realized that Little Candy was getting closer to me, I immediately made a change. Soon you can feel that little candy has me in his heart.
Will the baby "cry" because of outsiders? Missing the attachment period of the mother also has no status
0 to 7 months is the initial stage of the establishment of the baby's attachment period, and 7 months to 2 years old is the key period for the establishment of attachment. Missing this critical stage, the mother will also have no place in the baby's heart.
Little babies are naturally dependent on their mothers, but this feeling also needs to be maintained, and even if they are busy, they cannot ignore the key details of getting along with their children.
1) Try to sleep with your baby
The night is the most relaxed and dependent time for babies. People often say that children should kiss whoever sleeps with them, which is not false at all. Because the child will build a sense of dependence in the process and get a sense of security from the person around him.
When he gets used to it, another person to accompany him may not sleep soundly.
Stars like Zhu Zhu often work outside the home for a few days without returning home. However, ordinary parents generally have time after work, so if they can sleep with their babies, they try to accompany them, and miss the best time to establish feelings, which is difficult to remedy.
2) Improve the quality of accompanying your baby
Although many parents say that they want to spend more time with the baby, when he is free, he is absent-mindedly with the baby, does not answer the child's questions, and only cares about playing with the mobile phone.
This way of companionship without communication and emotional communication is no different from not being at home. After reading Zhu Zhu's letter to her daughter. Sugar Mom feels that she is a very hard-working person, and believes that she will also be serious in her free time to accompany her children.
3) The emotions between parents and children are also mutual
There are also some families, although the mother carries the child, but the parent-child relationship is still not very good, which may be related to the mother's attitude towards the child.
When the baby is not yet sensible, the emotional guidance of adults is more important. If the mother often scolds the child, or is emotionally indifferent, then even if she is with the child every day, it is difficult to establish a deep feeling.
Children grow up in this environment and slowly give back to their mothers with the same emotions.
Candy Mother's Heart:
Adults often say how much they love their children, but in fact, children are secretly loving adults in their own way. Pulling the parents and not letting the parents go out to work is not that the baby is making unreasonable trouble. It's that he really doesn't want his parents to be separated for a minute, he just won't express it.
Don't wait until the child is closer to the "outsider" to remember to make up for the parent-child relationship, and the sooner you start to maintain feelings, the more you can "status" in the baby's heart.
【Today's topic】Who is closer to your baby?