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elope?!
This bridge section in the TV series, I did not expect to be staged by 2 underage children.
Xiao Zhang, a 12-year-old girl who lives in Dazhou, and a 15-year-old male netizen in Taiyuan eloped by train, and their parents were stopped by the police after calling the police.
The boy told the police:
"I earn more than 1,800 a month, I rent another home outside, I commute to work for her every day (earn money), she plays with her mobile phone at home or something, I really can't take her to the field, I can still raise her." 」
It turned out that the two children met through playing games, and only knew each other for a few months, and then developed into a romantic relationship.
The girl Xiao Zhang did not want to stay at home because of the conflict between her parents at home, so the boy traveled thousands of miles from Taiyuan by train to pick up Xiao Zhang, and the two returned to Taiyuan.
The two were still full of confidence in their next life, but they did not expect to be "caught" before they got off the train, and finally, the two were sent to the train to Dazhou and Taiyuan respectively.
Children in adolescence, it is the time of rebellion, the body and mind are not yet sound, the inner emotional needs are strong, it is easy to develop a good feeling for the opposite sex into early love.
Is early love scary?
You see it as a beast, it is a terrible demon; if you look at it with a normal mind and guide it correctly, it is the cornerstone of the child's smooth future entry into love and marriage.
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How to judge whether a child is in early love?
Many children's early love will not be revealed to their parents, but because they are worried about being scolded and hidden deeply, so how should we capture the early love signal from the child?
The time has come to test your fiery eyes:
1. Emotional ups and downs, sometimes excited, sometimes depressed, sometimes distracted, sometimes irritable;
2. Suddenly become fond of dressing up and paying special attention to their appearance;
3. Like to watch words describing love, love-related movies;
4. The academic performance suddenly declines, and the learning state is not active;
5. Always call behind the back of the parents, unwilling to tell the reason for going out or come home late.
If your child has the above situation, it means that your child may have fallen in love early!
Auxiliary judgment:
Children who are generally prone to early love have 3 reasons.
First, the lack of gender in the family.
For example, there is no father in the family, and girls are prone to early love; there is no mother in the family, and boys are easy to fall in love early.
Second, the lack of companionship on the part of the parents.
For example, the father is often absent from home, and the child is prone to early love; if the parents are excellent, the child's vision will be high.
Third, classmates influence or children watch some bad movies and impulsively want to make friends.
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What should I do if my child falls in love early?
Some time ago, the Changchun police received an alarm from a citizen.
In a certain community in Changchun, a girl was punished by her parents to kneel in the ice and snow for 3 hours.
The neighbors in the community could not see it anymore, "If this continues, the child will freeze sooner or later, and I will call the police."
It turned out that this girl was now in junior high school, because her early love was discovered by her parents, so she was not allowed to enter the building, and the child was punished to kneel in the ice and snow to reflect.
Can such a rough punishment really make the child stop falling in love early? Is it really for the sake of children?
This question is worth pondering for all of us parents!
Professor Li Meijin, an expert in adolescent psychology, has given parents a trick about children's early love.
1. Communicate with your child by letter
The content of the letter should include these three aspects:
You have to congratulate her on growing up and having someone to appreciate;
You have to tell him that life must go through this important stage, which is very happy, but also very dangerous.
You have to let him know that liking and loving are not the same, falling in love and getting married are not the same, getting married is to be a very loving person, and it is a lifelong responsibility...
2. Talk to your child about the harm and precautions of early love
Dryly said that the teaching of children will not listen, parents should try to use the identity of friends to communicate with the child, let the child feel the love and trust of the parents, so that the child confidently solve the problem of early love.
If it is a daughter, the mother must play the daughter's gossip girlfriend, you can talk to the daughter about how she first looked up to your father? What are his strengths? What are the important qualities in men?
If it is a son, the father must play a good role in the son's spiritual guidance, you can talk to the son about how he looked at your mother in the first place? What are her strengths? What are the best qualities in women?
3. Adopt the method of "saving the country through the curve"
Seriously talk to your child once:
Tell your child that academic performance can only rise, not decline!
The time spent together each week can only be weekends and holidays!
You can't stay overnight without permission, physical contact is limited to holding hands!
It is best to secretly contact the parents of the other child, tell them about this matter, and the parents of both sides supervise together and work together to make the child turn this love into a driving force for learning.
This motivation will also stimulate children to learn better and work hard.
4. Give your child a preventive injection in advance to improve your child's vision
Establish a harmonious family atmosphere, and children wrapped in love will not seek to make up for the lack of love in their hearts.
Parents and children together to explore the concept of love, guide children to establish a correct view of love, and strive to improve themselves, enhance the child's vision, if the parents are great, the child's vision will naturally be high.
As a parent, learning to take advantage of the situation and turn it into a positive driving force is the best policy.
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