This chapter is the first chapter of the column "The Scientific Method of Helping Adolescent Children To Enlighten", which follows the laws of development and uses scientific methods to help children open up.
Every parent wants to raise a child who is enlightened, but what is the enlightenment and how to help the child to enlighten?
Before solving these problems, we must first understand the meaning of enlightenment and define it.
You can also see if the opening I understand is the same as what you understand, and if it is the opening you expect, then it is not too late for you to buy this column. Otherwise, if we understand it differently, then this column may not be what you want, and buying this column is equivalent to spending you money unjustly, which is not what you expect, and it is not what I expect.
So in the first chapter of this column, we must first define what is the opening trick and what kind of open trick problem this column wants to solve.
So what exactly is enlightenment?
What is enlightenment
In fact, before I started writing this column, I had read a lot of columns on the Internet about the opening of the trick, but after reading it, I felt that the opening of the trick they talked about was very different from the opening of the trick that I understood.
In most columns, the authors emphasize that according to their methods, they can be enlightened at any age. If it is according to my understanding of the opening of the trick, this is neither realistic nor in line with the laws of science, so I would like to create this column to explain my understanding of the open trick and teach everyone how to correctly help children to open the trick.
So in my eyes, what does it mean to be enlightened?
In my opinion, children will experience two enlightenments in the process of growing up, and these two openings also represent the two meanings of enlightenment.
The first trick: a sudden and dramatic increase in cognitive abilities
The original problem that was not understood suddenly understood, the problem that could not be done before will suddenly be done, in the eyes of parents, this is the child's trick.
I still remember when I was a kid, it was an enlightening experience.
I was a boy, probably a little late in development, and stayed in kindergarten for a grade because my mom felt that my intelligence was a bit poor and I couldn't keep up with the other classmates. Of course, when I was a child, I didn't feel that my intelligence was not bad, but I really couldn't do the problem. Addition and subtraction are basically not, and the exam is all based on copying others. But then somehow, maybe it is a trick, the original will not be able to do the problem will start to do, learning is getting better and better.
Many columns are about my kind of opening, which is the first time in the process of growing up.
But to be honest, this kind of enlightenment is meaningless, because this kind of enlightenment is inevitable, the result of natural intellectual development, and has little to do with acquired education.
According to Piaget's theory of cognitive development, people's cognitive development has gone through the perceptual motion stage, the pre-operation stage, the specific operation stage and the formal operation stage, and the cognitive thinking ability has gradually improved.
Everyone will go through such a development process, as long as the parents maintain normal parenting, the child will naturally transition to the next level when they reach a certain age.
Parents' acquired education has little effect on this intellectual development and is more genetically controlled.
Even if you try to educate, the basic parenting environment will not change much, and it is impossible to promote the child's cognitive ability to improve by leaps and bounds, and quickly transition from one stage to another.
Therefore, it does not make much sense to analyze or discuss such a trick, parents just need to maintain normal parenting, and at a certain stage, the child will inevitably open up.
The second kind of enlightenment: to generate the internal drive of learning, to learn proactively
Another kind of enlightenment, that is, the second trick that children have to experience in the process of growing up, is that children suddenly fall in love with learning, which has the internal driving force of learning, and without parental discipline and supervision, children themselves actively work hard to learn. I believe that many parents, like me, will think that such children are enlightened.
In those columns about enlightenment, there are fewer people who talk about this kind of enlightenment. In my opinion, this kind of enlightenment is more meaningful. After all, the first kind of enlightenment, whether parents teach or not, children will open the trick sooner or later, so it doesn't matter whether parents learn or not. But this second trick is not necessarily the case. It should be said that most children have a hard time prescribing this trick. Therefore, it is very necessary for parents to learn how to help their children open this trick and let their children have an internal driving force for learning.
After all, this is the key to determining whether a child can get good results in the final decision.
Once the child has learned this trick, without parental supervision and control, the child will actively learn. Not only will their grades improve by leaps and bounds, but their parents will save a lot of trouble. It is estimated that children who have opened this trick will wake up laughing in their dreams.
Therefore, the opening of this column is mainly the second kind of opening, and basically does not involve the first kind of opening.
Summary
If parents have the same understanding of the opening trick as I do, and also want their children to open the second trick, have the motivation to learn, and actively learn, then parents can pay attention to the purchase of this column. In the column, I will let you know the law of opening the trick and use the scientific method to help the child open the trick.
If you want to learn how to help your children to enlighten, you can pay attention to my public name "affirmative parenting".