Pensions have always been a topic of concern for the retired elderly, although many elderly people also have their own children, but the children are not willing to pay to support them, and ultimately can only live on their own pensions. If there is a pension, it is not bad, at least financially self-sufficient. For the elderly who do not have a pension, it is easy to be "disliked" by their children. In fact, it is not the reality of children, but the parents, who did not teach their children well when they were young.
As the saying goes, "Poor people must have something to hate", and parents who are "hated" by their children in their later years are usually not good for their children when they are young. Every time a child does something wrong, the parents either hit or scold. Every time the child makes progress, he happily returns home and wants to hear his parents praise him, but in exchange for it is sneering, saying that he has achieved this achievement, and has a face to say, and will say how other people's children are.
Children grow up in such a scolding environment for a long time, their self-esteem is frustrated, some even do nothing, and some achieve small results, so that children will resent their parents. Other children can get warmth in the family, but what they get is scolding, so when the child grows up, he is rarely willing to take care of his parents and does not want to be a comparison object of parents.
People usually think that some aspects of the child, that is, the copy of the parents, can be said to be a copy. Many children do not support their parents, but also learn from their own parents. Because when I was a child, I saw that my parents were very bad for my grandparents, or grandparents. If you live with the elderly, you will often verbally humiliate the elderly. In serious cases, there are even abuses of the elderly, not giving the elderly enough to eat and wear warm clothes.
When children do not understand things, when they are close to their elders, they will be reprimanded by adults and say that they are not allowed to be close to the elderly. Therefore, these behaviors begin to be exactly the same after the child grows up. This may mean that the parent is the child's teacher, but the teacher's wrong behavior is also learned by the student.
Many parents do not have much culture, and they cannot complete their dreams, so they impose on their sons, and their names are called Jackie Chan and Their Daughters become Phoenix. Parents do not want to lose to their children at the starting line, so they will always put pressure on their children to learn. Let the child learn at any time, so that the child will have no empathy and become a selfish and indifferent person.
Children are selfish and indifferent, only have achievements in their eyes, and when they grow up, they evolve into making money. In addition to making money, I don't care, even my parents, they love to answer, or even have no time to take care of it. This can not be resented by the child, the child in childhood, there is no emotional life, naturally it is difficult to understand the family affection. Or after growing up successfully, he feels that he is trying to make money, and giving his parents some pension money is fulfilling his obligation to be a child.
Education has always been a topic worth exploring, and with the increasing number of elderly people, the pressure on the life of only children is even greater. Therefore, in the face of education, we must pay more attention to planting trees ourselves, but also to let ourselves have a place to cool off in the future. In fact, the best way to educate is to lead by example. Parents are the best teachers, they set up an image of respecting the old and loving the young, and the children will learn the same, and finally become a filial piety child.
There is a saying in the Three Character Classics that human nature is inherently good. When children are born, they are innocent, and whatever you want to draw, paint them with whatever color. And many children, at a young age, will give their nurturers full trust, and the love of the human instinct. Therefore, parents should also cherish the fate with their children and love from the heart.
However, from the current social environment, left-behind children are also increasing. The cost of living in big cities is too high, and there is no way to take children with them, resulting in a lack of deep feelings between themselves and their children, which is also a problem for some families. Even if the living environment is more difficult, most children are still willing to live with their parents. After all, a family together is a complete home.
Parents also need to think about striking a balance between work and their children. It may cost more to take the child with you, but it is also worth it in terms of companionship with the child. There are many opportunities to make money, and there is only one opportunity to accompany children in childhood. If you are not willing to spend time with your children now, your children will naturally dislike you in the future. The feelings between people are mutual, you love the child, and the child naturally returns the love.
Of course, there will be another situation, parents love their children, but unfortunately, children still dislike their parents. Only in this case, parents have to reflect on whether the love they give to their children is doting or caring. Excessive coddling will also make children unable to grow, that is, the mother treasure man who is now said, can not eventually become a mature person, a person who has the ability to honor his parents.