Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: Let children learn to manage themselves.
When it comes to playing games, children should be given the right to make rules, and then keep the functions of supervision and execution to themselves. This means that some children play games, and parents will inevitably worry that their children will become addicted. I think instead of being bored in my heart, I should sit down and have a good talk with the children.
The attitude of chatting with children can be: I would not object to you playing games, but hope you can make a rule and manage yourself better. That is, let your child tell him how to play the game.
For example, some children say that I can play for half an hour every day after writing homework, and some children say that I can play for 20 minutes before going to bed every day. However, this rule needs to be made by the child himself. Otherwise, he will become a high-pressure policy for parents. The feeling of self-management is to give the child a sense of self-efficacy and self-discipline. This degree of freedom is not the same.
Regulation is also the boundary that parents need to see. It is very, very important to supervise the implementation from beginning to end when these rules are formulated.
Help your child understand what's behind the game.
Parents can explore some of the things behind this game with their children. This means that there are many academics or articles on the Internet discussing why games are addictive, or what attractive elements are in the design of games.
Parents and children can discuss these things. It is equivalent to dissecting the process of the game, and it can also help the child realize what is behind the game. Maybe,
Now many companies, especially some young ones, are engaged in game management. For example, employees no longer need to punch in the attendance machine, but use points or play games and the like.
Parents can then learn this gamified thinking in a family. For example, when a child wants him to achieve some academic achievements, how do you make him feel more accomplished through a gamified setting, or is there some gamification element in your interaction process, so that the child still thinks that you are an interesting person even if he reaches adolescence?
When a child is addicted to games, please treat him correctly.
But last but not least, if a child is addicted to games, if necessary, ask a professional, such as a family therapist or personal counselor.
Playing games isn't necessarily attribution, it's the outcome. It reflects some of the feelings and motivations that the family needs to deal with. So it is very important for the child and the whole family to seek help in a timely manner.