Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: Parents often find that when their children are young, they chirp like birds with their parents, but when they grow up, they are tight-lipped and rarely speak from the heart. This is called lock-in psychology, and mental activity is self-enclosed and not easily exposed. This is a normal mental state of mind during adolescence. Here's why:
With the growth of independent consciousness, the enhancement of thinking ability, and the expansion of social practice, they have to test the world by themselves. They are different from their parents in terms of age, interests, hobbies, social experiences, etc., resulting in a mentality of being imprisoned.
The development of self-awareness The development of self-awareness leads to many unique ideas and yearning for a better future for adolescents. These ideas are often considered "childish" and "dreamy" by parents. To avoid ridicule, the child seals his thoughts and inner secrets.
Parents do not understand the impact of adolescent psychological characteristics on children, resulting in children eager to get rid of the psychological conflict of parental supervision, so "words do not speculate more than half a sentence".
Adolescents in the locked psychological period lack experience, little experience, poor social adaptability, and are easily troubled by setbacks. If not given timely guidance, it can lead to depression and illness, or personality changes, or even mental disorders. Therefore, parents should care about them, understand their psychological state, guide their children in a tone of equal consultation, and do not treat children with reprimands, commands, and coercion.