Is the second child born or not? How to raise when born?
Today, when there are more and more families with two children, these problems still seem to be insoluble - after all, for our generation of post-80s and 90s who are accustomed to being only children, this family form is already a bit strange.
Two babies are by no means as simple as 1 + 1 = 2, and there are many factors that affect mothers to have a second child. Today we will explore: between the second treasure and the big treasure, how old is the most appropriate?
The old mother in our traditional concept is not a mother at all, but a virgin.
When it comes to the topic of "how old is Dabao, it is good to give birth to two treasures", everyone chats like this:
"Two are a little closer together, growing up together has good feelings, things can be picked up and used, tired of these years will be liberated!"
"It's good to be farther apart, and the big one won't grab it!" After going to school, I also have a lot of worry! ”
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Whaaaaaat？ So understand the market, or do you give birth to one for me?
One bite of a child, where to put the mother?
Remember the song that Liang Jingru sang? In fact, love the right person, Valentine's Day passes every day.
To paraphrase this problem, it is "actually prepared, the second child can be born whenever it is."
This preparation is not the kind of preparation that folic acid eats and materials are in place, but the caregiver is already in place.
For my mother, I really want to say: if there is no peaceful family environment, most nights can sleep well, the overall mood during the day is good, and every few years old should not be born!
Confirm that you can give enough attention to each child, or the big pig's trotters at home can be double machined together, let's talk about the second child?
There are also those old mothers who have a caesarean section, the child is just two years old, the people around them are urged, a boss tone that catches the employees lazily: Almost ah, it has been more than two years, can give birth.
You can say wrong, you can give birth 18 months after caesarean section, do not want to step into the elderly mother (35 years old) to have a second child, or even 9 to 12 months after the caesarean section can be considered.
But so what? The whole family is mentally, physically, and physically ready, which is the best time to have a second child.
Well, if you are ready to welcome the arrival of the second child; then the interval between the two treasures is a few years old, and it is nothing more than two factors to consider: one is that adults and children must be healthy and safe, and the other is that the emotions and psychology of the two babies are good.
The answer to the first question is that it is best to conceive a second child between the ages of one and a half and five in Dabao.
Studies have shown that if the first child is pregnant with a second child before the age of 18 months, the likelihood of premature birth and low birth weight increases; children who are too close to the age of the previous child may have relatively weak intelligence (not absolutely ha).
If Dabao is in a hurry to have a second child before 12 months, mothers will have a higher risk of placental abruption, and mothers who have a caesarean section will also have the risk of placenta previa.
Too early is risky, too late is the same.
If Dabao is pregnant with a second child after the age of 5, the risk of premature birth and low birth weight will also increase; the risk of preeclampsia will increase for mothers.
If you happen to be unexpectedly pregnant in the above two time periods, don't be nervous, do a good job of pregnancy testing, and follow the doctor's advice to recuperate and rest.
The second question is a bit complicated.
Psychologist Jenny Gidwell of the University of Tennessee in the United States has shown that if the age gap between children is about 2 years, these children have a more negative view of themselves and their parents.
Especially for families with low living standards, children of similar ages need similar care, but adults are focused on meeting basic livelihoods, and it is difficult for children to get enough care from their parents.
The same study also showed that if the parents' attention had to be temporarily focused on the second treasure, the big treasure between the ages of 1 and 4 would also reduce self-identification and produce inferiority because it was ignored.
When children are less than 1 year apart or older than 4 years, the negative effects are smaller. In layman's terms, it is that before the age of 1, there is no sense of competition for compatriots, and the needs of parents after the age of 4 are different from those of Little Baby, and they are not likely to rob their parents with small farts.
Without being pestered by Dabao, erbao can fully meet the needs of full babies for security and fine feeding before the age of 1.
Therefore, in summary, in theory, it is relatively better for Dabao to conceive a second treasure between the ages of 3 and 5.
Finally, it is still that sentence, the theory belongs to theory, instead of tangling with "how old is the big treasure and then asking for the second treasure", it is better to ask yourself, ask your family, are you ready?