The doting of parents has ruined the ability of many children to think independently
My cousin is 17 years old and chose to study 3+2 because her grades were not very good. Because I like to draw, I chose to major in fine arts.
Years later, when the school was about to start, my aunt suddenly contacted me and wanted to seek my help, my cousin felt that she lacked imagination after reading art for a year, and her love for art was overcome by difficulties, and she felt that the art major was not suitable for herself, and she had to give up studying fashion design. But parents feel that as long as they are related to art, there is no future for development, especially in rural areas, and this concept is even deeper. Coupled with the fact that art majors are more expensive, my aunt wanted me to persuade my cousin to choose another major to study.
And the cousin is now more confused, just blindly to change the major, can not even say a proper reason, the aunt is watching anxiously but do not know what to do.
My aunt's anxiety and my cousin's confusion touched me deeply.
It turns out that children who grew up in doting and blindness are so embarrassed when faced with the most important academic topics in their lives that they do not have even the most basic thinking ability.
I can't help but sigh
Parents doting on their children without knowing it makes many children lose the ability to think independently.
This incident made me a new mother have a certain warning and inspiration for my children's education.
Parents love their children for a long time, but excessive coddling will ruin the child's concentration
Every child is a treasure of parents, in the face of children's growth problems and confusion, as a parent must do a good job of guiding, can not completely let the child's nature come.
Cultivate children to think independently, and to have a subtle influence in their daily lives rather than to temporarily hold on to their feet
For this cousin thing, my aunt began to realize that she could not follow the child's temper everything, and wanted to make the cousin change through my persuasion and guidance, but the cousin was already a big child who was about to become an adult, and many things should have an independent thinking consciousness and have certain practical ideas. But after communication, she found that she lacked both communication skills and no thinking ability. It is really worrying to be overwhelmed by the collective dizziness of choosing yourself and your family.
Now that I'm starting to realize that what I used to do was inappropriate, it's hard to make a change now. The best period has been missed for the cultivation of children's abilities, and it is now easy to make up for it.
In the process of children's growth, we must give positive guidance, rather than turning a blind eye, pampering and indulging, and letting it go.
There are many such situations around us, especially now that children are more delicate, parents will give the best to their children, and the needs of children are maximized. Once the child is crying, the parents will compromise and accept the child's unreasonable demands, just to seek temporary peace, without guiding and correcting. Over time, the child will feel that all the requirements are taken for granted, and once the parents cannot meet them, they will play tricks or even threaten. This unevenness promotes the child's arrogant and arrogant character, and also leaves a great obstacle to his future foothold in society, not to mention the potential danger of endangering society.
The growth of children is a spiritual practice for parents, and children work together to give children good soil for growth.
As parents, we all make the mistake of always thinking of ourselves as people who have come over. Educate children with the experiences we think we have. In fact, we should look inward, as parents, whether we are competent, we should continue to learn, set an example for children, give children a comfortable growth soil, rather than educating children and self-habits are clear.
I hope that my cousin will learn from this time, eat a long and wise, learn lessons, and hope that all parents' love for their children is healthy, scientific and not deformed, and bottomless.
I hope that every family can properly love their children instead of spoiling them.