People are floating in the rivers and lakes, it is inevitable that people will borrow money, borrow cars, borrow houses, borrow time...
Many times we don't want to borrow, because we know that the other party has difficulty repaying the loan, but we are often forced by moral kidnapping, and we can only helplessly eat dumb losses.
There are also some people, because of insufficient experience, do not realize that the other party has difficulty in repaying the loan, so it is easier to eat dumb losses.
"In the World" uses a "mother-in-law does not borrow a house" scene, from mentality to speech, hand in hand to teach you to refuse.
From this puzzle, it can be seen that the mother-in-law Jin Yueji knows very well that the time for the other party to borrow will not be very long, "just one month".
Therefore, at the beginning, she used the excuse of "you did not say the specific time", but she was actually prevaricating her daughter Hao Dongmei.
Jin Yueji didn't take this matter too seriously at first. She thought that just making an excuse would prevaricate, which is why this kind of knowingly asked situation appeared.
But Hao Dongmei was a warm-hearted person, turning over and over begging his mother to nod.
Jin Yueji looked at it, and simple prevarication did not work, and only then did she show her true thoughts in a serious way: awkwardness is more terrible than loneliness.
This phrase is widely applicable. In addition to the topic of borrowing a house in the play, it also applies to those "couples who marry for the sake of marriage" outside the play.
In "Goodbye Lover", the reason for Zhang He and Guo Keyu's divorce is very typical of "awkwardness is more terrible than loneliness".
But Jin Yueji did not want to lend a house to Zhou Rong's daughter, not only worried that she would be disrupted by outsiders.
There is also a layer of awkwardness, which is also more important and cannot be said explicitly, that is, she resents Zhou Rong.
A very important background is that Zhou Bingyi has been married to Hao Dongmei for more than ten years, but the old people on both sides have never met.
Because of Lao Hao's sudden illness, the original meeting was temporarily cancelled. But after so many years, do you really want to meet or are you afraid that you won't be able to find an opportunity?
In order to welcome the family, the old Zhou family even gave up the opportunity to take a family portrait once in a few years. If the two sides really met later, would they not play in the play?
There is also a background that is also very important: Zhou Bingyi used his father-in-law relationship to help Cai Xiaoguang go to college.
This made my father-in-law very unhappy, and it was also the main reason why the Hao family had been hesitant to see their relatives at that time.
Under the combined effect of these two backgrounds, Lao Hao and his wife have a prejudice against the Zhou family.
To put it mildly, they think the Zhou family is a parasite.
I said the three words "parasite." Lao Hao and Jin Yueji could not say it clearly.
But these three words were the volcano that slept in their hearts.
In fact, the old lady is not an ungrateful person. At that time, Zhou Bingyi insisted on marrying Hao Dongmei despite the fact that the second elder was overthrown, and even gave up a better job opportunity, so later the old lady helped Zhou Bingyi to become an official.
But Zhou Rong had never met with the old two, and the last time she helped Cai Xiaoguang was actually because of Zhou Rong.
So this time, Zhou Rong wanted her daughter to borrow from Hao's house, which was tantamount to waking up this sleeping volcano.
Jin Yueji took a look at it, this week's family, especially this Zhou Rong, came to our old Hao family for help as soon as they encountered something.
What's more, home is a forbidden area of a person's life.
Only people who are particularly close can live in the house, and Zhou Rong is the person that the old lady dislikes, how can she allow Zhou Rong's daughter to live for a long time?
"The World of Man" deliberately intersperses this scene with the scene where Zhou Bingkun wants a house. Most viewers can understand, which is to emphasize that "it is easy to ask God to send God to be difficult."
But there is a deeper level, that is, in Jin Yueji's heart, Zhou Rong is the same kind of person as "Wu Qian, who occupies the family's house and does not return it, and still breaks the horse Zhang Fei".
Although the old lady had never seen Zhou Rong, the prejudice was enough to make her think so.
The next words can be said to my daughter.
First of all, Jin Yueji said that Feng Yue is 14 years old this year, it is adolescence, and she is Zhou Rong's daughter, in case something happens, can we bear the responsibility?
This sentence refers to the fact that Zhou Rong made up his own mind at a young age and went to Guizhou to marry a big uncle.
If Zhou Rong's daughter is allowed to live in, once the daughter's personality follows her mother and is not clear with the men in society, Zhou Rong will definitely rely on the old Hao family.
Secondly, it is easy to ask God to send God, which also refers to the matter of Zhou Rong's unit dividing the house.
In the unlikely event that something goes wrong and the house is not divided, the original plan to borrow for a month may become a permanent stay.
Theoretically, it is possible to live until the old lady dies.
After this scare, Hao Dongmei realized that he had made things simple. So the old mother taught another trick method: You push it on me.
The old lady said that I would not meet with Zhou Rong anyway, and she Zhou Rong would dare to come to the door? Therefore, singing this black face yourself can make your daughter have a good relationship in front of her sister-in-law and husband.
Many times, others ask us for help, and we are unwilling to help, not necessarily because we really have poor money, or really have no time, but also because we don't want to help this person.
Because this person's past has left a bad impression in our hearts, and the other party himself is not aware of it.
Many times, asking for help has become a knee-jerk reaction for some people.
They never think about how they can overcome difficulties, and they always feel that others "should" help. Who makes us relatives, "friends", colleagues?
Indeed, letting Feng Yue live in Hao's house was first proposed by Hao Dongmei. But Zhou Rong didn't even say a symbolic refusal, was it too out of sight?
This is the house where Zhou Rong and his wife currently live.
There were two desks and a dining table, but I couldn't fit my daughter's single bed.
Both families have jobs, can they share a desk when they are at home? When I am not eating, can the table be folded up and placed against the wall?
In their hearts, they have always had only themselves.
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