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In many families, children are the core of everyone, especially when parents decide to have only one child, then in addition to mom and dad, this child will also be loved by 4 elderly people.
In the traditional concept of many people, because the vast majority of children follow the father's surname, the grandparents must be in front of the grandparents when it comes to the estrangement between the elderly and the children.
In life, many mothers also say that the relationship between children and grandmothers is indeed closer than that of grandmothers. However, everything is not absolute, and as the situation of grandmothers with babies is increasing, the feelings between some children and grandmothers are far more than those of grandmothers.
Bao Ma Xiaojiang was deeply touched by this.
Xiao Jiang's mother-in-law is very patriarchal in her thinking, so when Xiao Jiang gave birth to a daughter, her mother-in-law made it clear that she did not want to take the child.
Grandma did not bring, can only grandma shot, Xiao Jiang's mother took the granddaughter all the way to the primary school, during this period, the grandchildren also established a very deep relationship.
Although Xiao Jiang never said that her mother-in-law was not good in front of her daughter, due to infrequent contact, her daughter was not kind to her grandmother, and she stayed at her grandmother's house for less than half a day and clamored to leave.
Some people say that who the child is close to depends on who takes him the longest, which is indeed a very important reason, in addition, the relationship between the child and the 4 elderly people has a more scientific explanation.
In "Evolutionary Psychology", American scholars published a ranking, among grandparents and grandparents, the closest person to the child is the grandmother, followed by the grandmother, the grandfather ranks third, and the grandfather ranks last.
For this ranking, many parents are very surprised, but some people have made a more scientific explanation for this:
Genetically, 4 elderly people and children have 1/4 blood relationship, but because the child's life can only be conceived by women, some genetic genes can only be passed on from generation to generation by women.
As a result, grandchildren have inherited more genes than others, so many children are very close to their grandmothers.
In this regard, some Canadian scholars have also done relevant surveys, they found that in some families who have lost their children, in the face of the misfortune of their children, the most sad of the four elderly people is their grandmother, followed by grandma and grandfather, and finally grandpa.
In addition, a team from the University of Helsinki in Finland also conducted a survey on the material and time investment of the elderly in their children, and found that grandmothers are the most willing to spend money and time with their children.
Of course, because each family situation is different, these survey results do not mean that children must be more close to their grandmothers than grandmothers.
The 4 elderly people in the family, the relationship between the children and who is closer mainly depends on the following points:
1. Take care of your child with the utmost care
The reason why small babies cling to their mothers is because they adapt to the mother's most intimate care in the mother's body, in the same way, when the child is born, they will have a sense of dependence on the person who accompanies and takes care of themselves, and over time, the relationship between this person and the child will become more and more intimate.
2. Spend the longest time with your child
In many families, many parents will choose to leave their children in the care of the elderly due to their busy work.
People are emotional animals, children are no exception, if the child stays with grandparents for a long time, and does not see his grandparents at all, then the feelings between him and his grandparents must be stronger than those of grandparents.
Long-term companionship will make the relationship between parents and children slowly become stronger, in many left-behind children's families, because children often contact with the elderly, the feelings between them and the elderly even exceed the feelings for their parents.
3. Respect your child's ideas the most
When the child's mind is not yet mature, the closeness between them and the elderly mainly depends on the contact time, but when the child grows up and the mind matures, then the person who respects the child's ideas the most will become the person the child wants to be closest to.
When the interaction between the elderly and the child is no longer limited to eating and drinking Lasa, but can provide effective guidance for the child's life ideals, can respect the child's ideas or help the child as much as he can, then this relationship of grandchildren will also become indestructible.
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