We all know that raising children is different from building a car, you can find a clear causal relationship, raising children itself is a complex system that conforms to the "butterfly effect". Parent-child relationship affects a child's life, as a parent, we all want to do everything in our power to give our children the best.
So what exactly is the high-quality mode of getting along? How can we become the "god assist" of children's growth?
Give your child unconditional love
Everyone's thinking patterns are deeply influenced by their parents, so let's now think back to what behaviors we didn't want to accept when we were young.
"You see who scored how many points", "You don't love you anymore"...
In this case, some children become depressed and sinking, and some children become resistant to rebellion, which is actually a cruel "exchange logic".
We must be able to accept the child's imperfections, amplify the child's shining point, give the child optimism and confidence, give the child unconditional love, need to make the child's heart full of strength, let the child understand from an early age: the love of parents does not need to be exchanged.
Second, shape the child's sense of value
No child is born with a sense of value, so give the child more opportunities to think about things on his own, the sense of achievement will bring the child self-confidence and confidence, the child's self-discipline will be stronger, and naturally the parents will not have to worry too much.
However, in real life, many parents often have to do everything for their children, always saying "you don't have to worry about anything else, you just need to study well", but in turn, they are not happy in their hearts.
To cultivate children's values, parents usually let children learn to deal with some things, such as: dressing and folding quilts, helping to share housework, contributing to family affairs, arranging family weekend plans, etc. Parents can completely open themselves from the mentality to relax, give children more encouragement, as long as they do a good job of "backing" behind their children.
Third, cultivate children's growth mindset
In daily life, parents should pay great attention to active verbal interaction with their children and truly help their children without anger, criticism, or labeling.
A child has entered adolescence, the mother began to worry about the child's early love, let's look at two conversations:
I believe that I can clearly feel that the dialogue of scenario one is more harmonious, and the child also accepts the mother's suggestion from the bottom of his heart. If every parent can talk to their children so actively, I believe that there will not be so many problems with parent-child relationship.
Each child is a unique existence, can create their own glory and wonderful, parents are not born to be parents, so to accompany the child's growth with a lifelong learning mentality.