Ancient people cloud: "a piece of cultivation, a piece of goods", "ten years of trees, a hundred years of tree people", children's education is a topic of eternal change since the birth of human civilization. Even today, when the 21st century is highly civilized, it still plagues many of our families. As parents, there are 2 major things in life that must be completed: first: to realize self-worth in society; second, to educate our children well. Children in the process of growth education should be three-dimensional, diversified, healthy and positive, the current education is divided into school education and family education, both of which are indispensable.
What we want to talk about here is family education, how should family education be carried out, what content should be educated, and what is the way of education? I'll break it down into 4 areas below to explain one by one.
One. Love children, respect children, trust children, and mingle with children
As parents we love our children for granted, what parent would not love herself in our children? But the love of some of our parents has become a national doting, and excessive love is "harm". Therefore, the way of love is very important: give the child a hug, an encouraging smile, a friendly communication, a small gift in life, these will make the child feel from the parents in love, increase the child's sense of trust in the parents.
Two. Focus on communication (sincere communication promotes mutual trust)
Although said; Parents are adults, enjoy the "characteristics" of education, scolding, and commanding, and feel that children should live and do things according to their own guidance; In fact, it is selfish and self-serving, communicating with children in a threatening tone every day, and over time, it will make children have fear, inferiority, and even stimulate autism, which is counterproductive. At this time, we must learn to listen quietly, listen to the child's inner thoughts, and listen to the child's own voice, so as to understand the child's distress or difficulty. For example, after the child returns home from class, take the initiative to ask the child about the interesting things at school, or encounter difficulties in learning, and take the initiative to give him directions and guidance on how to deal with things. Allow children to generate independent opinions and ideas. Avoid being a well-behaved baby when you grow up, and you can't afford to experience life or society in the grind and fall on the road to growth.
Three. Encourage your child to rise to difficulties and challenges
Nowadays, the competition for survival in today's society is extremely fierce, and the social road is full of challenges. How we do not learn to take the initiative to solve difficulties and challenges, then we will be eliminated in social competition. As parents, how can we help and cultivate our children's tenacious will and mentality of not being afraid of difficulties?
In the child's learning, they often encounter test questions that they will not or feel that they cannot do, and they do not want to do it, and they slowly develop it, and they dare not dare to challenge it and do not want to take the initiative to challenge it to solve it. Therefore, usually or on weekends, I will go with my children to solve the problems in learning, we will study and analyze the purpose of the problem together, and then combine the textbook to learn to refer to the knowledge points to answer, as long as it is not separated from the textbook, the test questions can be solved, even if it is not made today, it will not give up, tomorrow will be OK. Slowly let the child develop the habit of taking the initiative to solve difficulties.
Four. Let children learn to be tolerant and tolerant (constantly improve self-cultivation)
Tolerance is a landscape, able to tolerate others, grow themselves, and improve their self-cultivation. As the saying goes: the prime minister can hold a boat in his belly. The more celebrities or successful people, the more tolerant and tolerant they are. In life, we walk on the road, accidentally bump into or step on someone else's shoes, and the other party is saying: sorry, sorry. We'll say in reply: it's okay. The other party also expressed national apologies and did not affect himself. We all live under the same sky, and we have to learn to be tolerant and understanding.
Educating children in topics is never outdated, never outdated. In the growth of children, we as parents correctly guide and correct deficiencies, so that children can learn more useful knowledge, and can bring help to society when they grow up.
Finally, I wish that parents can educate their children in a great way.