In previous lives, if you want to say the last festival, it must be the Spring Festival. Chinese New Year's Eve dinner that day was the most grand meal, Grandpa had three brothers, Dad had two brothers, and Chinese New Year's Eve meal

In previous lives, if you want to say the last festival, it must be the Spring Festival. Chinese New Year's Eve dinner that day was the most grand meal, Grandpa had three brothers, Two Father and Brother, and the Chinese New Year's Eve meal was generally eaten in turn at Grandpa's brother, my family, and uncle's house.

Chinese New Year's Eve day, the women of the family are busy in the kitchen, and the men occasionally take the handle, and more often idle around chatting, playing cards, etc.

Chinese New Year's Eve meal is very rich, full of a table, but also constantly add new dishes, the necessary link is to drink, at first it is still warm, care for each other, thank each other. In the back, there is always a person who drinks too much, there is always a person who speaks heavily, someone starts to drink crazy, someone starts to quarrel, someone scolds and grins, someone cries and cries. Everyone persuaded and dispersed.

After dispersing, each went to worship his ancestors, and after the worship, the men were almost going to find a place to play cards and mahjong, and the women had to clean, tidy up, and then prepare dumplings and meals for the first morning. Children are bored, either watching TV or hanging around in groups of three or five. I belonged to the guy who neither wanted to watch TV nor hang out, went to bed early and was woken up in the middle of the night by the sound of firecrackers and fireworks.

Dad almost worshiped his ancestors and left home to find a card field, and would not accidentally fight until dawn before returning home; people who had drunk alcohol would go to play cards and gamble money, losing more and winning less; back home, and mother and mother were not happy, quarrels or cold wars were inevitable. In years when the profits are not good, quarrels and cold wars begin earlier and last longer, and then we as children will more or less become the targets of their bad emotions.

Year after year, that's the pattern. I still remember the year I went to college and went home for the Spring Festival, or so, without the slightest progress, that year, I made up my mind to stay away from here.

Before marrying her ex-husband, I went to his house several times, found that his parents seemed to have a harmonious relationship, took good care of him and me, and thought that I had found the ideal family, and our small family should be the same in the future. In the first year of marriage, when it was about to be the Spring Festival, my ex-husband gave me a preventive injection and said: My father is very strange, usually rarely loses his temper, but there is always a tantrum during the Spring Festival. I was surprised, but curiosity drove me to take a closer look and figure it out.

The first year spent the Spring Festival at his house, and on the day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, all three of them went home. Mom was busy preparing various items and food for worship and then going to worship, while his father was at home sorting, cleaning and pasting spring window flowers. Seeing that his father was busy and busy, it was not right to say nothing, I helped to tidy up the countertop table in the living room and dining room, the two sisters slept until about ninety o'clock on weekends and holidays, ate breakfast, sat on the sofa and played with mobile phones, and the ex-husband planned to go to the same school to sit and make tea and chat. I told him not to go to someone else's house today, and to help him at home. Specifically, I forgot how to communicate at that time, anyway, I was not happy, he still ran to his classmates to make tea and chat. I stayed home to face his breathless father and my sister, who was busy playing with her phone.

When the tidying up and new work was done, his mother came back bye-bye. Chinese New Year's Eve's meal is a pot of bone broth, hot pot with food after worship, and some fresh seafood. Before eating with his family was always tasteless, always want to escape, at that time will feel that I myself failed to integrate, so I feel bad, now I find that the essence of the reason is that when the family is eating, there is no real communication, except for occasional discussion of food, or let you eat more, whether this is not to come again, etc., there is no emotional concern that a family should have, and inquiries and concerns about each other's life, work, and emotions.

Because a lot of food was prepared for the worship, the next few days were almost the food and Chinese New Year's Eve leftovers from the day. Their usual activity after eating is to play mahjong. If no one else was called, the three of them, plus his father, put together a table; when they didn't, they either shouted everywhere or wanted to go to someone else's house to join in the fun. In the following years, the Spring Festival was almost like this, so I was very uncomfortable when it came to the Spring Festival, I didn't go to his house, I couldn't say it, it was like this, the family had no feeling of reunion and celebration at all.

One year later, I made up my mind to tell him that Chinese New Year's Eve we take our children home for a reunion dinner with your family, and we would go back to our own house after dinner. He fought for this for a long time, and he did not agree, and he felt that he had to go back to his house for a few days before calling back. However, before I got married, I repeatedly expressed to him that I was not used to living in his home, his home was close to the main road of the road, the decoration was very early simple, the sound insulation effect was not good, often four or five o'clock began to be woken up by large vehicles coming and going; during the Spring Festival, the fireworks and firecrackers there were also one after another, the children did not sleep well, and when they heard the sound of firecrackers, they would often be scared to cry, and the child's grandfather said every time: Let her listen more, the habit is good. I can't understand this attitude either.

Well, finally divorced. This Spring Festival, although the other day I was a little worried that the two people with the child would be lonely and the child would be bored, but I knew in my heart that I did not have to bear the above various discomforts, but I felt relaxed. Bought a lot of snacks that children like, meals are also children's favorite food, accompany children to play games, play tired of video with distant family, chat with her classmates, my friends, when she plays alone, I am responsible for sorting out or reading my own books. Outside, except for the sound of rain, there was no sound of firecrackers and fireworks coming out of the cold, it was quiet and comfortable.

This is the first Spring Festival since I grew up and has the ability to remember, there is no quarrel, no bad emotions, no drunkenness, no mahjong.

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