Xu Zhimo in middle school was amazingly talented and brilliant, and gained his lover with a beautiful article.
His lover has a prominent background and is a good match for Xu Zhimo in the eyes of outsiders.
The two families were quite optimistic about their marriage, but on the night of the wedding, Xu Zhimo did something strange.
He escaped from the cave and then ran to his grandmother's house to ask for "shelter", and after being refused, he sat alone until dawn.
What did Xu Zhimo go through?
First, Xu Zhimo fled the cave room on the night of his wedding
On December 15, 1915, a large family in Jiaoshi Town, Haining County, Zhejiang Province, was holding a grand wedding. The location of the wedding was set in the auditorium of the Chamber of Commerce of Jiaoshi Town, and all the local figures with heads and faces were invited, and the scene was very grand.
The origin of the marriage for a couple was Tang Shouqian, then the transportation chief of the Nanjing Provisional Government. And it was the Xu family, the richest man in the local area, who could invite him, and it was the young master Xu Zhimo of the family who held the wedding.
Tang Shou dive
On that day, the wedding scene was full of guests and people sent their best wishes to the couple. But no one expected that on the night after the wedding, a strange thing happened.
Since ancient times, the mainland folk have been known for the marriage custom of making a cave house, and the marriage of the only son of the Xu family is naturally no exception. However, just as relatives and friends came out of the cave room, Xu Zhimo also ran out with everyone.
After Xu Zhimo ran out, he ran to his grandmother's house with a cigarette and begged his grandmother to keep him for the night. Although the grandmother usually loves her grandson, but the marriage cave room is too special, she did not get used to it, called Xu Zhimo's parents, and then surrounded by a group of relatives and friends, Xu Zhimo reluctantly entered the cave room.
Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru
After entering the cave room, Xu Zhimo behaved very well. He sat in a chair in front of the bed without saying a word until dawn when he ran out again.
As the saying goes: "The night of the cave flower candle, when the gold list is titled", this is the most glorious period of life. However, the newly married Xu Zhimo not only did not have a trace of happiness, but seemed extremely reluctant. Did Xu Zhimo react this way because he was dissatisfied with his marriage?
To find out why, you have to start from the beginning.
In 1897, a wealthy merchant family in Haining, Zhejiang Province, welcomed their only son and named him Xu Zhang'an, which was later renamed Xu Zhimo.
Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, was the richest man in the region. Growing up in a favorable environment, Xu Zhimo received a good education since he was a child. Coupled with his talent, he began to study in a private school at the age of 5, visited Zhang Shusen at the age of 12, entered the Jiaoshi Kaizhi School, and left his hometown at the age of 14 to study in Hangzhou, becoming a student of hangzhou fu middle school.
This is a famous local school and the predecessor of Hangzhou No. 4 Middle School. In addition to Xu Zhimo, the famous writer Yu Dafu also graduated from this school.
Yu Dafu and Xu Zhimo are classmates in the same class, and the Xu Zhimo in his eyes is particularly naughty, often doing small actions during class, but his grades can always rank first in the class. Xu Zhimo's excellence attracted the attention of a person. This person was Zhang Jiazhang, then the governor's secretary of Zhejiang Province.
In 1913, the 17-year-old Xu Zhimo grew up as a teenager.
One day, Zhang Jiaxuan came to the school to inspect the work, and when she checked the students' essays, she was impressed by the writing of a classmate.
The composition adopts the most popular "new folk style" writing method of Liang Qichao. At that time, there were many people who imitated this way of writing, but most of them only learned the skin. The article in front of Zhang Jiaxuan's eyes not only has a new folk style of writing, but also exudes an indescribable elegance, which makes people have a sense of freshness when reading.
In addition, Zhang Jiaxuan also praised the writing of the composition. From the word to the person who wrote, he added several affirmations to this classmate in his heart. When he turned back to the first page of the workbook, he saw Xu Zhimo's name.
Zhang Jiaxuan, who has a discerning eye, not only boasted and praised Xu Zhimo in his heart, but also came up with an idea in his heart.
Zhang Youyi's eighth, second and fourth brothers
Second, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi made a marriage contract without meeting
Zhang Jiaxuan wanted to marry his sister Zhang Youyi to Xu Zhimo. But after all, marriage should pay attention to the door, and that year and month are not inferior to contemporary times for such exquisiteness.
After thinking about it, Zhang Jiaxuan inquired from many sources, and after learning of Xu Zhimo's background, he was overjoyed and hurried to tell his parents the truth. After listening, the parents were more satisfied with Xu Zhimo, agreed to marry their daughter into the Xu family, and took the initiative to contact Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, and expressed their wishes in a handwritten letter.
Xu Shenru, who received the letter, was quite surprised, but after learning about the other party's situation, he was quickly replaced by excitement. First, Zhang Jiazhang's identity status is there, and second, the Zhang family is also a famous household in Baoshan County, Jiangsu Province.
Xu Shenru
Originally, Zhang Jiaxuan was both the home of the official eunuch and the scholarly door. His father was also a famous local doctor, and his brother Zhang Jiasen was an active figure in the political circles at that time.
It is said that the Zhang family is rich in assets, but the servants in the family are extremely carefully divided, and even the shoes worn are made by special servants.
Xu Shenru realized that the Zhang family was rich and powerful, and its status was even higher than that of the Xu family. He did not dare to be sloppy at all, and quickly replied to Zhang Jiaxuan, clearly expressing his willingness to marry the Zhang family. In this way, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi had never met, and the marriage was decided by the family.
Zhang Youyi was 3 years younger than Xu Zhimo, and at that time, girls not only could not enter the school to study, but also had to wrap their feet according to the old custom. Zhang Youyi's mother also tied her daughter's feet, but her daughter could not stand the sin and refused. Mother Zhang couldn't see it, and angrily enlightened her daughter: "If you don't tie your feet, you can't get married!" ”
Zhang Youyi cried and cried and refused to obey, and the second brother looked at the pain and objected to his mother: "I really can't marry out, so I will raise her for a lifetime!" However, the mother did not bother, zhang Youyi left a pair of "original big feet", which was rare among girls of the same age at that time.
Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo
When she reached the age of ten, Zhang Youyi saw that other people's girls entered the academy to study, and she also had the idea of reading. Her mother felt that "a woman's lack of talent is virtuous" and did not allow her to go to school. But after several quarrels and the support of several brothers, her parents no longer bothered with her.
Zhang Youyi's brothers are concerned about their sister everywhere, and even when they find a boyfriend, they also do it together. When Zhang Jiaxuan matched her with Xu Zhimo, she was already thirteen or fourteen years old and was studying at a girls' school.
In the old days, women's marriages were basically decided by their parents, and in this context, Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi did not learn about their marriage until they were engaged.
From ancient times to the present, engagement is our folk custom and an important part of marriage events. At the time of the engagement, both families are required to hold a corresponding ceremony and inform the neighbor of the affair. And even if the two have to love, they can't violate their parents' decisions. The two families have no special reasons, nor can they casually repent.
Because the two children were still studying, the Xu and Zhang families did not hold a special ceremony, but only exchanged gifts in a polite manner, exchanging the birthdays and photos of Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi. In the exchange of birthday eight characters, there was also a small episode.
In his later years, Zhang Youyi and his descendants
Third, Xu Zhimo resisted arranged marriages
The Xu family handed over their son's birthday, but the Zhang family did not move.
According to the old custom, the marriage of children is to ask the high people to calculate, the Zhang family got Xu Zhimo's birthday eight characters, immediately looking for someone to calculate a gua, the result is incompatible. The Zhang family pays attention to these things, but they value Xu Zhimo's talent more. After much hesitation, the fortune teller finally gave an idea.
The fortune teller is not a high trick, he just changed Zhang Youyi's age to 15 years old. The genus phase changed, and the two people's birthday eight characters naturally matched, and the Zhang family handed over the daughter's birthday eight characters to the Xu family. The Xu family, on the other hand, paid too much attention to the family situation of the Zhang family, and even neglected the true age of the daughter-in-law.
That year, Zhang Youyi came home from school holidays, and her family handed her a delicate little silver box. After opening the box, there was a picture lying quietly inside. The young man in the photo looks polite. He wears a pair of gold-rimmed glasses, which is unique in culture and temperament.
Although she has never seen one, Zhang Youyi's first impression of Xu Zhimo in the photo is still very good. So when her parents asked her for advice, she acquiesced to the marriage without saying much.
On the other hand, Xu Zhimo's performance is not the same as Zhang Youyi's. Xu Zhimo is a person who accepts new ideas, and his heart is very resistant to arranged marriages. In addition, he is also disgusted that his father uses his marriage to strengthen the family business. Especially when his parents handed him a photo of Zhang Youyi, his face immediately darkened, and his mouth involuntarily muttered: "The old hat in the countryside." ”
Judging from Zhang Youyi's photos, although her appearance is not very low, it is not very beautiful. The dress is not conservative, but it is not trendy enough. And young men like Xu Zhimo, who are more avant-garde in thought and dress, have always been at the forefront of fashion.
He was not only reluctant to have an arranged marriage with his parents, but also dissatisfied with Zhang Youyi's appearance. But in that era, even if there was a lot of complaints, Xu Zhimo did not dare to show it. He knew very well that a seventeen-year-old middle school student was trying to change the mind of his elders and cancel the marriage contract that he did not want to accept. Thinking of this, Xu Zhimo could only resign himself to fate, waiting to grow up while reading, and then marry Zhang Youyi.
Two years later, Xu Zhimo was admitted to the preparatory class of Peking University, but because of his marriage, he passed by Peking University. According to the agreement between the two families, Xu Zhimo dropped out of school and married Zhang Youyi.
Xu Zhimo is the only son in the family, and the entire Xu family naturally attaches great importance to his marriage. The Zhang family also attached great importance to this marriage, they bought a super luxurious dowry for their daughter, and spent a lot of money to run to Europe to purchase Western furniture.
The furniture was transported back from abroad, and the entire carriage of the train could not be loaded, and it could not be transported in batches to the town of Jiaoshi, so it had to be transferred from Shanghai by hired boat.
The dowry was easily transported to the town, and then asked the coolies to carry or move, and transported to the Xu family. At that time, the scene of transporting the dowry was a sensation, which attracted the entire town to line up and watch.
The Zhang family, who followed the dowry, met their son-in-law Xu Zhimo for the first time. Seeing that he was personable and talented, the Zhang family was very satisfied and went back to Zhang Youyi. After listening to it, Zhang Youyi's heart was as sweet as eating candied fruit, and she looked forward to her future married life.
Everything was ready, the wedding was on schedule, and the whole town was suddenly bustling. All the neighbors came to bless the couple, and everyone had a smile on their faces, but only one person was sullen.
Fourth, Xu Zhimo wants to be "China's first divorced man"
The groom's official, Xu Zhimo, was the only one who was unhappy, and the reluctant marriage was like putting a shackle on him. In order to vent his dissatisfaction, Xu Zhimo fled the cave room on the wedding night. But he escaped for a while, but he could not escape for a lifetime.
Under the pressure of his parents, Xu Zhimo could only accept Zhang Youyi. Zhang Youyi has been working hard to be a virtuous and good wife, and in addition to taking care of Xu Zhimo's living life every day, she also assists her mother-in-law in taking care of trivial affairs at home.
After all, Zhang Youyi came from a large family, handled the housework in an orderly manner, and was deeply liked by her in-laws. But Xu Zhimo always looked at the wife chosen for him by his family, which was not pleasing to the eye. And Zhang Youyi, who has a woman's sixth sense, of course, can also feel Xu Zhimo's indifference to her. Zhang Youyi once recalled that Xu Zhimo had never looked at her squarely, even if his eyes passed over her, it was as if she did not exist.
In her later years, Zhang Youyi
At that time, the New Culture Movement attacked arranged marriages and advocated the freedom of love and marriage, and Xu Zhimo, who liked to read books and newspapers, was deeply affected. He paced back and forth all day, restless like an animal in a cage. Until one day, he ran to Zhang Youyi and said, "I want to be the first divorced man in China." ”
Although he suffered from arranged marriages and had plans for divorce, he finally realized that divorce was not as simple as he thought.
A year after his marriage, Xu Zhimo went out to study, and after several twists and turns, he went to the Law Department of Peking University to study, befriended cultural celebrities, and became a student of Liang Qichao. The growth of knowledge and experience made Xu Zhimo understand that divorce is not easy. He wanted to be the first man in China to divorce, and he was also naïve.
According to the law at that time, he did not qualify for divorce at all. Divorce for men under the age of 30 and women under the age of 25 must be granted by both parents. Xu Zhimo understood that his parents could not pass this barrier.
Since divorce doesn't work, life always has to go on. After that, his attitude toward Zhang Youyi improved, and soon after, he ushered in the birth of his son Xu Jikai.
The arrival of the son has given the Xu family hope, after all, this means that the Xu family has a successor. Xu Zhimo had a smiley face for the first time after marriage. This laughter comes from the pride and joy of a new father. After that, his divorce from Zhang Youyi was also shelved.
After several tosses, Xu Zhimo quieted down, which made Xu Zhang's two families breathe a sigh of relief at the same time. As for his future abandonment of his wife and children, the separation of other people's families, and the increasingly estranged relationship with his parents, this is all a later story.
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epilogue:
Xu Zhimo did not pay his heart to Zhang Youyi, the two have been married for many years, but the real time together is only a few months, doomed to sooner or later they will go to the precipice of marriage. But Xu Zhimo's life with Zhang Youyi is plain and real.
After that, he fell in love with Lin Huiyin and came together with Lu Xiaoman, but he could never find the sincerity like Zhang Youyi. As Zhang Youyi herself said:
"Of the few women he's met in his life, maybe I love him the most."
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