No matter how good the neighbor is, these five "good things" also need to be left for three points
In the busy city life, the relationship between neighbors is like a bond between neighbors, maintaining the harmony and warmth of the community. However, people often say that "when good things are done, there will be disasters", even if the neighborhood relationship is good, there are so many "good things", which require us to maintain a certain measure and scale while paying.
First, economic aid should be moderate
"Aunt Zhang, haven't you received your pension this month? Why don't I borrow it from you first? Xiao Li looked at Aunt Zhang, who was embarrassed, and asked with concern.
"Xiao Li, you are such a kind person. But I can't borrow your money, and it's not the first time you've helped me. Aunt Zhang excused herself.
"Neighbors should help each other. But you also know that it's better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. I suggest that you consult the community about the relevant policies and see if they can solve your problems. Xiao Li said patiently.
Financial assistance is a common occurrence among neighbors. However, excessive financial assistance may make recipients dependent and even affect their self-esteem. Therefore, when providing financial assistance, we should focus on moderation while guiding recipients to seek longer-term solutions.
2. Attention should be paid to privacy protection
"Lao Wang, I heard that your son has been promoted recently, congratulations!" Uncle Li excitedly shared hearsay news.
"Oh, Uncle Li, you are too well-informed. However, this is a private matter of my family, so you should not talk about it. Lao Wang smiled awkwardly.
In neighborhoods, we often inadvertently reveal each other's privacy because of our closeness. However, excessive disclosure of privacy may not only be uncomfortable for the person concerned, but may also cause unnecessary trouble. Therefore, we should respect each other's privacy and avoid excessive probing and dissemination.
3. Opinions should be expressed tactfully
"Xiao Liu, I think the sound of your stereo is a bit loud, which affects my rest at night." Master Zhao gave his opinion tactfully.
"Oh? Is it? I'm sorry, I probably didn't notice. I'm going to turn it down. Xiao Liu hurriedly apologized and adjusted the volume of the speaker.
Between neighbors, the expression of opinions is inevitable. But direct and sharp criticism can set both sides at odds. Therefore, we should learn to express our opinions tactfully and respect the feelings of the other party in order to achieve good communication results.
Fourth, there should be a limit to helping to do things
"Xiao Chen, can you help me pick up my grandson from school? I have something to do today. Grandma Chen asked for help.
"Of course, Grandma Chen. But I also have a meeting to attend today, so I can only do it for you once. Xiao Chen replied.
Between neighbors, helping each other is the norm. But excessive help can be stressful for both parties. Therefore, while helping, we should pay attention to the limits and avoid affecting our own life and work because of helping.
Fifth, emotional investment needs to be controlled
"Xiaoli, you are so good to me, I feel like we are sisters." Aunt Li sighed.
"Aunt Li, don't say that. Although we have a good relationship, each of us has our own life and family. I can't put all my feelings into you. Xiaoli explained.
In neighborhoods, emotional investment is an important factor in strengthening relationships. But excessive emotional investment can cause us to neglect our family and life. Therefore, we should maintain a certain amount of moderation and rationality while investing in our feelings.
In short, among neighbors, we should focus on the principle of moderation. Whether it's financial assistance, privacy protection, opinion expression, helping to do things, or emotional investment, we need to maintain a certain measure and scale while giving. Only in this way can we truly maintain the harmonious relationship between our neighbors and make the life of the community better.