Waking up at 2 a.m. and feeling nervous and unable to fall asleep, I really suspect I'm depressed. Lie down ready to sleep, the brain began to run at high speed, recently have to stay up until almost 1 o'clock to sleep, it is estimated that when can I sleep today? Relax Relax Relax Relax Relax What time is it, why haven't you fallen asleep yet? Can't sleep all night? I always fell asleep anyway, and I didn't sleep at all that night... How can I fall asleep? Don't think about it, hurry up and go to sleep. How I haven't fallen asleep yet! I've been living like this for more than a decade.
Eating Western medicine, Traditional Chinese medicine massage, steaming Chinese medicine bags, but also specially bought massagers, meridian instruments, hypnosis, a variety of methods, some on the market, insomnia, almost I have tried. I guess insomnia, sleep bad friends may be similar to me, a little energy during the day on the Internet to check, even professional literature has not been spared, in the hope of sleep, repeating the disappointment again and again, this pain only insomnia people understand!
Looking back at those nights, they are all consuming, people live very unreally, and they want to sleep every day. Emotional management is very poor, there is no appetite, perennial gastrointestinal digestion is not good, especially in the past two years, lost more than twenty pounds. It was through the darkest moments of insomnia that my life was rewritten and completely reversed my heart.
In the book "You Are Your Own Psychiatrist", the recovery experience of insomniacs gave me a big shock: I have been like this, and I can no longer be worse than now! I can't even sleep well, instead of staying up in the mud, it is better to break the axe with a big knife and cut from myself. I understand that although my former self is also self-help, I have tried to use some kind of "divine power" to sleep well, always looking outward, and basing my hope on the outside, which is obviously biased.
As the book says, my insomnia problem has a lot to do with my personality, always pessimistic, everything has always wanted the worst side, a little thing will associate a lot, predict a lot of bad things, very afraid of taking responsibility, weak and sensitive personality, coupled with love to think blindly, anxiety, insomnia is inevitable. If it weren't for insomnia, I probably wouldn't have given myself a chance to regain it.
Therefore, no matter how helpless and inferior you feel now, I just want to say to all patients: don't despair, this is just a cross that God has given us to practice, after experiencing it, you will not only get a good night's sleep, but also a leap in life.
Method one, you must give up, in order to get
Don't be reluctant to do something to yourself, and don't be reluctant to give up your own "hotbed", you must first have a sacrifice, and then have a gain. What to give up? Without the perseverance to change, it is difficult to stand. In fact, at the beginning of self-help, when I practiced watching breathing and falling asleep, I always checked whether I was asleep. This is undoubtedly creating trouble for yourself, don't give up that little sleep, to keep even a night without sleep, I just feel breathing, always remind myself that only this determination to open up can change the foundation.
Method two: Let go of the heart of taking shortcuts
Have you ever been moved and spent money advocating lessons that will help you achieve financial freedom? Don't pin this hope on it, Ma Yun doesn't dare to boast about Haikou like this. If the teacher in the class can achieve financial freedom, it is probably not the course content, but the cutting of leeks - charging your tuition.
Shortcuts are the worst! I mentioned at the beginning that I always wanted to use external forces to help myself get rid of change, lying there waiting to be cured, and the passive psychology was actually the manifestation of inertia, fantasizing about the elixir and transforming overnight. When I was on the road to self-help and rehabilitation, I really understood: although it was painful, I lived a very real life!
Method 3: Insomnia self-help training - observation method
Insomnia, not only the four words "loss of sleep", what you lose is the control of the brain, and the brain melon seed has not listened to the call. At this time, we need to focus on the breathing of the nostrils, just observe the breathing and inhalation at the nostrils, ignore any judgment, thinking, association, continue, the mind will automatically relax and calm, and the body will naturally fall asleep when needed.
Finally, I recommend that insomnia patients go to see the two books "You are your own psychiatrist" and "Emotional Self-Help", on the basis of understanding sleep, change the bad cognition of sleep, with the help of practical methods in the book, learn to deal with the psychological strategy of insomnia, and restore the ability to sleep when you want to sleep!