My name is Zhao Chen, is a boy from the countryside, although my family is relatively ordinary, but with my own efforts and serious attitude, I was admitted to a very good university, after graduation also returned to our hometown near the city, became the business director of a company.
I usually have a good temper, treat people very gently, and very polite, others are asking me for things, I will be very patient and responsible to help each other, so I am very popular with girls. At this time, my wife Wang Lihua came into my sight. He is an only child in the city where I work. Although I don't care much about my wife's family background, I am also very happy to be able to marry a wife who has no burden and is also a girl I like.
The two of us spent a year and a half together. Then we got married, but Wang Lihua and I made a request, that is, after we got married, we would not live with our parents. But buying a house is not an easy task. Therefore, after I had a serious conversation with my future parents-in-law, my parents-in-law were very enlightened, and did not care about me asking for three gold and a bride price, but promised me to save all the money for the future purchase of a house.
We originally rented an apartment near our office. After getting married, I didn't buy a house, but the transportation was convenient, but my parents were not happy, they thought that their son and daughter-in-law did not go home to live, it was a faceless thing, especially in the city near their hometown. Then it is more important to go home and live.
I think what my parents said makes more sense. But my wife didn't want to, and she said she didn't want to live with my parents because my parents were strangers and it was because I knew them. If I let her live with my parents, it would be very inconvenient and awkward.
But I tried my best to persuade Wang Lihua that because she went home to live, she could save less rent and save more money. Be able to buy a house as soon as possible. So this reason was reluctantly moved by my wife, and she went back to our hometown with me to live in a company from our house to where the two of us worked. It takes about an hour to drive. Running back and forth every day, there was a lot of delay on the road.
After living together, I felt very good because we went to work Monday to Friday and when we got home, our parents had already prepared the meals. It's just that my parents are older and want us to be able to take care of other chores at home, such as cleaning and so on.
Our house has a two-story self-built building and a vegetable garden in the backyard. So my wife and I would clean up every weekend and clean up the vegetable garden behind, but when I was doing these things, my mother would let me do other things, such as reading books and learning new business experiences. My mother said that men do big things and should not waste time on housework, and I think so, because of my hard work, I have achieved today's achievements. So I followed my mother's words.
But She didn't expect Wang Lihua to be unhappy, saying that she grew up in the city and never did these jobs. And although he said that he went home and ate the meals cooked by his parents, he would also give his parents some living expenses every month. And some of the milk, soybean oil, etc. that the company sent to my parents were also given to my parents. Why did he have to do the housework alone?
After a year of so noisy and noisy, by the time the two of us issued the year-end bonus, plus the savings saved by saving money, we finally made enough of the down payment on the house in the city. Wang Lihua was very happy and said that she could finally move to the city to live, but after my parents knew, they said that they wanted to go to the city with us to live, because the tradition of our hometown is that parents should be with their sons, otherwise they will be looked down upon by neighbors.
I thought about it, it is indeed such a reason, our family is surrounded by old people living with their sons. I am also an only child, how can I let go of my parents? But I did promise my wife to go out and live alone with him, so what can I do?
I was really depressed for a while, and I wanted my wife to understand me and accept my parents. After all, it's good to live with your parents. Come home with hot meals to eat. But my wife said that every day after eating, I could lie down on the couch and rest, but she had to wash the dishes of the big family. He was also tired after a day at work, and he wanted to rest, and he didn't want to do so much housework.
Finally the two of us. When the quarrel broke out, neither of them could convince the other, and I felt that he looked down on my rural parents. But she said that I was unreasonable, and even went directly back to my mother's house.
Later, when my father was celebrating his sixtieth birthday, my father-in-law was hospitalized because of illness, and my wife stayed in the hospital to take care of him, and did not go home to attend my father's birthday party. In our village, the sixtieth birthday is very important, and the juniors should be present, otherwise the parents will not be able to lift their heads.
But I said that my wife did not come back to the birthday party, but only gave a red envelope of 3,000 yuan. My father was very angry, and later scolded my wife fiercely, and I also felt that my wife was very excessive, after all, my father-in-law was sick and could ask a nurse to take care of it, but my father's birthday party was only once.
So after I argued with my wife, I gave her an ultimatum, either divorce or buy a house, and then live with my parents, and then filial piety to them in the future, so that they will not be angry again. As a result, I did not expect that my wife really chose to divorce, she said that she did not want to live with my parents, and the long pain was not as good as the short pain.
After the divorce, Wang Lihua went to work for another company, where she met another man and got married after about a year. And I heard that they bought a new house in the city and are doing very well at the moment.
Ex-wives and new in-laws are near their new house. Bought a small apartment. Not far away, you can take care of each other, but life does not disturb each other. On the other hand, I myself have also pursued new girls in the company during the year, and some people have introduced blind dates to me, but when I heard that I was going to live with my parents, I quit.
My ex-wife is about to have children, and I'm still alone, but am I doing it wrong? The Chinese tradition is like this, is it not normal for a son to live with his parents and prevent old age? I still can't figure out why.