After talking with my girlfriend for three years, I met some questions and wanted to ask netizens what they thought, can I get married?
First introduce yourself, recently the family was demolished, left some money, plus in the past two years of stable work to save dozens of themselves, probably can take a total of one hundred and thirty or forty looks, used as a marriage. Because I have forty pre-tax in a year, 92 years, anyway, it is very difficult, are poor families, it can be said that in order to get rid of poverty, in order to pull up a little class, really step by step, their own housework to make money is OK, but also more honest, six o'clock a shift to rush home the kind ... He is quite white and calm, a meter and eight tall, looks ordinary, weighs one hundred and fifty or sixty pounds, anyway, the figure is also ordinary.
Then I met my partner online, and after three years together, there were a lot of fundamental disagreements in the process of getting along:
1, eating habits are very different, in the family I formed, I can never accept her kind of instant noodles, barbecue, snail powder, dumpling buns. I want my children to eat four dishes and one soup, a hearty meal.
2, her mother, that is, the person in charge of her family, and my great disagreement, originally I had a very good relationship with her mother, because she was sometimes willful, in order to avoid her own responsibilities, she would fabricate that I was not good for no reason, push some stupid things she did, bad things to me or my family, say more will distort her mother's view of me, and gradually stop standing on my side to preside over justice, and is constantly vicious circle.
3, the lifestyle of the extremely uncoordinated, she likes to be constantly in a variety of trivialities, stemming from many objective reasons of its original family, anyway, every day is not the brother to buy hamsters, or the sister to open a small shop, and I am in a piece like this, back to the hometown is more intense, anyway, every day chicken and dog fragments, she can almost from morning to night, is a whole day can not find her people, once because of this almost direct breakup, now still so. Now even her own work, our relationship is frozen, she is blind, anyway, about our little family things are not concerned, and I like the stickiness of the two-person world, is very fond of the intimate interaction between two people, this appeal she will never be able to meet in the future.
4, the great difference in the concept of love, what I expect is to support each other, when you are at a low point, I take you, when I am low, you take me. In the past two years, I have slowly taught her the way I have traveled, brought her to a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, she has experienced the excitement of the workplace, experienced society, gradually has no interest in me, lazy to pay attention to me, I found her, also asked her, she said that she likes to pursue novelty and adoration all the time.
5, the great difference in the path of life, she has been taking the doctrine of sitting and enjoying its success since she was a child, no matter what she did wrong, there are always parents wiping their butts, such as to the boss, to the elders, to me arbitrarily angry, when the end of the matter did not happen, before the boss was educated, but this inferior root which is so good to remove; such as hoping to buy a job in her hometown of eighteen-line small cities hundreds of thousands, a lifetime of mixing, the sky fell, the parents stood up. What I need is precise calculation of every step of life, strict demands on myself, and responsibility for my actions. She wants to behave the way children do things, and I want to be adults.
6, sexual needs and the life of the couple is extremely incongruous, she hopes to be casual, is erratic; I hope is the time of need, unless it is ready to come to that thing at any time, I want stability.
7, the difference between the north and the south of the customs, the wealth concept of the Yangtze River Delta, the family background is to see the actual money of the family, not how much money the family has, her family is rich, but the money is her brother's and the poor family is no different, this is what everyone knows, she always thinks that her family has money is higher than me, her mother also thinks that my family's reorganization of the family is a very low-level family. In southern culture, since ancient times, they have been re-employed as concubines and married as wives, and she also hinted to me last night that her so-called "good family" was going to take away 20 dowry money from my family and return it to her parents.
8, aesthetic differences, she believes that above the head is beauty, is the value of the face; I pay more attention to the head below, is the body skin. She evaluates beauty based on the effect of the photo (the dress + makeup of the internet celebrity), and I pay more attention to the overall beauty of the plain face and the simple dress. Mainly makeup + beauty, Feng Jie can also become Lin Zhiling after taking photos, and pull me to appreciate her photos every day.
Let's help me see, can I get married like this?