I remember seeing a news on TV before: a mother raised her son with hard work, and her son soon had a job after graduating from college.
However, he quit his job every month, always complaining about the heavy workload, getting up early in the morning and working overtime at night, too bitter, too tired, and unable to stand it.
For two years, my son was at home at ease, either playing games on the Internet or spending time in society with his mother's small salary.
In response to his mother's accusations, he said with great vigour: "If you can't feed me for a lifetime, why are you so spoiled to me since childhood?" ”
After the broadcast of this program, many parents fell into deep thought, is there such a potential crisis in their homes?
When we were young, the old people told us: "Small losses do not eat big losses, and small sufferings do not eat and eat big sufferings." ”
That is to say, when a child is a child, it is a good thing to suffer a little and encounter some difficulties. If we are afraid of the child's hardships and assume the child's responsibility, although it avoids the child's crying and entanglement, it deprives the child of the opportunity to cultivate good character and develop self-ability, which is a great harm.
We always say that today's children don't understand things, but we don't know because we protect them too well and don't let them understand things. If you want your child to understand and understand their parents from an early age, they should let their children suffer from an early age, so that they can recognize the suffering of the world, know how to cherish and understand.
Most of today's children are very smart, but most of them have not been able to achieve the expected success, because they lack the willpower and the spirit to persevere.
Childhood and adolescence are the basic stages of life, and it is very important and necessary for parents to consciously create some conditions for their children to carry out hardship education.
"Suffering" is a kind of psychological endurance.
How to make children suffer and what kind of suffering? The following points were collected and summarized and shared with parents.
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Parents should have the awareness of making their children suffer
For example, when a child learns to walk, do not always support her, and parents with a heart can find that children who are always supported by their parents to practice walking take longer to learn to walk than those who practice walking on their own.
When your child is three years old, you have to ask him to help you carry things when you go to the street.
When the child reaches the age of five or six, he will be asked to sweep the floor and wipe the table, and tell him how to save electricity, and teach them to tidy up their room.
Children go to school, tell them some simple safety knowledge, ask them to walk to school by themselves, come back from school, and ask him to save money on stationery.
After school, the child is asked to stop by the vegetable market to buy vegetables in order to reduce the pressure on his parents.
Let the children wash the toilet during the festival and know that smell and dirty are part of life.
Properly let children do both rough and heavy work, knowing that parents need their care.
When children go to middle school, they have to manage their living expenses, and they have so much money that they can only starve if they overspend.
Develop a variety of life skills for children so that they have strong hands-on skills.
When the child is about fifteen years old, he is asked to work at home or outside, exercise himself, contact society, and cultivate the spirit of hardship.
Parents should be willing to let their children suffer these hardships.
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Children should be self-reliant
Cultivate children's independent will from an early age and reduce dependence on others. That is, the child's own affairs, their own responsibility.
At home, independently complete their own life, clean their own room, clean their own belongings, etc., study, think independently, complete independently, and be psychologically independent.
Parents can not replace the child to consider the problem, to the child to think on their own, respect the child's opinions, so that the child can think independently, can have an opinion, so as to lay the foundation for the child's future success.
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Parents take the initiative to suffer with their children
You know, parents who only know how to enjoy it are impossible to raise a child who can "suffer hardships". Therefore, parents can participate in morning runs and participate in sports with their children, such as playing ball together, swimming together, and traveling together, which can increase the opportunity to communicate with children and also let children get exercise. Being able to endure hardship comes from the accumulation of daily life bit by bit, from small things that do not compromise and give in.
For example, the weather is very cold, and the child does not plan to go to kindergarten today. Parents do not accommodate their children and take their children to kindergartens against the cold wind.
The sun is scorching, and it is very tiring to go home at night, and parents and children will go to the shower as usual, instead of falling asleep upside down.
The child and the parents run, and there are more than ten meters to reach the predetermined finish line, and the child gasps and does not want to run again. Parents encourage their children to run to the finish line together.
This pile and piece by piece are exercising and sharpening children, so that they have a strong will quality, so that they can endure hardships. The more we love and care for our children, the more we must strengthen his "hardship" education. Let the child suffer a little and suffer some guilt, which is the real love and responsibility.
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Being able to endure hardship comes from the accumulation of daily life bit by bit
From small things that are not compromised
For example, when the child does not want to get up in the cold winter; when the child is difficult to complete a handicraft; when the child jumps rope to the last moment of exhaustion; when the child is completing the housework and the little friend comes to him to go out to play...
These are all tough occasions for exercise.
At this time, children need the encouragement, inducement and encouragement of their parents and families. Ask your child to persevere in doing what he is doing, and ask him or her to persist in struggling with difficulties.
In fact, the spirit of suffering comes from this last gritted teeth insistence.
For children's hard-working education, we must pay attention to ways and methods, and "tiger mother", "wolf father" and "eagle father" are not enough to learn.
Parents need to assess their children's ability to endure hardships before they can teach hardships; they need to respect their children's wishes without forcing orders; they need to play an exemplary role in practice and not just move their mouths and hands.
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It is necessary to persevere and not to be exposed to ten colds
The long road of life depends on themselves, and the difficulties have to be solved by themselves. One day, they will have to face this society themselves and take on the responsibilities of the family.
Especially the boy, for a future man, hard-working is his foundation, without the spirit of hard-working, he is doomed to face the increasingly competitive social competition.
Let the children suffer a little and suffer a little toss, which is to prepare for their future life journey to go smoothly and smoothly, and to make energy storage momentum. Let them step into the society and fully realize their own value in the stormy life.
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