Yesterday I went to a friend's house to party, a little friend's mother made me very emotional, we often lament that their children are naughty, disobedient, no rules, do not love to eat, but few people reflect on whether the problem is not their own.
We were a family reunion, it was my friend who invited her, and she moved into a new home.
I met another family for the second time, my friend and I are all boys, only the other family is two, her family is a friend's neighbor, the daughter and the friend's son are in a class, the relationship is very good, the two families have a lot of contact.
The little boy of the friend's neighbor's house has a long tiger head, thick eyebrows and big eyes, especially cute, and when they meet, they sweetly call us uncles and aunts, and I especially like him.
Toto is 5 years old, 9 years younger than his sister, a few of us women are helping the cook, the men are gathering on the sofa to chat, the 3 older children play table tennis, the little boy's mother gives him a book, and he reads it alone on the balcony.
The meal was ready, and when we set the table, I found that this child's concentration was particularly good, he had been reading alone, and he had asked his mother to drink water once and go to the toilet once, and the whole time did not interfere with us.
Because my friend's house is two floors, the kitchen is downstairs, we eat on the top floor, the dishes are to be served one by one, and Duoduo is called over early and placed in a seat.
I happened right next to him and I heard him say to my sister, "Sister, I'm hungry." ”
His sister was busy chatting, and I didn't hear him, and I heard him and said to him, "Now what you like to eat on the table, you can eat it first." ”
Look at me more: "Mom said that adults can't eat without chopsticks." ”
I said, "You're a kid, it's okay, you can make an exception." ”
Dodo still shook his head.
At this time, Duoduo's mother came, and I said to her: "Your family is hungry, let's give him some food first, right?" ”
Duoduo's mother said: "Auntie is still busy, can't eat first, children can't do it, wait a little longer!" ”
I tried a few more words, but My mother was very determined, and I had to give up.
In fact, at this time, I was very emotional in my heart, usually participated in a lot of dinners, let hungry children eat first, it seems very common, but this mother is so insistent, the child is also very restrained, really rare.
After a while, the meal began, I noticed a lot of people around me, the whole time I took chopsticks to eat vegetables, my mother did not take care of him at all, he ate all kinds of dishes, not picky at all, and only ate the dishes in front of him, a look at it is very table etiquette.
While clipping a chicken rice flower, he accidentally dropped the chicken rice flower on the ground, and without a word, he climbed down from the chair and picked up the chicken rice flower with his hand.
He asked for a piece of paper and kept rubbing it under the table, and I noticed that he had been wiping it for a while, and I asked him, "What's wrong with you?" ”
I put my pants in ketchup, and now if I don't wipe them clean, it won't be easy to wash my mother's laundry when I go back.
I was directly shocked, how this little baby is so warm.
After eating, the adults drank and chatted, the three older children gathered together on the terrace barbecue, Duo duo took the car to play next to it, played up, and laughed, his mother said: "My son's laughter point is particularly low." ”
Rare party, we played until nearly 12 o'clock, the whole time, Toto is not a playmate, but he reads, plays with toys by himself, does not cry or make trouble, is polite, and his parents do not preach and accuse, that is, at the dinner table adhere to the principle, but this child is a child I have seen zui love.
We parents often complain that our children are difficult to carry, in fact, sometimes we should really reflect on ourselves. Is it too much involvement, too much attention, too much demand.
When my family was a child, we were picky eaters, our whole family had a headache, teenage years old, did not like to eat vegetables, every time he ate, everyone would pay attention to him
I see duoduo's parents, when eating more than a word, do not give him a dish, do not ask him what he wants to eat, from helping his parents to bring the bowl to the bowl after eating and putting the bowl in the kitchen, all of them are more than their own, but Duoduo is not picky, and eats everything a little.
I asked Toto's mother, and Toto's mother said, "What can a child do when he is hungry?" Aren't adults all waiting the same? But eating first is a matter of politeness, the hosts are busy, not on the table, how can guests eat first? ”
In fact, think about it, the current children we raise too expensive, afraid of hunger and freezing, but developed a child can not wait for the bad disease, in fact, hungry for a while, eating will be more fragrant, what is the impact?
It's a pity that I learned this too late, but it's a rewarding day anyway.
